The guy I have a regular thing with cums REAL quickly. If I take him in my mouth, after less then 2 minutes, he is blowing his load in my mouth (which I love). If we have a bit of foreplay, as soon as he plugs into me, he goes in less then 10 thrusts. He stays really hard after blowing his load, but is just so quick off the mark. He says it's a compliment to my Oral abilities. Anyway I can slow him down??
there are some tricks..... the underside of the head of the penis, the base of the penis and holding the balls with light pressure.....
the underside of the head with light pressure from the thumb, can * block * the urge to cum, it takes some practice and you do not want to use it and stop them cumming when they are cumming because it can really wreck the moment....lol
holding the base of the penis with your finger and thumb in a type of * collar* can work and the same with holding the balls.....
or you could try using something like teething gel that can numb the penis and dull the urge to cum.....
personally, it sounds like your partner needs to slow down and learn to pace himself to prolong the experience as cumming is nice but you want to have some fun... and some people have a * short fuse * sexually.... so teaching you how to get him to the point here he is ready to cum and hold him at that point, can be helpful
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Lol, been there done that many many times. My first lover and main same sex partner over the past 35 years has the same problem. The more excited he is the faster he blows, I've found that I just need to blow him and get the first one over with quickly. He gives wonderful massages so we spend the next half hour with me getting a massage and other foreplay. Then he's ready to go again and this one lasts much longer. His third actually goes a long time and is very satisfying.
i have the same experience, but in this case, I'm the short-fused wonder.so I find that giving my partner all the pleasure that they can handle first and then allowing them to pleasure me has worked wellOriginally Posted by a2smith09
Yes it's a lot easier to work with it. IF the guy with the quick fuse gets a complex over it, i.e. worries about premature ejaculation then it gets in his head and usually interferes with subsequent erections. Just work with it. Now I love sucking cock and eating cum and my friend gets real excited at the site of naked male bodies, erect penises and asses. He also loves to fuck ass. He blows real quick the first time. I last a long time and until recently usually maintain erections between orgasms. I've learned to get us both naked engage in foreplay and blow him till he cums, it doesn't take long. He loves to give naughty, nude, full body massages. Gives incredible blow jobs, sucks cock and balls and rims ass. By the time he has played with my cock, balls, and ass for a half hour he is hard and ready to go again. He lasts longer the second time but still blows quick, usually too quick if he fucks my ass. But he blows, we swap and I fuck a while. By the time I blow he's ready again and this time he has some very nice staying power. I usually cum two or three times before he blows his third load. Then most of the time he's done for several hours.
I dated a guy who had the same issue. he really wanted to last longer and felt badly when he came too soon. I didn't want him to feel badly about having oral sex so we discussed it. I told him that I was proud of being able to arouse him so fast and that I did take it as a compliment if he came almost immediately. he was reassured by this, but he was willing to try to slow it down. have him tell you when he is about to shoot his load so he can withdraw. I know it is very difficult for a guy to tell you to stop giving him a blow job, but as long as you go back to it after he settles down, he will know that he can have longer periods of being in your mouth. sometimes he will tell you but not in time to stop the orgasm, that's ok, he tried. let him shoot onto your face so he gets another type of sexual gratification. this will tell his subconscious that stopping the blowjob wasn't a bad idea. you have to go slowly and engage in lip touching and tongue tip touching before you devour his shaft and suck away on it. get him used to oral arousal without driving him to ejaculation. tell yourself that you don't want him to cum so maybe you will be less aggressive. have him give you directions from the minute your mouth approaches his cock and do as he asks, do nothing on your own so he is telling you how hard or how fast to suck him and where to touch him. he will get used to having you do all sorts of different things to his cock and won't be so much focused on the deep sucking he was used to. every once in a while, forget all of what I just said and suck the heck out of him to trey to get him to cum quickly. he will try to resist because he wants some of the new things you have done to him in pleasuring him orally. yes he will still cum quickly, but he will think it was because you worked hard to achieve it, not because he cums too quickly. bottom line - if he still cums too quickly for what you and he wants, just be glad he can get it up and can achieve orgasm, some guys can't. there is some benefit to tugging on the scrotum but that causes discomfort. if he is ok with that then do it. collaring the cock seems to just keep the cock engorged with blood and makes it more sensitive from my experience. I knew a guy who was afraid to ask me to suck him while we dated because he knew he'd cum prematurely. once we got that out in the open, I told him I liked that and he felt comfortable about what other women had complained to him about. we used to time it....it was a game....his record was 7 seconds! he never lasted more than a minute. but like I said, I was ok with it, not everyone will be. he lasted much longer during intercourse so that was ok.
I wish the following was taught in school, because every man should know more about how ‘the equipment’ works, as should everyone interested in pleasuring a man, whichever their sex.
The secret to this “trick” for lasting longer, is rooted in a firm understanding of male physiology, anatomy and sexual performance. In truth, this probably deserves a long and finely detailed explanation, but I haven’t got time for that right now. Besides, there is already a great book that I’ve mentioned before named “The Multi-Orgasmic Man”, which explains much, much more about what I’m about to explain. For more detail, please secure that excellent book.
