Although I hardly doubt anyone here will change my mind about how I feel because I'm so sure about it, I'm willing to entertain people's opinion by asking this question. Does being bisexual require the sexual contact of both sexes? Or is it possible to just.. have an innate (deep) understanding of your sexuality without a complete fair exposure to both sexes?
I ask because I've been in a committed relationship for years and while I cheated on my significant other by seeing someone of the same sex (disclaimer: he knows and it's in the past now, please don't lecture or attack me on this) I never had any sexual contact because I was still very closeted about my sexuality at the time. I once regretted it because I wanted to but never had the moral capacity to do that to my lover. And the closeted thing. Coming out was just not easy.
But now that I've grown and pretty much hit the wall with my sexuality, I now realize and accept who I am and feel much more in place identifying as bisexual. Like I am 100% convinced and confident. It's so right to me. Is that unfair or crazy seeing as I've never sexually been with a woman?
On the other hand, as I get older I realize more and more how disgusted I am by the male body (disclaimer: my fiance's is excluded from this) and constantly find myself attracted to a woman's. This isn't to say I'm completely unattracted to all men but I am saying I most definitely love a larger range of women than men. And while I don't like or buy into labels or stereotypes I'm really conscious of a lot of lesbian tendencies I do and see a pattern between myself and other lesbians. I really love women and I have absolutely no doubt in my mind about being with a woman. The thought alone is making me drool, haha.
but I worry that I'm being dishonest by claiming I am since I've not been sexually active with a woman, so is it fair to be so confident? Am I lying to others by saying I'm bisexual or is it acceptable for someone who identifies as bisexual to be the way I am?
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