How did you discover you were bi?

[glassbottle]

Ah... well, even when I started liking girls, some guys seemed to pique my interest too, ever since I was about 12 or 13.
So, I think it just came to me naturally...

But for some reason I didn't want to complicate things, so I just decided to stick with girls and be straight. Plus, I grew up in a family and town that is fairly ignorant and unhelpful with human sexuality, and all that kinda rubbed off on me so there are a lot of things I'm still learning and getting comfortable with.
So unfortunately, that whole part of me had been repressed and ignored for a long time.

A few years ago after a long relationship with a girl I decided to admit to myself that I might not fit very well into a binary sexuality.
Since then, there's still a lot of frustrating back-and-forth feelings about men and women, so as a result I've still only been with women to this day. I guess that's life, but I remain hopeful that I'll be able to open up more with myself and be more expressive...

Blah...
Another new member here, btw... Hi...

[NakedInSeattle]

When I sucked my first cock and said DAMN, that was fun.

[_someone_]

I think I've always at least been curious, although I didn't do anything before I was 20.

[thicknthin47]

for me there was no hint if bi anything until my late 30s early 40s
The wife and I have been in the swing life style (off and on) for the
Last 13=14 years. On one night I was lucky enuff to watch her play
With another woman (her first time) and a few more times after that
Well...that sparked something in me :-P but I never said anything.......
Few years go by and I find myself jacking off with other guys on webcam
I felt weird about it,but kept on doing it. A few more years goes by
And I start getting these urges to do things in person. But I never talked
About it or acted on it. Feww more years go by ok....everything is ok
And normal,then boom! Out of the blue these urges come back but
Stronger than ever. After about a year of fighting it. I told my wife about it
I was REALLY scared she was gonna leave me...but I could not hide it anymore
....this was about 7-8 months ago. She was pretty shocked at first,but
Totally supportive and understanding. If felt sooooooo good teling her
Like a huge weight had been lifted! This website has helped a lot also
We read it together

[MetalMadam]

For as long as I can remember having sexual feelings, I have been equally attracted to men and woman. In high school it caused a lot of confusion and I identified as gay. After all I thought girls were hot, so I MUST be gay right? Then I fell in love with my best friend who was a male. Over the years I have realized I do not have to stuff myself into a label to be happy. I'm very comfortable now with my sexuality even if others don't get it.

[jackbirdjay]

I was all ways looking in the gym showers. I had gym the last class of the day go home after looking at all the cocks in the showers and jerk-off thinking about them. I felt so guilty after. Then had sex with a girl for the first time at 17. Lost interest in guy for a while. Then at 18 started going to the adult movie theaters and there was a adult drive-in to. The movies made me start thinking about cock again and felt guilty about it. Then I finely sucked one at 20 years old. I still felt guilty about it but wanted more. Then at about 22 I just said the hell with it and started enjoying it. So I guess It was about 22 when I finely enjoyed it and knew I was in to both guys and girls.

[Sparkling Diamond]

I first clearly realised I was also attracted to boys at the age of 15 at high school. There was a guy of the same grade I simply couldn't help watching going by, admiring his body and his personality (he was very intelligent and kind). However, I didn't know even the word 'bisexual', so I'd classify myself as such only years later.

[myschyfnmayhem]

I was a teen,an older friend got me drunk and I found myself allowing him to get my pants off...then playing with my ass...when he finally got his cock in me I found myself loving it....

[marius2846]

When I was about 14 a friend of mine play touch and feel with a couple of girl friends and I liked looking at him naked. Thinking nothing unusual about it I still only got envolved with women as I was growing up. I was hit on several times by guys at bars and clubs but dimissed my curiousity about being with a man, thinking, I was with girl friends and that wasn't who I was. I then had strong feelings about being with men and finally acted on my impulses and fooled around with some older guys when i was about 39, and have gone from there to being with guys and girls and emjoying every minute of it

[hgf33]

I was pulling 2 sided jokes on a friend of mine that I worked with not even thinking about the answers. I was asking things like if you had a gay man jump on your back would you beat him off? I also asked If you got on a bus full of gay guys would you get off?
Finally it was closing time and he was done with his work helping me with some of mine. I was sweeping and getting ready to mop when I looked back at him and asked "Does your mom know your gay?" His jaw dropped and he said "Who the hell told you?!!" I was stunned and all I could quietly utter was "I was only joking with you." His head sank for just outting himself.
I had grown up in a very strict religion but always told to accept others. I had also thought of men as being attrictive and even had dreams of hooking up with them. Same with women. so I did some soul searching and deep thinking while mopping, looked back at him and said "If it helps you any, you just helped me realize I am bi." He nods his head and said softly "Yes."
So since I was only 17 at the time and couldn't go to the local bar, he did introduce me to the community a little. I also came out to the school counciler and she recommended me to a youth center for GLBT and their friends. I am lucky that I had such great support.

dman, I loved your story!!!! It's touching, and your jokes made me laugh out loud!!

