To guys and girls alike, what was the point in your life that you knew you were bisexual? I had an early experience with same sex best friend when younger but the awareness of being bi did not hit me until my early 20's after have some opposite sex experiences.
Not until my 40's...
So much wasted...
My first bi experience was at age 13, a friend and I gave mutual blowjobs to completion. After that I didn't think about it much until I was well into my 20's. I was in the Navy and deployed aboard the ship, I was showering and saw a black guy who was hung nearly to his knees and all those feelings came back in a rush. I was instantly hard as a rock and what I really wanted to do was suck his cock. I had to quell those urges as at the time, that behavior would get you swiftly kicked out. A couple of years later I was honorably discharged and recently divorced, I went to a local gay bar and found a positively beautiful transgendered biracial girl and had an affair that lasted nearly 6 months. I knew inwardly that I was bisexual from the moment I saw that black guy in the shower aboard the ship though. That urge was too strong to deny, and far too tempting to let pass.
Nothing dramatic. I was 16, and one day I realized hey, y'know I actually find certain guys *and* certain women hot...now that I stop and think about it, I could see myself falling in love with either. Huh, I guess whichever happens'll happen.
I hope my achievements in life shall be these: that I will have fought for what was right and fair, that I will have risked for that which mattered, that I will have given help to those who were in need...that I will have left the earth a better place for what I've done and who I've been. (C. Hoppe)
I must also add that while having sex with women I would find myself fantasizing about guys. Of course there were a lot of time while having sex with women as was also in the moment. Sounds like most of us were getting the urges early on
When my wife (at the time) had me rent a gay video and we both came within minutes! Then about a year later, she watched me suck my first cock! All this in my late 40's - early 50's.
That's how it was for me as well.Originally Posted by Annika L
And you think you are different from many other men???lol. Done this my whole life.
First,God created man, then woman, then temptation,then confusion
My awareness came in my teens around 14 or 15.... I played with a bunch of jocks in middle school. We would get together and do homework (which we shared to save time) and then watch porn and jerk off. Mikes parents both worked in NYC and left early and returned late...so we had the house to ourselves till 7.30 or 8.00.....I would call home and say "I'm eating at Mikes"........ One day me and my friend Mike were alone watching porn in his dark basement. Flikering old super-8 stuff his dad had down there in a closet.... A gal was sucking a dude, and he said "man it must feel great to get your dick sucked"...I said "i bet it does"...he said he would suck me if I sucked him, and the rest is history. We got together more times alone without the other guys. We took showers together, eventually ending up in his parents bed playing with their toys and lube, fucking, sucking, and so forth. We both had girlfriends and didn't consider ourselves gay. We were just so horny we enjoyed expanding our sexual horizons in a different way...most of the gals we dated were not into anal anyway. I met an older couple around 19. They were in their early 50's and were swingers...I ended up playing with them for a long summer....Eventually around 20 I got a girlfriend who wanted to try two men. We smoked some 420, and drank some wine, ending up in bed together...she was sucking him with her head hanging off the bed as I fucked her...she eventually offered me his cock and said "I want to see you suck him !!!" and I did....she came like a fountain (so did he), and we played for a year or so steady. The guys fucked, the gal got DP'ed and sometimes just sat back with her vibrator watching he and I play....fun time. Eventually I just accepted my bisexuality and swung with mostly couples and the occasional dude I found attractive.....still love it.
Never really thought about it when I was in elementary school and a friend and I used to suck each others dicks. We just knew we didn't want to get caught and that it felt good. Late teens up to mid- 20s I was generally in denial. I'd do some m2m- usually under the influence- then be all embarrassed the next day and kept telling myself I wasn't queer.
It was in my mid- 30s when I accepted being a bisexual and became almost proud of it. A queer picked me up at a motel when I was staying out of town. Had a hot session and next day was the first time I wasn't embarrassed about what I'd done. The first time I admitted it was fun, I enjoyed it and would do it again. I believe I even told myself I was bisexual.
I lost my virginity to a 21 yr old college girl when I was 14. Then, a year later when I was 15 I was camping out with a 17 yr old neighborhood bud on a hot summer night. We had a few beers as we looked at his Dad's Playboy mags and he talked me first into jacking off with him, then into us jacking each other. We stroked each other off and went to sleep on top of our sleeping bags. Later I awoke to feel his mouth licking, slurping and sucking my cock, but I faked sleep and let him suck me to completion even thrusting and moaning a few times. It was weird, although enjoyable, but I was girl crazy and quickly blew it off (no pun intended) and forgot about it. He never knew that I knew he'd blown me.
