I am looking for help and advise.
i am 57 years old man, been in the closest for as long as I can think about it. I have been married for 27 years and have two girls, ages 20 and 16.
no one know of my bi part of me. Well actually one close woman friend, and of course the few men I have had sex with. One is on this site. And we still talk.
i have over the years had sex with just a few men, but this last week i really did, and yes it was safe.
i have read about people who come out after being married for a long time. It is at best a very ugly thing on the family, and I believe that. At worst it just trashes everyone in the family.
i do not believe I can put the cork back into the bottle so to speak. I have come this far and now must think of options.
here are the ones I have:
do nothing, stay really in the closet. Not good for me.
tell my wife, now there are degrees, but I do love her and in some small way I will tell her, but ...
find a safe friend in town to have a long term friendship with benefits
come out and let the chips fall, will mean pain for me.
Thank you you all ahead of time.
spiro
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