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  1. #1

    Is this still a bisexual site?

    What makes this site a bisexual site?

    Most posts are dealing with same sex male mechanics? admiration about cock photos, anal penetration.

    The number of posts from men and women inquiring about their feelings of attraction for both genders is way down or non existent. Little to no threads about any emotional attraction for same gender and opposite gender......little or no threads about confusion over sexuality...........little or no threads about bisexual politics............many threads focusing on giving head techniques....threads about receiving anal sex techniques.

    Has this become a homosexual site where gay men discuss salacious sexual mechanics?
    Last edited by tenni; Mar 16, 2015 at 7:56 AM.

  2. #2

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    tenni,
    I notice this a while back and actually stopped visiting the site for a bit because I felt that I wasn't really getting some of the what I was actually looking for: support for my bisexuality. I live in southern California and I have been looking for a bisexual support or meetup group but have been unsuccessful. I think you are correct when you say that there are little threads about confusion about sexuality, emotional attraction for same/opposite gender and politics. Myself, I would like to learn from others who have begun to "come out" to close family and friends, about being in an "heterosexual" relationship with a bi identity and having your other half know about your bisexuality. For example, I've been in a relationship for almost two years and my girlfriend knows about my bisexuality, but every now and then, I have to remind her that I'm bisexual; why do I feel the need? These are the types of things I would love to learn and would hope to get from this site.

    But you're right. Occasionally when I do visit the site, it merely serves to stimulate the same sex attraction in me.

    ~E

  3. #3

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Good points that I have noticed also but I would like to present a slightly different viewpoint. I am strongly bisexual but current association with the female side of that is basically monogamous in nature. I have a commitment to my wife that is (almost) everything I want in that regard. The (almost) is my feeling of need to have intimate relations with other men (she doesn't have a cock for me to service or interest in anal). But it goes deeper than that.

    I can have intimate conversations with her and find out what she is desiring in attention. There is a closeness and physical contact that is missing with regular relations with other men in my community. To have that level of contact is basically taboo. This site provides an opportunity to see/hear/discuss some of that I can do elsewhere in my 'straight' life. That said, I value the insights from the female/TG members in how to treat the lady as a women and actively look for them. After all, I can apply that with my female lover. I also I'm finding myself drawn to the CD/TG discussions as I want to service my male lovers as best I can and find the effort helping me anticipate my wife's response and what I think may be part of her needs.

    I agree that there seems to be too many articles on cock and ass but I do find the other views (although, admittedly many of those were older posts). And the variations in the struggle to come to grasp with sexual identity and roles are present and valued to me as I see the rich variety in motivations and response.

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Maybe most here just feel some of the old topics have been discussed to death? And perhaps not much in the way of new members to ask those questions over again?

  5. #5

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Tenni,

    I've noticed a steady decline in the overall quality of this site. So much so, that I will not be renewing my paid membership. This is a very disappointing turn of events.
    "Remember; if you can't resolve your conflicts with the power of the word...hit them with your laptop!"--© 1998 J.E. Benedict

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Wudn't like to say just what the site has become.. a bit of a pointless mess largely due to owner absence and disinterest for whatever reason.. seems .com is being left to wither and die.. but it has always been more of a male site.. even more so now. It is a waste... and I fear a terminal and interminable one which no longer has any point except to allow certain types of guys to do their thing, whatever that happens 2 b, pointlessly... it long since lost its claim to being bisexual or indeed very much else.. gay? Hardly.. that would mean spreading round some joy whichever meaning of the word we employ.. it has been some while since any of that did the rounds on site..
    Last edited by darkeyes; Mar 16, 2015 at 1:00 PM.
    Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you.

  7. #7
    Coastocoast
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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Yes it seems like the site has become a forum for posting gay porn and asking 40 versions of the same question. Also three are many discussions which we all see are people talking to themselves through multiple accounts owned by the same person, most of those acccounts appeared after the owner's departure. It is a shame but this is the current reality. I would love to hear Drew's comments on the subject.

  8. #8

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    I guess a certain group of people want to vent their pent up frustrations and desires.