Fast forward 17 years. I'm 32 and 1st wife and I have a wild sex life which includes swinging with couples and men. She would make out and have mutual oral sex with other women to get the guys turned on. She would often complain that it was not fair that men were too macho to put on a similar show for women. She kept talking about how it would turn her on very much to see me have oral sex with other men. It was then that I remembered being sucked off years ago by my male bud. I told her about it and how it hadn't been a big deal to me at the time. She became very excited and asked if I had sucked him off as well. I told her I hadn't and henceforth she coaxed and encouraged me to try it for her. I thrilled at watching her and double teaming her with other men and she wanted the same thrill. The more I thought about it, the more I was turned on by the idea. I promised her I'd try it for her, but only if another guy initated it by sucking me first. It happened during a 4some with a couple we'd met twice before. I didn't know he was bi, but wife knew from girl talk with his wife that he wanted to suck me but was not sure I'd go for it. They basically set me up. As he and I were watching the gals make out, he reached over and began to stroke my already erect cock. I took his cue and played with his cock too. After a minute or so he went down on me. The girls stopped to watch. Remembering my promise to wifey and also not wanting to cum before playing with both girls, I stopped him and had him lie back. I was surprised at how turned on I was as I took a cock in my mouth for the 1st time. I know it sounds like a bi guy cliche, but I was hooked on cock from that moment on. That was my personal bi awakening. It felt so natural to me to be with a man and I felt liberated, with no guilt or shame. Wifey never had to coax me to suck cock again LOL Our swing focus shifted from couples to bi men from then on. They were easier to meet than couples and the taboo nature of mm sex mixed with mfm and mf sex was electrifying for us both.
1955, age 13, I got and gave my first blow job with friend Jim and we continued that until moving away in different directions in 1964. All during that time I told myself that cock sucking was just a substitute for the "real thing" just like jacking off. When I was 29 I had a female lover who told me she thought a male coworker had eyes for me and asked me to find out for sure. I did, she was right and, once again I was happily sucking cock with the realization, finally, that I liked both pussy and cock and I've been enjoying both ever since.
I started when I was about 9 yrs old on overnight sleepovers. This continued until he moved to another state. We would suck each other because ir felt good before we knew any thing about ejaculation or what a queer was. I came for the 1st time when he was playing with my dick while under the covers. I told a new neighbor about what we used to do and he told me how his older female cousin would suck him off. Aftet telling him of my experiences he wanted me to suck him. He told me to go up and down when I had him in my mouth. I got my first taste of cum when I was 12 or 13 and I have liked it since. After that I didn't suck another cock for 20 yrs after I had been married for 10 yrs. The men I used to suck have either died or moved to another state. In my 30s and 40s I sucked a few men that I met in bars when working out of town. I don't go to bars anymore and I have to account for my time for my wife so I'm just an unsucking cock sucking old man. There should be a secret society old bastard cock suckers in every city.
Last edited by littlepeter; Sep 17, 2014 at 12:39 AM.
I realized I was bisexual at 50...
I always was interested but really enjoyed my first bisexual experiences in college
I believe some of you are mistakenly thinking that what was an actual homosexual experience, was a bisexual one.
In my mind (correct me if I'm wrong) a relationship, or sexual encounter, with a person of the same gender is homosexual.
A sexual encounter, or relationship, with both genders is bisexual.
i agree with u but i think some people don't feel comfortable using the word homosexual when there describing themselves even if it describes 1 experiance, it might seem it's describing there whole sexuality @ least that's how i kinda felt about it @ 1st. now i feel more comfortable saying i would like to be free to have a homosexual experiance & i realize that doesn't necessarily make me a homosexual. even if i was that would be allright. but depending on my mood sometimes i slip back to saying bi lol.
I just had the weirdest series of dreams involving couples, sex and love last week... The first dream sequence was in the third person..two other individuals were sort of forcing a man who looked vaguely like Conrad Bain to ejaculate. He was laying on his back, with his legs spread apart and his knees bent..moaning, with thick, white semen squirting from his pulsing cock..you maybe have seen this look before..it's sort of a mixed look of both intense struggle reaching climax and great relief during orgasm..gawd that's erotic.
The second dream sequence was probably one that Sigmund Fraud would have had a field day with..that seemed to involve me hands on, with my head nuzzled between the legs of a lady, licking eagerly and becoming very excited at the thought of her own desire and excitement.
Somehow intermixed with these two dreams was the thought of being a third in an erotic relationship as well..which I have done before but always seemed cumbersome in real life. Of course, helping other people orgasm can be intensely erotic.
