Can you be married and have a FWB?

[pole_smoker]

Yes you can.

Is it a good idea? Not if you're cheating and have to have an affair in secret, or you have a spouse or partner who gets jealous or feels left out at times, and who does not want an open relationship or open marriage where you have sex with other people. In these cases it's opening up a can of worms, and asking for a divorce, or a break up of your marriage or relationship.

[itsnormy]

Was married for over 50 years before my wife died. We had a long, long talk prior to marriage bout both our sexual histories, we both like sex with men...so our agreement was do it. dont cheat, dont lie, be open, honest and share happenings when you were comfortable with it..............had a boyfriend for 30 years, a girlfriend for 32 years and a wife for 53....it can work just be HONEST Oh and btw, she had her share of lovers too....and on a rare occasion brought home a pie for me...

[nomorenomore]

Probably not going to happen. I can't even cheat on my wife in my dreams. Though she was pissed at me one morning, when I asked why, she told me that I had cheated on her in her dream. So, the only sex I am getting is in her dreams. I have tried a few times to broach the subject. Even this past weekend, she asked why I haven't been able to sleep. I told her that I was propositioned by a guy online and it had me thinking. We had all ready discussed the potential for me being bi. I got the same reaction I have in the past, nothing. No comment, no rebuttal, nothing. Just a blank stare and change of subject. Yet, she is all done with sex. She has zero desire. So I get nothing, nada, and have her permission to look at porn and take care of it myself. She even bought me toys. But have sex with anothe person, i don't think that is in the cards. If our relationship was bad, then fine, I would move on, but other than sex, she is a great lady and has helped me through a lot of difficulties, especially with my ex. So you just don't walk away from an otherwise good relationship just because you don't get sex. Then again, as we have heard many rants on this forum, you also don't step out on your spouse. Then you are a cheater, asshole, scumbag. FML!!!