    On the opposite end of the spectrum I also participate on another low-traffic bisexuality support site and many folks there are dealing with questions about to whom and how do I come out?, I think I might be?, Can I be monogamous or not? I -really- like my best friend/co-worker should I tell?, My spouse is bi and I have fears about whether or not he/she still still find me attractive? etc. I absolutely have sympathy and empathy for those folks but I wonder how many times I can give the same advice over and over again? It's almost like someone should compile the most frequent advice and create a bisexuality FAQ. I will still participate on that site though because I believe everybody deserves to know that they are not alone, that they are worthy, that their feelings matter and are real.

    I actually was ready to be angry at pole smoker over a few of the one liners in his recent post (since I droned on for five paragraphs) but then I realized that one of his matter of fact comments made me stop and really think about how I felt. I worked through an issue that had been stopping me before without even realizing it. I admit that maybe this isn't the site for a public therapy session but without it, I would have still been hurting even more.

    There are a lot of male-centric and gay-themed threads on the site, and to the extent that I think men feel ashamed of same-sex attraction and maybe want to vent and have support for that aspect of their identity well okay ...but after the 12th - do you spit or swallow? Do you like cock or pussy? ..and all of the other fetishes I can't think of right now..it kind of gets old.

    I think a certain group of folks loves venting about those desires..and to some extent they read the threads and get off at least mentally if not physically. Sadly, that makes this site a lot less "family" oriented than it used to be.

    At one point there was a real sense of community - so much so that people would bitch about not being able to find hook-ups. Constant bickering probably drove the "family" part away.

    Good chance I suspect what you are seeing is probably what used to be a lot of private chat traffic transmute itself into something public through the forums.
    Last edited by elian; Mar 16, 2015 at 4:47 PM.

  9. #9

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    as a new member i can't really comment on the site in general.

    my only view would be that the site acts as a place for guys to discuss same sex feelings, so naturally the majority of topics will revolve around talking about sucking cock - which eventually will result in the site being flooded with homosexual content.

    would be nice to see more of a mixture of threads - straight and gay

    for example, im into tattoos and love to see girls covered in tats


  10. #10

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Agree -- I have very little interest in this site anymore, haven't been here in a couple of months. May as well close it down because it's on the slippery slope away from bisexual issues, contacts, stories, etc and into the male gay thing.

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Thanks for sharing andeep, I have always admired the physical form of both (or maybe I should say "all" since transgender folks who are transitioning also have their own form)

    I love that people can talk about things very openly here, but it is also a double-edged sort of thing. Maybe we -should- start our own bisexual FAQ. The other thing that might've solved some of the issue would be to divide the public forum into subforums for different interests - like the top 10 or 20 issues that people like to talk about - pin some of the obviously bisexual ones.

    You are dealing with issues of social norms, gender roles, sexuality, relationships, physical and psychological gender identity, physical/mental/spiritual health - it is bound to attract a mixture of different types of folks. I've never felt a strong desire to exclude anyone unless they were being downright abusive. On other sites, even when I have a conversation with someone who does not believe in LGBT rights, we usually all benefit from the conversation, unless it degenerates into name calling.

    -- Or maybe you aren't, maybe you're just coming here to get off. I understand about wanting to feel pleasure .. it's a shame when somebody really does need help though that they get drowned out by the fetish threads or two members bickering back and forth with each other. For my part, maybe the best thing to do is to stick to answering the original poster's question..

    On a more serious note, I would like to give (hugs) to Drew - I don't know what he is facing but everyone deserves (nuzzles) and (hugs) right?
    Last edited by elian; Mar 16, 2015 at 5:52 PM.

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Also, I don't think it helps restricting the forum to just one section (Main Forum), where EVERYTHING gets posted.

    Opening the site up to different sections and topics might get people talking more.

  13. #13

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    I have found this site helpful and interesting. I'm a married guy that on occasion likes to suck cock and pretend I'm a woman, which is, I believe, nothing more than a sexual lust I have (fetish?). I'm not into men or have the desire to be in a relationship with one.... if trapped on an island with only one other person I would choose a hot chick.