..umm, so to stay on topic - I knew I was bisexual in '07 - but I often lean greatly toward desire for either masculine or feminine depending on hormones, phase of moon or whatever.
The idea that I could feel equal erotic lust and desire for these two dreams sort of reinforced the point about being bisexual. Sort of weird in the third perspective. My own pleasure was in being able to watch them cum..not necessarily in the act itself..although I certainly would have participated.
Right now, after retelling those stories and the type of day I've had I feel equal parts of desire, protective/creative and nurturing energy..so much so that I think I had better go ground and center myself before I have some sort of tantric implosion or something..
Last edited by elian; Sep 24, 2014 at 10:22 PM.
Maybe so, maybe not.
But your first sexual experience was one of sexual abuse by a nasty pederast/pedophile or sex abuser, and it's neither homosexual nor bisexual.
Let's be clear you were sexually abused by a pederast/pedophile.
People like that child or teenage sex abuser are not "gentle, kind, or compassionate" and they belong in prison.
Sorry that you were sexually abused like that by a creepy sexual predator.
Both of you guys have similar stories to ours.
I have only been bisexually active when the occasion needed it to keep the evening moving forward. My first time was with a boyfriend and two other couples in college. We all swapped mates after the first round. The second was just as good, then the third one of the guys got weird so we ladies took it upon ourselves to diffuse the situation with a little breast to breast rubbing and crotch grinding. It did the trick! The guys stepped up and pounded us silly as we continued to spark them on with our play. I was 21.
Similar to cuttin2dachase’s wife I mentioned to several boyfriends that I have no problem putting on a female show for the guys if the guys put on a show for us. My next boyfriend took me up on it. He set us up with an older swinging bi couple and we all went at it. It was the most amazing sex ever. I was hooked on group sex with bisexual couple from then on. I never sought out sex with females but would let it happen with the guys going at it. Watching the men made me horny enough to do most anything.
Then I married a straight guy and settled into incredible married sex but have always hoped he would loosen up to more. He knew about my past when we went on a second honeymoon and I asked if we could rent some porn. He was shocked. I told him I wanted to gauge his reaction to something that was it. He agreed.
We were naked on the bed in the hotel watching four couples having sex, then swapping, he was leaking up a storm. We had some hard core sex afterwards. The next part of the video the couples turned into two sets of foursomes. The women were going at it with a man doing one and the other man licking and sucking near his penis. Of course the penis ended up in the the two men’s mouths. My husband was breathing hard, leaking more than ever, and his hips were moving slightly. I asked him what he thought. He surprised me admitting he thought it was very hot.
We had more hard core sex.
Watching the next segment the wives and men were assisting each other sucking cock and eating pussy. I told him that made me very hot with all of them helping one another be pleasured. Then two of the men took loads of cum sharing it with other women. I was masturbating now. My husband asked how hot I was. I wanted him to F me in the ass was how hot. That is when two of the ladies spread one of the men helping another stick his penis in him anally. I rammed back onto my husband and we “F”ed hard core anal. I was screaming how I loved seeing the guy take a cock anally, how hot it made me, how I wanted to help my husband take one. My husband increased his ferocity.
We continued watching the video ever the next few days focusing on the sections where the men were sucking cock, taking cum orally and anally, and getting “F”ed anally. I was able to “F” my husband anally three times over those days as well as getting him to eat loads of his cum. That was a few years ago. I knew he liked the guy stuff as much as the girl stuff. I told him I’d do anything he wanted with girls if he’d do the same with some guys. He grew stiff as a bat. We have been over preparing this for the few years. We are looking for the right couples. I know he will do it with the right people. So I’d say he knew he was open to bisex several years ago when we watched the first bi porn. We are not big porn fans but I do like keeping the momentum going with a bi vid once in a while. We have had some crazy fun role play thanks to it.
We think you may be a bit senile. A homosexual does not have sex with the opposite sex. Lesbians do not have sex with men, gays do not have sex with women. You need to get involved with Pride and LGBT activities and just keep quiet and learn. Both genders are not at all required to constitute a bisexual relationship. What if my wife is home with her girlfriend while I work? What if I am home with her girlfriend while she works? Is one of us gay and the other straight or bisexual? Your theory requires us all to be there or we get reclassified.
Maybhere, Nope, that's not what I'm saying. I may be senile..I accept that! And, I could have been more specific, I guess. But, since I didn't think I was in a court of law, I didn't make too much effort to put what I wrote in legal jargon.
