bisexual only after having watched porno?

[Franz007]

Hi to all

First, sorry about my english that isn't perfect.

I'm a 42y old man and i would call me a bisexual. But i observed that i only become lust for a dick after having watched pornos. In my "real" life of every day i dont even feel attracted to men for example in the wardrobe by taking a shower with other men. It just doesn't interest me because i feel myself only attracted to women during my social life. But when i watch pornos it's like i would become another person and i want to be the girl. That means: i want a dick in my mouth and being fucked

I have a huge amount of real experiences (most of the time in gay-bathrooms or clubs) with more than 200 men. But when i tried to date some men via Internet, i lost the interest when i come back from my work (= real life). If i dont watch pornos before i have absolutely no interest at all in men but only into women.

I would be curious to know if other men have the same kind of attractions to men (or i should say dicks...) only after having watched pornos, for example shemale pornos or having read about an exciting gay-story? In such moments i often tranform myself into a cock-craving slut (sorry for the direct words) but it's really the way it happens! I then need a cock and cum in or on me.

I'm asking that because it's not easy to deal with it when i am searching for a girl. Because sometimes i lost the interest in a girl, when i'm back home and watch pornos. I become like a gay then. That's pretty weird...

Cheers
Franz

[LennyC]

I have to say that I really didn't start having these urges until I started watching gay and transsexual porn.

[charles-smythe]

…actually I’d never watched porn until after I realized I was bi & started sucking dicks…

[Franz007]

I have to say that I really didn't start having these urges until I started watching gay and transsexual porn.

ok, that means its like me? And do you have experience as well or is it just a fantasy after you have watched that kind of stuff?

[onesucker4u]

I have been bi since I was 12(trade bj's) . I wanted something in my ass since I was 18. I rarely thought a mans body was attractive till my 30's, and now Im 50 think some young men are gorgeous.I have never felt romantic toward a guy tho, I still want to be married to a woman. I will admit I've become open to alot since watching porn

[cuttin2dachase]

I never watched gay or bi porn until well after I had my 1st sexual experiences with girls and guys. Watching porn alone online or via DVD has never been a habit of mine, but I do very much enjoy watching straight, bi and gay porn with a female or male lover as we prepare to play. It is quite a turn on for me in those circumstances but is in no way a viable substitute for the real thing. I can take it or leave it when I am alone. It's kind of like when I masturbated frequently as a virgin teen. Once I lost my virginity to a woman at age 14, jerking off stopped being fun to me because I'd had a sample of the real thing and nothing else would do. Through 2 marriages and and all my other sexual experiences, masturbation just stopped appealing to me unless a partner was doing it to me. I am a human being currently without a steady girlfriend or boyfriend, so I can't say with a straight face that I never masturbate or masturbate to porn when I am extremely horny. I can say that it is not frequent, though LOL

[pole_smoker]

What exactly is your question? You say how you've been with over 200 men in public bathrooms and sex clubs, and this was long before you watched any sort of porn.

I've seen bisexual, hetero, and gay porn but it was long after I'd started having sex with the same and opposite sexes/genders.

When I watch hetero porn I don't want to "be the girl" I fantasize about fucking her twat or pussy. I'm not too big into squirting, or watching women use dildos or other sex toys but seeing them rub their clit and pussy lips can be hot if it's not fake.

[elian]

Hi Franz,

Do you ever dream/fantacize about men on your own? I have to say that in the normal routine of the day when I see certain other men (or to a lesser degree women) but especially men I think they are friendly, handsome and really want to be affectionate with them.

I guess some folks are voyeurs, in other words, they experience a lot of excitement simply but watching other people pleasure themselves.

Men seem to be fixated on body parts, for example I have never heard a straight man complain about a penis in a porn movie..they see the penis and become aroused anyway because in their mind "penis" = "sex" and they see these men in sexual situations enjoying themselves..

A completely straight man would not have so many partners in a gay bathhouse. I think most straight men would view another man as a very, very ugly woman.

Oh, I see what you are saying - yes - there can be a difference between physical attraction and romantic/emotional attraction. The strict definition of bisexual would be sexual attraction to both genders.

I have more of a romantic attraction, I masturbate too much to have a constant physical attraction..frankly I don't like being controlled by hornomes..when I was a teen I was very horny..and with the right person probably still so.

I guess just like any other person the more chemistry I feel for a person (high level of trust, loving person) the more intimate I want to be with them. I find that bisexual people seem to be attracted to a specific person, rather than a specific set of body parts.

[pole_smoker]

A completely straight man would not have so many partners in a gay bathhouse. I think most straight men would view another man as a very, very ugly woman.

A hetero/straight guy wouldn't get with another man at all for a sex partner, even if he was married or had a GF who wouldn't have sex with him, or another woman wasn't around.