[hgf33]

I said I was 20, but thinking back, I was actually 19. Things start to run together after awhile, lol. Oh well!

[dolphinboy1984]

Began having this knowing feeling when I was about 12 but hated myself immensely for it. Looking back, this was the most difficult part about it because I was in turmoil about being gay, even though I was attracted to women as well.

Nothing occurred sexually because I grew up in a small town with a small-mindedness to match. Then, when I was 16, my Nan bought a computer and got the internet. I discovered MSN Chat and used to look tentatively at the gay chat rooms, before long, I plucked up the courage to actually go in and found myself wanking over the conversations within a couple of days.

About six months later I was in a lay-by suck a massive (and I mean massive) cock. I loved the taste and then feeling of being blown myself. I bolted my nuts and all the arousal seeped away allowing the guilt to creep in. I continued having the occasional foray into gay sex but stopped when I got to university aged 22. I have not had sexual relations with another man since but have recently, like a week ago, accepted my bisexuality and love that part of me.

Thanks for reading.

[Jobelorocks]

I remember being really young and realizing I liked both boys and girls (at 6 I remembering wanting to kiss one of my friends like boys kiss girls and wanting to marry her). I always knew that I liked both, but I thought everyone must and since I liked boys more, then I must be straight. I found out later on in my teens about bisexuality and it clicked, that was what I was. I have been doing things with both genders ever since, but growing up in an evangelical family I hid what I did with other girls. I am now only out with some friends and my husband.

[cplpleaser]

I started fantasizing about being with a man when I was around 15 although I totally enjoyed having sex with females. I was afraid to explore my interest in sucking a cock as that would have meant I was gay. Didn't even know there was such a thing as bisexual. So I didn't do anything but fantasize until I was 19 and this guy invites me over to watch TV. He asked me what I liked to do and I said I liked to dance. I was too young to get into clubs but he said he knew a club he could get me into. He said he wasn't sure if I'd like it cause people in this club were naughty. I knew what he meant but sat there playing dumb and asked what he meant. As I sat there getting hard and leading the conversation on knowing where it was going. Finally I asked him to show how they were naughty. He took me to his bedroom and we got naked. He had the longest, fattest cock I've ever seen. He sucked me and I then fucked him. After I came I sucked him until he came. Could bearly get my mouth over his cock head and had to stroke with both hands to complete the task. I knew then I was bi and couldn't wait to be with a man again.

[Virgo21]

I knew I was bi when I was confused I knew I liked men but I also loved woman I though ibwad a lesbian but I was not happy kbow I am happy that I am bi.I been bi for a week know .

[sixthickcut]

when i played doctor with the other kids in my hood...we all took turns and i examined them...we were like in kindergarden about age of 5-6 years old...i became an adult and have enjoyed sex with both sexes throughout my like...more women than men at various ages...peace luv and happiness everybody...

[foreverbi]

I felt from a very early age that I was "different". When I was a kid 10-11 years old I liked to play house with the little girls, but I also liked to play house with the little boys too. Quite a few of my little boy friends would et me suck their dicks, but since we were all too young to produce cum I did not consider it really sucking dick. That came from my older cousin (2-3 years older than me). He had been trying for a long time to get me to suck his dick, but I always declined. One day after I had been "playing" with my little friends I went to my cousins house. I told him I was ready to suck his dick. When I was sucking he grabbed my head & asked me if I wanted a big load of cum to chew on. Since my head was being held in a death grip I had no choice. I didn't know what to do with his cum as I didn't want to leave a mess in my Aunt & Uncles house, so I just swallowed it. After that one taste I knew I was hooked on sucking dick & swallowing cum. I could eat cum until my stomach was completely full of it but I would still want more.

