Not in THIS reality it's not! Where have the aliens taken you Fran?
As you point out - there is a need to explore ourselves physically/sexually and mentally/emotionally to find out what/who we are. That is nothing like as petty or as close to a passing whim such as the attractions that exploration might kick off/be kicked of by.
In short - a bisexuals self discovery is not just about lust. Plenty of lusting goes on, but that's not the half of it. All those things you mention adds to the 'incompleteness' felt by those who deny or withhold part of themselves, and that doesn't get easier with time. It gets stronger as yu know.
That is well known about homosexuality. It is accepted that a closeted homosexual in denial of their true feelings will suffer from not accepting and exploring his/herself. We have gay pride ramming that down everybody's throats regularly, and they are dead right!
The problem many bisexuals get is that they are often in m&f monog relationships with a person they really do love, when they get that urge to explore. That gets them this-
For those who have already explored and come to terms with that exploration maybe, such as the OP herself? Not so for many others who have yet to satisfy that basic need.
If it didn't have any importance attached to it, the OP's bf wouldn't put the relationship at risk. He wouldn't bother if it was trivial. He'd continue to fantasize about males and be content to keep them at a distance as he has done for years prior.
It's not necessarily coz he's just sexually bored with the OP and wants to spice it up a bit!
Nope! It's obviously something more than that. Something similar to why the OP was with a woman for a year even though there was (most prob) plenty of horny loved up college boys around at the time who'd have not been hard to get.
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