[Franz007]

Thanks for your answers guys!

I will try to explain my feelings better for those who asked.

I had all of my experiences only in situations where i watched pornos first or in a place that had a a porno-cinema or showed that kind of stuff.

That means, that my needs for a man only appear if i am in that kind of situation (-> being "washbrained" by pornos first). During my normal life for example in the office or during being with friends in a social way, i never have thoughs and fantasies about homosex.

But i have some kinds of fantasies for example when i wake up. But then, there are never fantasies about a specific man: its more like dreaming about sucking a cock or being fucked. So its just about the feeling of that sexual act and never about a specific man i would know.

Often i just become horny for cocks after having watched porno-stuff. Only in such cases then i have the need of doing it in real and going out in a gay-bathroom.

I already experienced some situations where a man was interested in me during parties when i was searching for a girl and being in society. Each time i had no intersts about it at all. Even the though about it wasn't make me horny.

In fact I just want to explain that my bisexuality isn't present in my life of every day, but only if i "put "myself into a porno-fantasy-world first.

My question would have been if there where other bisexuals like me who craves cocks only after having consumed porno-movies or -stories that makes them horny about it (and in no other situations).

You're right when you say that a hetero-man would not have that kind of needs and behaviour, even after having watched pornos. That's the reason why - because of the big amount of my real experiences - i have to consider myself being bisexual. It's just a slizzly different way than most of other bisexuals i guess ;-)

In fact i was thinking about searching for a regular sex-friend but since my needs for it completely disappear as soon as i am back to my life of every day, it would be quite difficult to deal with it.

[Cum1st]

If you were seated in a comfortable situation and noticed the man you were facing and conversing with was hard and there was a wet spot on his pants, would you desire to have it? Could you see yourself sucking him off? I would/could, and many others here would too, but not all of us would be turned on by it.


When I was in a once a week relationship, my buddy would come over Thursdays. We would generally watch a hetero porn scene. Then we would get it on. Neither of us absolutely needed the the extra stimulation, especially not me. We were both different as far as the things that turned us on. We both swallowed. Even when he left his load in my ass I would finger it out later and swallow it. Neither of us were turned on by the masculine shape or went for kissing or nipple play. I would cum first because I was still turned on after I did. It would have been less enjoyable for him.



He never sucked or licked my balls, ass, or asshole. He did lick my cum off my abdomen when some of it ended up there as he drooled it on my cock to suck it up a second time. He didn't care to be fucked in the ass, though he did try it. He did like having the things done to him that he didn't like to do. He even pissed for me, but never wanted mine. It was a great relationship.


I guess what I'm saying is that we are all our selfs.

[Franz007]

Thanks Cum1St for your interesting contribution.

I guess it's exactly that the strange thing about it: in 99% of the cases i would not be turned on by the situation you describe. It could perhaps be possible if the guy would communicate with me on a matter that it will make me horny (that means he should be dominant and say things like "i know that you want to suck it" etc.). That could turn me on. But during my "normal" life of every day, seeing what you describe won't turn me on. Of course this is completely different if i would be in a place like a gay-bathroom or club...since i then would have intentionnaly chossen that would actively search for it.

I remember as i was married, we walked sometimes along a river and a place who was known for its gay-nudist beach and men having sex together. We both looked sometimes in that direction, being curious, but i wasn't turned on by that at all because i was in my "social" life. Later, as i was divorced, i went to this place and even sucked a cock in the little forest near that place ;-)

So it's really like if i would press a button "gay" / "hetero".

[tenni]

I am wondering if you are looking for "permission" to explain your same sex attraction?

You mention being attracted to women in your social life. Do you watch cross gender porn and want sex with a woman when you see this porn as well? Does the sight of a cock with a woman also make you want to have sex with men or just women?

What is the difference then? You are always turned on by women and not always by men unless same sex porn is involved. Porn is a trigger to explain...give yourself permission to want sex with another man.

Regardless, you still have sex with another man over and over again. Maybe, same sex porn has become a permission trigger for you? Maybe, you are suppressing your same sex attraction at other times. It is not that you are bisexual when you watch same sex porn as much as turned on by men when you watch same sex porn. You are bisexual regardless of whether you watch porn. You are attracted to men and women. You just need a visual stimulus to get your same sex attraction reeved up.

If same sex porn is a trigger for you, you have chosen not to remove it from your life. Does it really matter then?

[Franz007]

It's interesting what you say. In fact i don't mind at all calling me a bisexual, since i must admit being one if i had so much real experiences already. You're right. I just observe that i have not the same kind of attraction as most of bisexuals.