First of all, I do not have a doctorate in sexuality, so these are my definitions, based on experiences. And, no, I don't think I know all the answers, even though I'm one of the older persons on this site.
However, let's see if I can break down my post, to a more precise level:
1. I believe some of you are mistakenly thinking that what was an actual homosexual experience, was a bisexual one. (I'm using ACT in lieu of experience, sometimes)
If you have sex with a person of the same gender, that is a homosexual act! There's nothing about that ACT that is bisexual! Just what I said!
It's possible for a bisexual person to perform a homosexual act, BUT, because he's bisexual he can do that....bi, meaning two! Unless he's exclusively with the same-gender person, never to be with a female again, he can switch any time!
It's possible for a homosexual person to perform a bisexual act. I don't think an experiment constitutes a new identity, though. But, I don't think that happens often. You have to admit a bisexual person has more choices!
Now, as sysper indicated, when a male claims that their first bisexual act was with a boy in scout camp, basement, on sleep-overs, etc, etc, that is not an accurate statement. Sorry, that was not a bisexual experience, it was a gay/homosexual experience. Like sysper said, he felt uncomfortable saying homosexual, but that doesn't change the facts of what actually occurred!
2. A sexual encounter, or relationship, with both genders is bisexual.
I repeat: A sexual encounter, or [sexual] relationship, involving both genders is a bisexual [ACT]. That person may be homosexual and only experimenting, but what they experienced was a bisexual act!
If one is bisexual but, presently with a same gender person, that person could still be bisexual, as long as he/she is still drawn to both genders. (See what I mean about bisexuals being more flexible?)
Sometimes bisexuals switch sides and declare themselves to be Homosexual...there's a "famous" lady, here, who did that! That's "legal"!
I've also heard of gay folks switching and becoming bisexual. It happens.....I can accept that, too.
To differentiate between the act and a person's true sexual proclivities: If a person is attracted to and has, or has had, a satisfactory sexual activity with both genders, (not necessarily both at the same time) that person would be considered to be bisexual, even if he is sometimes with another person of the opposite gender, alone.
I would go so far as to say that a virgin, who has never had sex with either gender, but knows they are attracted to both, could consider themselves bisexual.
Just as a virgin, who is only attracted to a same-gender person, would be homosexual.
OK, Time for my Geritol and bed!
Now, where's that walker?
Last edited by Realist; Sep 28, 2014 at 9:13 PM.
I'm with Realist on this "bisexual act" BS.
I am a bisexual woman with a long-time monogamous female partner. Do we regularly commit acts of bisexuality? Or for some odd reason, would sex with a man for me constitute a "bisexual act"? Or does the fact that we're both bisexuals make *everything* we do a "bisexual act"?
Or are my partner and I actually engaged in a primarily homosexual relationship, and if I had sex with a guy, would that not in fact be seen as a *heterosexual* act, rather than a bisexual one? And more to the point, are *you* in fact using the word "bisexual act" to soften the fact that you have engaged in a *homosexual* act?
I hope my achievements in life shall be these: that I will have fought for what was right and fair, that I will have risked for that which mattered, that I will have given help to those who were in need...that I will have left the earth a better place for what I've done and who I've been. (C. Hoppe)
I think I've known I was bisexual my whole life, but I didnt officially admit to myself and a friend until I was 20 in 2003. But I havent been in many relationships. Black bisexual curse I guess.
wifekinky4husband,
That sounds really hot and fantastic... what was that first porn movie?!?!?! I want to get a copy of that!
sometimes trying to get people to understand can be seen as bullying, but simplified, what both of you are saying, reads to me as this: People are gay or straight....SOME gay people can enjoy straight sex depending on circumstance and people involved, SOME straight people, can enjoy gay sex depending on circumstance and people involved. Both will always revert back to their aligned sexual lives otherwise. Make sense ?
Makes no sense at all but neither do UFO's. Bi the way, the senile comment was intended in jest and I hope it didn't come across otherwise. If it did, I am sorry. The main reason we are even here is to hear other points of view. Whether we agree or not listening to other opinions doesn't cost a thing and we may well learn something new.
Actually they are not saying that people are either gay or straight.
I've never met an actual gay man who enjoyed sex with women. The gay men I know who have had sex with women told me how it just showed them how they're totally turned off by women, and not sexually attracted to women at all.
I have never met an actual hetero/straight person who has had sex with the same gender, let alone enjoyed it. Some may try kissing, or masturbating in the same room watching each other without touching but those are not sex.
I have been trying to remember and find it for years. It was one of those dog house movies I believe.It had the word dog in it somewhere.
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