"If bi-phobia IS about monogamy then it's not reasonable at all."
Gearbox refers to biphobia as routed in monogamy. Monogamy may play a role in Biphobia as expressed by "some" gays /lesbians and heterosexuals. Monosexuals and bisexuals may or may not be compatible depending upon the individuals. Certainly monogamy impacts many bisexuals' lives.
Here is a perspective from a gay man as to why "some" gays and lesbians have biphobia.
Quotes from "Biphobia: The Gay Side by Daniel Vivacqua
"I know that my biphobia comes from this idea that bisexual people can, at any time, shed the weight of being queer and live a heterosexual life. It's as if they get the benefits when they want them but don't have to bear the burden if they don't want to."
'we(gay/lesbian) consider sexuality to be an essence, an unchanging core identity, and the way that lesbian and gay communities have adopted this view ... has led to a great deal of lesbian and gay biphobia."
"if sexuality is fluid and flexible, if people can be bisexual, then does that call into question the essential nature of being queer?"
"Bisexuality might scare gay and lesbian people because it can't be neatly wrapped up in a box."
"Maybe I recognize a little bisexuality in myself and pushed myself to identify as a gay man for fear of uncertainty."
A positive position for bisexuals to take with biphobic gays and lesbians according to Daniel is
"I don't care if you think I'm just a promiscuous perv and I don't care if you think it's a phase and I don't care if you don't accept me as part of the gay community, this is who I am."
http://news.change.org/stories/biphobia-the-gay-side
How should bisexuals deal with biphobia from some biphobic gays/lesbians, heterosexuals and even from other bisexuals?
Do you agree with Daniel as to the source of biphobia in some gays and lesbians?
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