I have read several posts about bisexual single guys that would like to hook up with a couple but have trouble meeting them. As a married bi guy, and the one who searches out single bi guys to join us, I have some advise on improving your odds. I welcome comments from other married bi guys that can add to this. I'm sure I missed out of some great guys, just because they didn't know how to make an initial first impression.
First off, I use the internet for finding guys. It's like casting a worm into a pool packed with starving fish. Usually with SLS or Craigslist I will only have to leave my ad viewable for a few hours. The response from guys wanting sex is usually heavy. Standing out in that mess is the biggest part. It's easy for me to set high standards when I am looking at 30 responses. If you are planning on answering an ad, you have to be looking constantly to catch them as they are posted.
The first replies to get deleted are those that don't follow simple instructions. With Craigslist, you have to have a qualifier to weed out the bots. A typical ad may ask you to describe the weather or your favorite color in the subject line of your reply. if you don't do this, your reply is deleted without even being opened.
The second "level" of deleting replies is once the e-mail is opened and there is one line written. I don't care what the one line is. We have learned that "one line guy" is shallow, boring and selfish.
After this, we are left with probably 8-12 replies that made the first round of quick deletions. Then its just a matter of going through and looking for that one e-mail that clicks. That's where your personality has to come out. Since we are all looking for something different, there is little advise past this point other than to be honest. You may hook up by trying to be perfect for everyone but at some point, the truth will come out. A few times, we let the lies go. This became a problem I won't go into but now, we don't put up with it. If a guy we are meeting turns out to be not what he said, in any way, we let him have it. We don't yell or make a scene but he is made painfully aware that wasting our time is not doing him any good and was he expecting us to just go ahead with this? Like we didn't notice the picture he sent us was from the 70s?
In your honest reply, remember that sex between 2 guys requires little more than a nod. Sex with a woman, requires a connection beyond her pussy. In your reply, aim your comments to her, not him. Use humor if possible. Be charming. Very importantly, especially with the over 40 people, use correct grammar and punctuation. Us older folks get very turned off reading text speak. This form of abbreviation came about from having to use a number pad to text. You have a keyboard, don't be lazy.
If you want to place an ad: I usually check the ads from men searching for couples every day. I may post an ad 2 or 3 times a year, so placing an ad can be a good idea. Again, be honest, write a nice sized paragraph, aim your comments at the female without forgetting about the male. Add a picture. A face picture with body is best, a faceless body pic (dressed) is acceptable as discretion is usually understood. A cock shot may be appreciated by the guy. When a woman sees a cock shot, especially if it's the only picture, she is turned off. You can ruin a well written ad by adding a cock shot. Remember, you HAVE to connect with the lady if you want to connect at all. No cock shot unless requested.
Happy hunting!
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