Even if i give me the permission and want it, i always had problems when organising a date for a certain day: i had to cancel it every time, because i then just wasn't horny when coming back from work and from my "social" life where i always see some attractive women. So it just doesn't match. I would first have to spend some few hours fantasizing and watching gay- or shema-porn to become horny.

And when you write i "supress same sex attraction" i just feel that it isn't like that. Once after my divorce i even tried to become attracted to men in the life of every day. But it didn't work. For a pretty long period of time i didn't want to have something with a girl again (being involved emotionally to avoid problems) and that's why i wanted to go a step further in the homo-world. But as i said it did not work. The attraction was completely gone. So i really don't think that i opress something.

But you're right that i actively search for watching shemale and gay-porn and often hope that i will give me lust to do it in real. So i need that and have accepted it.

So yes i'm bisexual in a special way ;-)

[tenni]

Since you back out of actual meetings because you are not horny for same sex play and you reference the need to have porn to get you aroused enough to have same sex, would you not be just as happy jerking off to same sex porn? Leave in person sex with men out of the picture. That might be a form of fetish.

[pole_smoker]

Since you back out of actual meetings because you are not horny for same sex play and you reference the need to have porn to get you aroused enough to have same sex, would you not be just as happy jerking off to same sex porn? Leave in person sex with men out of the picture. That might be a form of fetish.

Having sex with men even in public bathrooms, through glory holes, or bath houses like the OP likes to do is not a "fetish".

The OP just likes to hook up with random guys in public bathrooms and in bath houses or sex clubs, instead of doing it online like you do Tenni.

[tenni]

Watching porn in the manner that the OP does may be a form of fetish.

Fetish is defined as a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc. or same sex porn. It might depend on how much same sex porn he watches.

The OP refers to not following through on meetings and the same sex porn seems to play a role.

Rule 2 is not being followed well by post 16. We are not here to speculate how anyone hooks up.

[pole_smoker]

Watching porn in the manner that the OP does may be a form of fetish.

Fetish is defined as a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc. or same sex porn. It might depend on how much same sex porn he watches.

The OP refers to not following through on meetings and the same sex porn seems to play a role.

Rule 2 is not being followed well by post 16. We are not here to speculate how anyone hooks up.

Nobody's violating "rule 2" hall monitor. You frequently post how you enjoy hooking up with and being gay and bisexual men's booty calls.

Watching a porn movie even a gay or bisexual porn is not a fetish, and a penis or someone's genitals are not a fetish either. Having sex in public places like a men's bathroom or men's locker room, or bath house or sex club for adult men is not a fetish either.

[Franz007]

Since you back out of actual meetings because you are not horny for same sex play and you reference the need to have porn to get you aroused enough to have same sex, would you not be just as happy jerking off to same sex porn? Leave in person sex with men out of the picture. That might be a form of fetish.

Let's say it's a kind of addiction...that's the way i see it myself. And the way you describe it, is the way it happens most of the time. But from time to time i then need it real and decide on a very spontanuous way to go to a bathroom. I mean: only jerking off to it isn't enough for me.

[tenni]

"You frequently post how you enjoy hooking up with and being gay and bisexual men's booty calls."

More of poles lies and delusional twisting attempt to cyber bully. The fact that he refers to me in these posts rather than the content is violating rule 2. What I do has nothing to do with Pole violating rule 2. (circular logic) or this thread content. His comments are off topic.

I try to ignore his personal attacks and yes I have him on block but check once in awhile. Others hopefully have him on ignore or do not believe any comments coming from him about me. Anyone who has been banned can no longer post..like "drugstore cowboy", "Topfucker" user names etc. I recall those versions of troll (s) tried to cyber bully other members..Cat, Fred, Volty etc. It seems like a pattern of behaviour going back before cyber bullying was identified.

[tenni]

Let's say it's a kind of addiction...that's the way i see it myself. And the way you describe it, is the way it happens most of the time. But from time to time i then need it real and decide on a very spontanuous way to go to a bathroom. I mean: only jerking off to it isn't enough for me.

Yes, you may be correct. It is addiction like or maybe a compulsion to watch such porn. Not everyone who watches porn is compelled to watch. Your situation is interesting. Do you enjoy the in person sex as much or more that the porn? I don't think that it is necessarily a bad thing to watch porn but if you feel that it is interfering in your life, have you tried to stop it? You mention that it is interring with finding a girl friend and so you seem to want to stop watching that type of porn? Do you believe that you need help with this situation?

[NjbiGuy01]

I played with guys in middle school because we were basically horny teens and loved this little "secret club" where we made one another feel good. We never talked about it outside of our basement play zone, and all of us moved on to girlfriends and such. I guess I thought it was a passing fad until I saw bisexual porn and saw a dude fucking a woman on a couch and another guy stepped into the situation and she sucked his cock and then passed it onto her partner. They sucked it individually and together...I suddenly thought "shit yeah !". Most of my play to this day (more than 90%) has been MFM. For me, that's how it works best. I have enjoyed some MM and even MMM, but nothing pleases me as much as having a man and woman in bed and we all please one another whatever way feels good, with no boundaries.