IN BRIEF: When a man ejaculates, the sperm in his testicles gets pumped through the prostate gland where it gets mixed with seminal fluid and blasted out the tip of the penis. All of this happens at the very last moment. Just a moment before this pumping can happen big-time; the testicles will draw-up closer to the penis and higher in the scrotum. Only when the balls are drawn-up high like this, can the sperm flow into the prostate and out the cock. This means: If you can hold-down his balls, or he can hold-down his own balls, or somehow if you can otherwise keep the balls from drawing-up close to the cock; you/he can prevent sperm from flowing into the prostate gland where it gets mixed with seminal fluid to make semen.
By keeping the balls from rising, you can greatly help a man/yourself to resist the urge to ejaculate. (NB: The trained man can separate the pleasurable sensations of orgasm, from the physical impulse to ejaculate; which means he can go again and again and again. This is what that book teaches/trains; and it works.) If a man cums anyway, even though his balls were held low; the ejaculate he will produce will contain much less sperm than otherwise, and so his ‘refractory period’ after he cums will be greatly diminished (i.e. he’ll get hard again, more quickly). In fact, he may remain hard even after apparently cumming, because he’ll still have ‘rounds in the mag’. If a man still has sperm in his testicles, but has otherwise drained his supply of seminal fluid; that man can fuck and fuck and fuck and fuck; much fucking longer than otherwise.
So, for example, if your man is standing and you’re on your knees in front of him and you’re sucking him off; all you’ll really have to do is hold the flat palm of your hands over his balls, with his cock in the crux of your thumb and the rest of your hand. Just apply a steady, gentle pressure downward, so that his balls cannot scooch-up just as he’s getting the urge to cum. Tell him to fight the impulse to cum as long as he can; and you hold your hand down on his balls as long as you want. He’ll stay hard, and will have a hard time arriving at the actual orgasm. He’ll come close, and may even feel that same/similar ‘cascade’ of pleasure; but he won’t have a full-blown orgasm (unless he’s had more training/experience, and has better control of his arousal). It might help to be still at this time, so he can really *resist* the orgasm. When/if he does; he’ll still be quicker to get hard again or may have remained hard/semi-hard.
Using this method of pressing-down on balls, keeping them from rising; a man’s hard-on will last much longer like this. Even if he cums; by keeping his sperm in his balls; he’ll get hard(er) again sooner/quicker.
In fairness though, there’s only so much edging you should do to a man, before you really do have to let him EXPLODE! At most, work him up to three almost-orgasms (using the method described above), and on that last big build-up, remove your hand and let him BLAST-OUT every drop he’s got!
ENJOY!
Find someone else, or just have him suck your dick or fuck his ass instead.
Women and men who cum/finish way too fast make poor sex partners.
That's why you prefer little boys and girls, right?!!! Fucking pedophile!!!
I'm only sexually attracted to adult women and men, and have only ever had sex with adult women and men. My partner is the same way as we are bisexual men.
How does that work with vasectomies? Does that change how fast, or just in general, how a man comes?
A vasectomy will not interfere with your sex drive, ability to have erections, sensation of orgasm, or ability to ejaculate. However, if the surgeon cuts into some nerve endings somewhere along the line (which is hard to do but possible) there could be problems. Also you may need to be aware that men with vasectomies may be at an increased risk for the most lethal form of prostate cancer.
Since vasectomies cut off the flow of sperm, the amount of quality of semen may change though.
You know, that's a really good question, and I really don't know the answer myself, but I am rather interested to find out.
FYI: Some years ago I heard something about vasectomies that turned me off the idea completely. (For the time being, I am not entertaining the idea anyway; but now, I don't know if it will ever be something I'd consider, for the following reason......)
Apparently, the sperm of a man who has undergone a vasectomy, just gets aborbed into the bloodstream.
This is dangerous. Men aren't supposed to have sperm in their bloodstream. Many men who have had vasectomies, HAVE ANTIBODIES TO SPERM IN THEIR BLOOD! This is definite proof that sperm have made it into the bloodstream. But sperm don't belong there, so the question becomes..... Is there any harm?
It seems as though there might be a link between vasectomies and a particular form of dementia that most effects language ability in older men.
I did some quick Googling on the topic, and it is quite the controversy. Personally, I wouldn't consider a vasectomy until this controversy is better solved. I Googled, without quotation marks "vasectomy dementia".
The theory is: The head of sperm has a very strong enzyme that appears nowhere else in the human body. This enzyme is what enables a tiny sperm to penetrate the wall of a woman's egg (which is very thick, comparatively speaking). Well, it seems that this same sperm-head enzyme might somehow also bury-through "The Blood/Brain Barrier", which produces an immune response in the brain (whereas, healthy people have an intact "Blood/Brain Barrier" and no immune cells in their brain/spinal cord).
I wonder, if any men have had a change in their sexual response after undergoing vasectomies.
Anyone?
If I'm being topped I always tell my man to cum anytime he wants be it in two seconds or thirty minutes. I think giving that permission helps take the pressure off.
I wonder, if any men have had a change in their sexual response after undergoing vasectomies.
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I had a vasectomy in 1962 after my youngest was born. I haven't had any problems except being a quick cummer but I had that problem before I got cut. I have a little problem every once in a while of getting it up and keeping it up BUT I will be 75 my next Bday and Cialis works. I don't have any signs of Dimenshia but than your probably asking the wrong person. Now my wife may have complete different answers than what I just gave.
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