  14. #14

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by andeep View Post
    as a new member i can't really comment on the site in general.

    my only view would be that the site acts as a place for guys to discuss same sex feelings, so naturally the majority of topics will revolve around talking about sucking cock - which eventually will result in the site being flooded with homosexual content.

    would be nice to see more of a mixture of threads - straight and gay

    for example, im into tattoos and love to see girls covered in tats

    wish I was into tattoos, otherwise I am a freak for redheads and you are one smoking hot redhead

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by darkeyes View Post
    Wudn't like to say just what the site has become.. a bit of a pointless mess largely due to owner absence and disinterest for whatever reason.. seems .com is being left to wither and die.. but it has always been more of a male site.. even more so now. It is a waste... and I fear a terminal and interminable one which no longer has any point except to allow certain types of guys to do their thing, whatever that happens 2 b, pointlessly... it long since lost its claim to being bisexual or indeed very much else.. gay? Hardly.. that would mean spreading round some joy whichever meaning of the word we employ.. it has been some while since any of that did the rounds on site..
    Fran, dear, I'll not say a word against what you've posted here.

    But I recall a post I made, mmm, a year or two ago maybe, where I noted that your post-count was approaching 10,000. I posited several possible outcomes of such a rollover. One, I believe was that it would break the site. I believe your response to the thought that you post-count would reach 10,000 was something like "trust me, it'll nevah happen, babes."

    Now I look at your post-count of 10,016 and say damn...apparently I called it on the nose. For my own part, I swear, it was only meant as a joke!

    But humor aside, yeah..."left to wither and die" seems to be exactly right. There was once a site called "bisexual.org" that hosted a chat room (I think, actually, that the site still exists, but is more of a tribute to Klein now, and does not host a chat room). There was a close-knit little group of us who "lived" there and enjoyed that space. (It's where I originally met Fran, for that matter, although she was not a regular there.) It was a great little space, although strange. There was no membership, there were no profiles, and there was no forum...you just went in and chatted. In December 2006, that chat room met its demise, except for a defunct copy left floating in cyberspace, which eventually disappeared as well. Much of our group, clinging to bits of e-flotsam, washed up on the shores of this site, and made a new home here. It has been increasingly clear that this site has now met the same space. A number of us (some even from the bisexual.org group) have moved on to yet another space...and the community that once existed here is mostly disbanded. I still keep a few of my things in a drawer in my profile here that I'm reluctant to completely clean out and abandon; and I still have 2 bottles of decent Scotch whisky and a bottle of good martini gin in the chatroom's bar (not to mention a towel with some sentimental value that I left near the hottub in chat)...much as I'd like those things back, I doubt I'll ever recover them.

    Unless this site makes an extraordinary phoenix-like recovery, I'm afraid it has only to die the real death. May it rest in peace when it reaches that point.
    I hope my achievements in life shall be these: that I will have fought for what was right and fair, that I will have risked for that which mattered, that I will have given help to those who were in need...that I will have left the earth a better place for what I've done and who I've been. (C. Hoppe)

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    I remember well making that comment.. meant it too but the best laid plans, hey? They gang aft a-gley for the fairer sex 2..
    Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you.

  17. #17

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    This site without a chat feature has been left to die on the vine. I rarely stop by anymore having found a better sites to go to.
    A true Bi sex site is hard to find as they seem to be all linked together.

  18. #18

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    This site is a shadow of its former self, I barely comment on threads & increasingly don't even bother to come here any more. Way too many of the threads could have been started by school kids, with their juvenile tone.

    If someone can recommend a decent bi focused free site, do share. I keep meaning to remove myself from here. It's almost time to turn the lights out now.

  19. #19

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by andeep View Post
    as a new member i can't really comment on the site in general.

    my only view would be that the site acts as a place for guys to discuss same sex feelings, so naturally the majority of topics will revolve around talking about sucking cock - which eventually will result in the site being flooded with homosexual content.

    would be nice to see more of a mixture of threads - straight and gay

    for example, im into tattoos and love to see girls covered in tats

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by CALL4ME View Post
    Agree -- I have very little interest in this site anymore, haven't been here in a couple of months. May as well close it down because it's on the slippery slope away from bisexual issues, contacts, stories, etc and into the male gay thing.
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    ...have you tried posting n the direction you think board should go?...if you don't like other posts start your own thread...others will follow...

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by andeep View Post
    Also, I don't think it helps restricting the forum to just one section (Main Forum), where EVERYTHING gets posted.