[sclight]

we firat discovered we were bisexual when we had a drunken kiss and fumble...led to very deep feelings we never thought we would feel..we are now completly in love and never want to be apart, we definatley argue that we are NOT lesbian..just in love with each other.and definaltely still want cock lol

[oralexpert44]

Straight my whole life and had many many sexual relationships with women. Never even thought about having relationships with a man and had always been very sexual and horny. Then one night at around age of 44 I meet this transexual in a bar and she invites me to her apartment. Well, after a few drinks and really horny I say why not. She starts giving me oral and I am really enjoying it and was so horny that I asked her if I could see her cock. Just wanted to see it. So, there is this cock right in front of my face and I couldn't resist and just started to lick and suck on it. What surprised me was how easy and natural it felt and how much I enjoyed it. I thought about that experience and how much I enjoyed it and about a year later I decided I wanted to do this again. I posted an add online that I wanted to meet well hung guy for NSA oral just for him. A gentleman a few years older than myself replied and I got the nerve to meet him. He got naked and i started running my hands all over his body, first time for me, and then went right for his cock. I just started to suck and lick it until he got hard in my mouth. He must have been about 8 inches and I was enjoying every inch of him. I sucked on his nuts and rimmed him until he could not hold back any more and let him cum in my mouth. Ever since I have enjoyed men as much as women and still surprised how much I enjoy a nice cock and I am every bit as good at sucking cock as I am eating pussy.

[Seanrtn]

Very similar way for me, I loved to sneak a peak in the shower even in Jr. High, I realized one day that even when I was not in the shower, I was thinking about a friend of mines thick cock, next thing you know at a sleep over we ended up "exploring" thats when I new I was BI.

when i caught myself looking at all the hot track runners on both the guys and girls team in high school, that was around 10th grade for me

[Playfulone926]

I enjoyed kissing my best girlfriend more than I thought I should. I got wet from her touching my breasts and I wanted more...still do.

[dm330]

I knew since I was just a kid. I always wanted to suck a dick after seeing it in a porn mag I found and actually did it with a friend of mine at age 8, pretty young I know. I started checking out girls more when I was 11, and thought I lost interest in guys until high school when we watched a video on pregnancy, then I began fantasizing about guys and girls and sucking dick all over again. It wasn't till I was 23 I got my dick sucked by a guy for the first time ever, it was at a glory hole video arcade. The arcade peeked my curiosity. When I saw the hole I looked through and saw some middle aged bald guy stroking and he came over and stuck his dick through my glory hole. I didn't suck though, because my preference is people close to my age. The next day I went back and some guy my age was in there. I put my dick through and he sucked my so good I thought I was going to collapse when I jizzed. That's when I realized men give much better head than women. 3 years after that I sucked my second dick in my life and swallowed my first load of another man's cum. Now I'd like to have a 3sum with a guy and a woman where the man cums in her pussy and I get to clean it up!

[inthehead11]

I figured out I was bi when I was about 15. A good friend and I were masturbating together and ended up having sex. We had a relationship with each other for about a year and loved every minute of it!

[jabor60]

Thought about it for a long time with out acting on my desires. During a swinging foursome it didn't take long for the male of the other couple to focus on my cock and after a while began to suck it. I couldn't believe how good it felt and how much I wanted to reciprocate, and before too long I did. The next day I told my wife how much I enjoyed the experience and how much I was looking forward to our next encounter. I've considered myself bi ever since.

[wally0075]

I figured it out from tripping on mushrooms and smoking pot, believe it or not.
I was really depressed for a long time after a bad trip, and couldn't figure out why. I quit smoking and drinking and tried to clear my mind. I couldn't shake the depression though. Fast forward 2 years, I was 20 and still depressed and anxiety ridden, and I couldn't get over it. I took antidepressants, and talked to shrinks, but nothing helped. One night I decided to get some weed and smoke myself stupid. I smoked and freaked out in my head, and as the thoughts were racing around one clicked.

"I think I like boys"

As soon as that thought happened, I tried my hardest to claim it as false, and went to sleep. After that I was constantly fighting with myself trying to denounce my feelings.
That was 2 years ago and I've put myself through the ringer. My mind is a mess and my life went nowhere, but I just recently accepted the fact. Now I need to start meeting people like me in my area, and get on with my life.

I just joined this site yesterday, and look forward to meeting new people and helping those who need it!
Thanks

[mnTIMIDguy]

First of all, welcome to the site, Wally!



Since childhood I'd always found some girls very cute, and also some guys very cute. I knew girls were for kissing and holding, but never knew what I could do with guys. So I was left with just enjoying the pleasure of looking at and imagining a cute guy's face.

Sometime in my teen years I got my hands on a Penthouse and read a letter in it that told a story about a guy at a party. At the party his girlfriend told him to go upstairs to such and such a bedroom, strip, get in bed with the lights off, and she'd come up and give him a bj. He was up there waiting for her, and fell asleep. He woke to her giving head, and after he came, realized that it was in fact another guy giving head, not his gf. That's when I realized what a guy could do with another guy.