[centillini]

I don't need porn, if a lady wanted to see me suck a cock, I would

[pole_smoker]

"You frequently post how you enjoy hooking up with and being gay and bisexual men's booty calls."

More of poles lies and delusional twisting attempt to cyber bully. The fact that he refers to me in these posts rather than the content is violating rule 2. What I do has nothing to do with Pole violating rule 2. (circular logic) or this thread content. His comments are off topic.

I try to ignore his personal attacks and yes I have him on block but check once in awhile. Others hopefully have him on ignore or do not believe any comments coming from him about me. Anyone who has been banned can no longer post..like "drugstore cowboy", "Topfucker" user names etc. I recall those versions of troll (s) tried to cyber bully other members..Cat, Fred, Volty etc. It seems like a pattern of behaviour going back before cyber bullying was identified.

They're not lies, or delusions about you. It's not "cyber bullying" or violating rule #2 either to post the truth about how you do like to hook up. On this site and in general you do write about hooking up with bi and gay married men being their personal booty call and cum rag. You were banned temporarily for cyber-bullying, stalking, and harassing people on this site, and other people here have posted about how this happened to you.

[Franz007]

Yes, you may be correct. It is addiction like or maybe a compulsion to watch such porn. Not everyone who watches porn is compelled to watch. Your situation is interesting. Do you enjoy the in person sex as much or more that the porn? I don't think that it is necessarily a bad thing to watch porn but if you feel that it is interfering in your life, have you tried to stop it? You mention that it is interring with finding a girl friend and so you seem to want to stop watching that type of porn? Do you believe that you need help with this situation?

In fact i enjoy the real sex with a man if it does it the way i like (that means lets me feel being like the girl in the porno). Thats a huge turn on. But the presence of the man itself isn't turning me on, its only the role i play in the sex act. I observe more and more that having my ass and anus stimulated makes me extremely horny.

It is indeed a little problem for finding or staying with a girl, since i spend a lot of time with my fantasies about that M2M act. But it isnt' a huge problem i guess...i was only a little be worried about that situation because i can observe how my M2M fantasies can sometimes be stronger than thinking about girls i have met.

In fact i juste met a woman on the Internet a few weeks ago. And we had the first sex today. It was the first sex with a girl since 2 years. I was horny about feeling her body and skin but not enough wanting to fuck her...i have also to mention that I don't feel attracted to her body a lot physically talking. I love skinny girls and she isn't really like that. But i really like the way she is as a person and spending time with her. And since we already talked a lot about sex in the past weeks i told her, that i love having my ass stimulated. At the beginning i wasn't horny enough to fuck her....then as she put her fingers on my anus, i became hard immediately and would have dreamt that she had fucked me :-)

So i guess that the main reason of my fantasies about M2M is about feeling something/someone in my ass...but i don't know if it would be enough for me if a girl does it to me. In fact it was the first time a girl was doing that on me;-)

I will obeserve how my fantasies about men/cocks will be in the next few weeks..

[pole_smoker]

In fact i enjoy the real sex with a man if it does it the way i like (that means lets me feel being like the girl in the porno). Thats a huge turn on. But the presence of the man itself isn't turning me on, its only the role i play in the sex act. I observe more and more that having my ass and anus stimulated makes me extremely horny.

It is indeed a little problem for finding or staying with a girl, since i spend a lot of time with my fantasies about that M2M act. But it isnt' a huge problem i guess...i was only a little be worried about that situation because i can observe how my M2M fantasies can sometimes be stronger than thinking about girls i have met.

In fact i juste met a woman on the Internet a few weeks ago. And we had the first sex today. It was the first sex with a girl since 2 years. I was horny about feeling her body and skin but not enough wanting to fuck her...i have also to mention that I don't feel attracted to her body a lot physically talking. I love skinny girls and she isn't really like that. But i really like the way she is as a person and spending time with her. And since we already talked a lot about sex in the past weeks i told her, that i love having my ass stimulated. At the beginning i wasn't horny enough to fuck her....then as she put her fingers on my anus, i became hard immediately and would have dreamt that she had fucked me :-)

So i guess that the main reason of my fantasies about M2M is about feeling something/someone in my ass...but i don't know if it would be enough for me if a girl does it to me. In fact it was the first time a girl was doing that on me;-)

I will obeserve how my fantasies about men/cocks will be in the next few weeks..

If you were not sexually attracted to that woman why did you have sex with her?