    Opening the site up to different sections and topics might get people talking more.
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    ...I agree...I think there should be a story section...
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  22. #22

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by sopitup View Post
    wish I was into tattoos, otherwise I am a freak for redheads and you are one smoking hot redhead
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  23. #23

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    ..an eight pack of wieners - (! giggles/smiles) - err, umm - now, what were we talking about?

  24. #24

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    i really like where this board seems to be going lately

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Well, it looks like for some if you post a nude female as opposed to a nude male or cock, that makes this a bisexual site? I think that is a rather base form but it has some validity.

    Andeep post 12
    I think that sections can be made using the group idea at the bottom of the front page. I don't bother checking them out and perhaps you are the same. A few years back there was a revision of the site.

    Sysper post 24
    What direction do you see the site going? You have been member for a little under a year. How has it changed in your view?

    I agree with the posters who state that if you want the site to go in a direction that you should post that way. Sadly, some have created what others see as juvenile repetitive posts that really have little to do with bisexuality.

    We had someone who has been a member for awhile post about his on going conflict over his bisexuality. Few responded. I guess the posters who care about that issue have left the site.

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

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    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by tenni View Post
    We had someone who has been a member for awhile post about his on going conflict over his bisexuality. Few responded. I guess the posters who care about that issue have left the site.
    It's true, tenni.

    I give lots of support to people struggling with their sexuality (both "thought I was straight, but now I don't know what I am" and "thought I was gay, but now I don't know what I am")...but I do so on another site. I rarely check in here, and when I see someone in a struggle, my first thought is "ok, you need to get yourself to a real site...here you'll not find what you need"...but I also don't find it to be my place to say that outright...I figure anything I say here that they may find valuable will get drowned out in the throng of voices spewing what I consider to be trash and nonsense. I just don't have the energy to fight that fight here, really.

    So those whose stated intent is to shut down this site (I have actually heard that from members here, btw) can be proud of their pathetic selves. This site is dying; it's only a matter of time. But they'll not stop the community that once throve here from thriving elsewhere; nor will they stop sites from providing support as this site once did.
    I hope my achievements in life shall be these: that I will have fought for what was right and fair, that I will have risked for that which mattered, that I will have given help to those who were in need...that I will have left the earth a better place for what I've done and who I've been. (C. Hoppe)

  29. #29

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    Quote Originally Posted by tenni View Post
    Well, it looks like for some if you post a nude female as opposed to a nude male or cock, that makes this a bisexual site? I think that is a rather base form but it has some validity.

    Andeep post 12
    I think that sections can be made using the group idea at the bottom of the front page. I don't bother checking them out and perhaps you are the same. A few years back there was a revision of the site.

    Sysper post 24
    What direction do you see the site going? You have been member for a little under a year. How has it changed in your view?

    I agree with the posters who state that if you want the site to go in a direction that you should post that way. Sadly, some have created what others see as juvenile repetitive posts that really have little to do with bisexuality.

    We had someone who has been a member for awhile post about his on going conflict over his bisexuality. Few responded. I guess the posters who care about that issue have left the site.
    i didn't mean the whole site just this thread especially some of the pix

  30. #30

    Re: Is this still a bisexual site?

    I miss your sage logic Annika. You didn't always post but all of your posts reflected a wonderful intelligent woman was commenting. You are probably correct. I can recall being on a gay site(never knew a bi site). There was a different type of community but not what is going on now on this site. Even that gay site had more soul than this site presently. Predictions of the site vanishing are increasing. You are correct that the site is turing to trash.

    sysper
    Thanks for clarifying. I guess that you meant that you are enjoying nude photos. Is that what draws you too this site?

    The question was whether this was still a bisexual site? It certainly is not what it use to be. It use to be a site that on the positive side discussed bisexuality without even showing genitals...or if they were shown such images were not excessive. People wrote their thoughts and argued their positions. Some sought help in understanding their sexuality. Polls dealt with issues and questions not anatomy. People (mostly men) who have joined over the past year or so, have no understanding of the values and standards that existed. It has never been a perfect site. Some have gone to a site that still has a chat and that seems to meet their needs. That site has or doesn't seem to have even the level of a forum that still exists here.

    This certainly is not a bisexual site beyond graphic discourse on same sex acts with the odd reference to female anatomy.
    Last edited by tenni; Mar 18, 2015 at 11:14 PM.

 

 

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