I didn't know the name for it, but I've long known that I liked the idea of playing with a women's breast, and coupling with her (I love the way bodies meld together), and also sucking on some guys' cocks. I don't know when I learned the name for it, but I didn't need a name to know what I wanted to do. I just needed permission from God.

Still waiting.

[trentino]

I was also a late bloomer like a lot of those who have commented on this thread. Now that I think about it, I was really infatuated with a friend in about 4th grade. We had frequent sleepovers, but nothing remotely sexual ever transpired. I just remember really wanting to look like him. Maybe that was the first inklings.

When I was 5 or 6, I found a massive dildo in our side yard. My dad blamed it on the neighbor with the outdoor jacuzzi. I shrieked and cried when my mom, shocked, pitched it in the garbage can. I thought it was so cool ! Such a neat toy - maybe that had something to do with my bisexuality.

My best friend wanted to "get gay" when we were about 12. I protested vehemently. At about that time I was becoming aware of gayness and I just couldn't believe that guys stuck their dicks in each other's asses.

Just in college, living in the frat, I used to writhe with insomnia at night fantasizing about sucking cock and getting fucked. Must have been the heavy haze of hormones in the bunkbed area.

Didn't actually test the waters until a few years later and after a shattering break-up with a girlfriend. I went to the gaybar where a housemate worked (he had moved in with us het guys under false pretenses, beard, the whole bit) and ended up leaving with this little, skinny, balding, glasses-wearing guy. Disaster. Had horrible car sex which culminated with us being questioned by cops shining flashlights through the windows of my mom's station wagon.

Next, had a random hook-up with a guy in a baseball cap at a porn-theater. He had me just about completely naked in the folding velour seat ! When we left, I recognized him as the next door neighbor of a girl I had a crush on ! Anyway, I asked him not to tell and he fucked me good and hard for hours that night. I remember cuddling on the couch, looking at the full moon shimmer off the lake before I walked home in the dead of night.

I've always been a girlfriend kind of guy, so yes, though I enjoyed the gay sex immensely, I always pushed it out of my head, or my persona, although I continuosly looked at porn and fantacized about gay sex.

Still, it's girls that turn my head in the street, and I can't imagine ever setting up house with a man. But, gosh, sometimes I really crave cock ! Maybe it's the perversion, maybe it's my shyness with women. Whatever it is, I can't wait for my wife to give me the go ahead for some good gay loving !

[12voltman59]

I had a sense early on in life that I was surely not purely heterosexual and when I got older---I also knew that I wasn't also "gay"--- I really didn't know what I was---I just decided that whatever I was in regards to my sexuality-I was just "being me" and tried to figure that out and muddle through as best as I could.

It was tough at times I do have to say.

My very first "sexual contact" with another human being was with another guy--we were both pre-pubescent so we could not consummate what we did try--but I did know that it felt good and I liked it even though I was told by my dad and others that such things are what queers, faggots, butt fuckers (and other such derisive terms for such people) do and that it is wrong and bad.

I didn't feel what he and I did was wrong, bad or unnatural at all, but we did keep our activities covert and never got caught since we knew that we'd be in for it from our folks and our friends if we got found out.

[69luvr]

I went to a movie theater when I was younger. As I walked in I had a hard time seeing and I accidentally bumped into an usher. My hand barely touched his cock and I knew it. I excused myself and sat down but wanted to explore him more and more. I got up and went to the mens room aqnd lo and behold, there he was. He smiled and I smiled. I was a bit embarassed and he asked how I was enjoying the show. i said it was great. We both left the mens room at the same time and I went up to the near empty balcony as this was during the day. Soon the usher was upstairs working or so I thought. I got up to leave and he "accidentally" brushed my cock with his hand. I had no alternative but to reciprocate! He motioned for me to follow him and we went even further up the balcony to a very dark room. Once inside we kissed and I grabbed a hold of his cock for all it was worth and him mine. soon his lips were aroung the head and I LOVED it. I wanted to reciprocate and did. I sucked a cock for the first time and loved it! I have been doing it ever since.

[whispering]

I remember exactly the night. I was fifteen, over at a teacher's house, and his wife had gone to bed. He was talking about the Greeks--Socrates, Plato...then then naked Greek statues. He talked about male beauty as natural, and said that the Greeks had male lovers. It seemed so natural and right. I thought of Bobby Lee, a tall, freckled, red-headed boy I had a crush on, and would stand next to in the locker room to gaze at his body. I thought of my own body as desirable. The urges I'd had seemed, listening to him, a part of life, something that men share, just like women share things with each other. They were nudists, natural. In a couple of weeks, our conversation happened in the nude, and I was awestruck by his cock. Before the evening was over, the teacher was on his knees sucking my cock, and then I took his in both hands....