Originally Posted by
kikigrace
I am brand new to this site. I am a "mostly straight" woman married to a bi man (for 15 years). I can't give you any help or advice, but I am sharing your question- "How do I know if this is right for us?" My husband has interest in a MMF threesome, but my feeling is that he wants that (more than a FFM threesome, for example) because it gives him a chance to experience sex (again) with a male, while having me included so it is not "cheating". I don't really know if I would want to be there or not. I personally don't have a strong (or even medium) desire to be with another man, but if it is exciting for him I am excited by that. Does that make sense? But I am finding this all pretty confusing. That's why I ended up on this website. My husband is mostly a "top" with me, but a "bottom" with a man. I feel insecure that if we find a bi-man to share this experience with us, will he really be attracted to me as well?
But mostly, I am wondering about this question of "how do we know if it is right for us?" I'd hate to find out after the fact that we can't handle it- because of jealousy issues. We have always kind of agreed that we couldn't handle any kind of "open" or swinging, because of jealousy, but now we are having a shift. I feel like he is missing a side of his sexuality that I can't provide, and I also feel like we are getting older (approaching 50) and this is vanity, but if we are going to do something like this I'd rather do it soon...before I feel "too old" to feel attractive and sexy...
Any advice?
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