Are there more bottoms than tops out there?
Are there more bottoms than tops out there?
Im a female but thats what it seems to be which really surprises me.
Yes it's true that there are more bottoms than tops. I am a top and so is my husband but we're not that into anal sex or don't do it all the times we have sex.
I'm versatile I enjoy both
I know our local Craigslist m4m ads are at least 19 out of 20- maybe even 49 out of 50- that advertise to do bottom stuff. It surprises me, too. Then again, a guy can easily whack off for orgasm. It's not as easy to find a cock.
I used to follow a bi blog where the guy lamented his local CL ads were all from tops when he wanted bottoms. I commented to him that wasn't my experience and if he wanted bottoms, move to where I live.
My unscientific observation seems to agree with the consensus: more bottoms than tops, by quite a wide margin. And that's also the category I fit into. I would certainly get an erection while playing with another guy, especially while performing oral on him and receiving attention from his mouth or hand in return. But I'm not certain that I could keep it up to do him in the ass.
Odd, though, because I enjoy doing anal on my wife, who loves it. (Which helps me, because as one who likes it in the ass, she can understand why I would want to have one in mine, too -- it feels good!)
I think you all are right. Finding someone to top is not an easy thing to do. You also have to be able to trust that person implicitly. For me the orgasm from being bottom is extremely intense and very different to orgasm either from oral contact, or from being top. The sensations from being penetrated are amazing, whereas the act of penetrating another man is weird to me. I think a lot of people also like taking on the female role of being penetrated during sex.
I am a bottom here, although it's only been with toys. I hope to someday be a nice virgin bottom for a nice guys cock!
like it both ways top or bottom but seems like i top more than bottom these days
I agree with everyone else on here there are a lot more bottoms than tops. I personally prefer to bottom, but can be talked into topping with the right person in the right situation.
I am orally versatile but when it comes to more than oral, I am strictly a top. The problem I run into is I am a relationship kind of guy and it seems like most that are out there are not looking for anything but hit and run.
Certainly among those men who seek out sites like bisexual.com. We are curious about experiencing sex from "the other side." The female side. I love fucking women and am visually turned on by women. But I need to submit to a man and receive his cock into me. I need to go down and milk the semen from his penis.
I have never tried anal sex with men because I am so orally fixated. I know I'll never try bottoming. My 1st wife absolutely loved me to do her anally. We experimented with opening me up (pun intended) to anal pleasure, first with anal beads. The beads felt great to me especially as she pulled them out slowly while sucking me. I came very quickly and explosively. The plan was to step up to her skinny plastic vibrator next, and then to try to take her much larger cock dildo. Then I was going to let a bi male 3some partner of ours (who was a top with a an 8" cock) fuck me when I was "broken in". It never happened. I couldn't even take her skinny vibrator more than an inch & a half maybe 2 inches or so without excruciating pain. I also bled anally for 2 days. I never again entertained the idea of bottoming and never will. I admit I will always be curious as to how it would feel to be fucked by a man. Although I fucked my wife anally many times, it really was not as desirable and pleasurable to me as vaginal penetration or when she would suck me to completion. I enjoyed it because she really got off on it and I wanted to please her. I have never had a great desire to top a man, but I will remain open to it if the right situation occurs with the right guy.
In my suburban Atlanta area, I too notice that there are far more bottom men advertising for tops on all the mm adult sites than there are top men looking for bottoms. If and when I ever try topping a man, I'll know if I like it or not. If I do like it and get off on it, I'll diversify from strictly making out/kissing and oral sex/ I'll then advertise myself on mm sites as an orally versatile top and perhaps help fill the shortage of tops for some of those hungry bottoms (but only after they suck me off first and then get me hard again) LOL
I agree with the observation. I am bottom, but would make ever effort to be versatile in return for man who did me. Hopefully the fewer top men out there will do lots of bottoms and get around to mine also.
Strangely enough it always seems to me that the bottom guys have the bigger cocks than the tops. What's up with that???
Heh that's not always true. My husband and I have large penises and we are not bottoms.Originally Posted by Neonaught
But men who are horse hung who are 9 inches or longer usually are total bottoms.
This is because they have a lot of difficulty getting and staying hard, which is not something that happens if you're hung like my husband and I are, and very few people want to take a man who is horse hung up their ass.
just how hung are you and your husband
We would do very well in porn as hung and thick tops for women or men; but we have to enter into a man's ass or woman's pussy very slowly.
you did not say what size you areWe would do very well in porn as hung and thick tops for women or men; but we have to enter into a man's ass or woman's pussy very slowly.
LOL I agree with your observation totally. I always think what a waste and that it is Gods joke to put such perfect tools in men that would rather not use them. I also think its funny that many men that are bottoms feature cock pictures on their profiles when they are bottoms.
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sounds familiar to me. Have had buddies that have beautiful Big Cocks that are supposed to be versatile but just want to be bottoms and the few times I have convinced them to be tops have been short and disappointing.
Your comments brought back memories. Did meet a nice guy that had an actual screen name that was Horse Hung. We chatted a lot before we met and his chat was always a crying lament that nobody wanted to take his cock cause it was sooo big. At the time I thought it was just internet BS and measurements. That is until I promised to give it my full effort for him and we actually met. He left quite an impression on me.
I may be wrong on this, but my theory - based on my own curiosity - assumes that the reason so many of us guys - particularly the ones who've only known straight sex - call themselves "bottoms" is because we already know what it's like to be the one doing the penetrating, and would like to experience being the one getting penetrated. It isn't that we wouldn't return the favor if it was desired, but we really like the idea of being the one getting filled, rather than the one doing the filling, since we already know what that's like.
...most definitely...
kinda agree.......to me the point of exploring gay sex is to be in the role u haven't been in. with experiance i might change my opinion.
Exactly. I have had no desire to top a guy. For me, the attraction of gay sex is being taken like a girl for the guy's satisfaction and making him cum in my ass (safely, unfortunately) or mouth. And best, my wife gets super turned on by it, so I can ravage her and sometimes DP her with the other guy. I consider myself a very lucky guy, LOL!
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Nope, I'm not. But you'll never get my large dick, or my husband's. Dream on...it's never going to happen.
Then i must be in heavan being a top
Maybe its a submissive issue? Not sure, I enjoy being penetrated, oral and anal, and of course getting my partner to cum
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