Originally Posted by
void_dweller
It was me attempting to make light of past misunderstandings. As to 'manning up', I can tell you that I have been down that path quite a few times. Be assured I'm not merely 'giving up', rather taking an alternate route. You see, I have learned there are many ways to 'man up'. Not all involve walking around with a broken knee and not complaining. In fact it has been suggested that asking for help is a sign of 'manning up'.
Not all of us are card carrying, wife beating, real men. Not saying you are, merely expressing dissatisfaction with a widely held stereo type which obviously causes much strife. It is that same stereotype that can cause me paralysis, anxiety, frustration and worse at times. You implying less of me by appealing to the authority of it isn't really constructive criticism, subjective, candid or civil. Further, it isn't really all that mature.
You have continually inferred, implied less of me as a person each time we interact. As such I have come to view you as an obstacle. Excuse me for stepping around you. I'm tired of bashing my head into immoveable walls, I'll just go around them, now. If that requires a little more time, more relaxing, thinking, so it does. At least I can work and do something I enjoy, without brick walls in the way.
Sense of smell could effect welding in the fact of possibly doing work in tunnel, sewer, mine etc, and being unable to smell hazardous fumes. It is similar in effect to working water treatment. You don't smell the danger, die or get hurt. Employers get lawyers calling that liability, employers do not want liabilities. Of course, there are shops. I went to apply at one, guys said I needed thirty years experience. I asked if no one hired how one was to get the experience? He could not offer a reply.
So in short, I worked shit work, I worked it hard for thirty five plus or minus years. I am what is deemed unskilled manual labor as a result. Frankly, I never earned enough wage to feel competent in learning a skill, much less feeling competent in myself to manage doing both. I learned what little I know of computing via trail and error, reading a bit here and there, more trail and error as a hobby. Did have certification to code html a while back. That expired and although I have kept somewhat abreast of it, I'm no web developer by any means.
I have considered computing as a field. I may even do some odd jobs in computing. But I enjoy having an end product. To that end I am planning on doing a bit of wood working as a hobby. If I make a few bucks off of that, great. But I'm not going to be doing it for making money. I have a couple of nephews whom are facing some rough stuff. Me picking up wood working can provide some quality time for helping them. Besides, I like making birdhouses, benches and generally useful things.
My rules though are simple. The wood working for me is a hobby. I can visibly see improvement in my own skill with it. I do not need, want a boss. I can see and know good quality work, in the wood work as well as being a good teacher and guide for nephews. if you see somebody taking a different path as giving up or being less, well, if I was not indifferent to you, pity might be a response. I learned long ago pity gets a person nowhere. As far as I can recall, I have not asked for pity here.
I have expressed things are what they are. I have expressed disillusionment with everything in general. I have expressed acceptance of it all. Yes, there is a difference in accepting and surrender. I do not surrender. Been on that road as well, not going back. I have expressed disliking things as they are, despite accepting them. Have even admitted to having my share of responsibility in a portion of things. Who is dumber, the guy who can finish a project with help but doesn't ask, or the one who tackles it alone and fails? For a long time I have been rather dumb, proud, stubborn ... 'manned up'.
I have grown and gotten wiser, more aware, more easily exhausted and ache filled too. I have come to know myself better. That knowledge suggests it is dumber to keep playing the big proud man. So, I take a different path. I go around walls, instead of beating myself up trying to go through them. To me, you're a wall, all of you have the same back and fronts, and you all look the same. Guess that also comes back to what folks told me regarding work. "It's nothing personal." I used my work at times to help an ailing mother, to feed a family, to pay for a brother's care. No, nothing personal at all. And it's nothing personal with you.
Excuse me, need to attend some chores.
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