Guys: Do U Like Effeminate Guys?

Kind of a silly question, it seems to me a lot of the time, but I know some guys don't.

I actually like guys that, if not actually effeminate, have the more "softer"- less masculine- looks and personality. Of course, being a Viagra guy, I'd also like the queen to be good with his weenie, too.

So, show of hands: How many of you guys like other guys that are stereotypical queer looking and acting (I've raised my hand)?

Absolutely not.

If I want a more feminine person, I will be with a woman.
I don't mind a little aggression in bed from a woman and I prefer a little softer side at times from a man in bed though. However, generally physical appearance and mannerisms that are extreme or visibly traditionally feminine from a man are a big turn off. Some aspects that were once seen as feminine though do change over time (ie. length of hair on a man has become less significant)

No I do not .

I'm a real man & I don't want want to be with someone who acts like a woman. Yeech..

Wasn't this a post last summer???

Each to their own, but I prefer efeminine men. I find them more compassionate, but by sayng this i usually have sex with other cd's or cd admirers. I love foreplay more than anything else, alot of touching and kissing.

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

No I do not like flaming queens or men who act feminine or camp.
I'm not attracted to "men" who dress up as women and take on a woman's name, drag queens, and even the guys who like to put on their wife or girlfriend's panties are a turn off.

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I'm not sure I'm all that attracted to cross dressers and such but I don't have anything against them.

I'm talking about guys who seem effeminate but can't really help it. I'm trying to think of some examples but none come to mind. Just a fetish of mine, I suppose, in that I wouldn't mind going out with some twinky effeminate guy instead of a girl and take him home with me for a roll in the hay.

It depends on what for. For a friend, I'd prefer not to have an affeminate man. For sex, what does it matter?

I am mostly gay.
But, I am definitely NOT femine.
Further, I am only attracted to masculine guys for sex (excluding heterosexual males :eek:).
I have had effeminate friends. But, I was never atracted to them sexually.

I NEED and I HAVE a sexy ALL MALE male that keeps me so very satisfied.

Guess I'm the odd one. I like fem guys. I like the look of a slim fem guy. Oddly I don't like fem guys that are real over the top flamers. And I like transexuals too. Masculine types don't do it for me visually or mentally. I'm not into muscle, thats a turn off for me.

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Originally Posted by fredtyg

I'm not sure I'm all that attracted to cross dressers and such but I don't have anything against them.

I'm talking about guys who seem effeminate but can't really help it. I'm trying to think of some examples but none come to mind. Just a fetish of mine, I suppose, in that I wouldn't mind going out with some twinky effeminate guy instead of a girl and take him home with me for a roll in the hay.

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I have a friend that is *soft *... hes a tall guy and solid, but with a very gentle mannerism and a bit of a speech impediment...... and gay....
hes not a queen, or overly flamboyant, but definately a top and very good at it.... a lot better than some of the *manly *men that I know that are tops

I quess its cos he has the gentle caring nature and makes love, not just having sex

LDD
Are you sexually attracted to effeminate guys? (like them sexually) That is the question.

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Originally Posted by Long Duck Dong

I have a friend that is *soft *... hes a tall guy and solid, but with a very gentle mannerism and a bit of a speech impediment...... and gay....
hes not a queen, or overly flamboyant, but definately a top and very good at it.... a lot better than some of the *manly *men that I know that are tops

I quess its cos he has the gentle caring nature and makes love, not just having sex

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Originally Posted by tenni

LDD
Are you sexually attracted to effeminate guys? That is the question.

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it says * do you like effeminate guys *...... not do you wanna go to bed with effeminate guys.....

I was talking in a non sexual aspect about a very good friend of mine that is effeminate and his postive qualities that I do not find in masculine men....

tsk tsk...read more of th OP & other guy's postings...you are missing da boat...


Regardless specify your sexual attraction to effeminate guys? Come on tell us...ah come on...DD's not looking.........lol

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Originally Posted by tenni

tsk tsk...read more of th OP & other guy's postings...you are missing da boat...


Regardless specify your sexual attraction to effeminate guys? Come on tell us...ah come on...DD's not looking.........lol

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I was answering the OP post and I saw nothing about sexual attraction there....
besides I am pansexual, I have no real sexual attraction definitions, I am drawn to personalities not body types.....

to me, a body is something we are all born with, but a nice personality is not found in everybody

LDD
well there ya go.

You told us. Now, that didn't hurt too much did it?:bigrin:

its like pulling teeth..... I make a positive statement about a friend and get grilled over my sexual perference.....

For me, being bisexual means there is the possibility I can be attracted to anyone no matter the gender or degree of masculinity or femininity. It all depends on the person. So the answer is yes, I do.

This may not be PC but I find myself more attracted to guys like me, muscular and masculine then so called twinks. I dont want a drama queen or a flamer, skinny guys are great. I guess it is more about the personality than the body type. Dont like fatties and bears though. There has to be something there physically.

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

Are you sexually attracted to him or femme men like him, or not?

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I have already stated I am pansexual and attracted to personality..... I do not see in terms of twinks, bears or what ever terms people want to use....
last i knew, sexual attraction and attraction to personality are two different things......

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

I don't buy that you are only solely attracted to personality only.

We all have our preferences and likes and dislikes when it comes to attraction and they are all unique and sexual attraction even if it is based on someone's personality or other aspects on them will come out in other ways such as how they look or what body type or types you are attracted to and ones that you are simply not attracted to at all.

Stop dancing around the question with circular logic and not actually answering the question.

Yeah it's nice that you're friends with him. Did he ever turn you on or did you ever want to or get fucked gently and tenderly by him?

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yeah and I have a mental illness, I have a limited emotional range, and sexual attraction by specifics is not something I possess......
hence I am pansexual...... a trans, a bear male, a flaming queen, a eunuch, a super model female etc..... there is no difference in attraction to them..... hence its a persons personality that draws my attention.....

even my partner can tell you that I am not turned on by porn, but by the smile, the eyes, the way a person appears on the scene..... and a nude male or female doesn't get a reaction out of me.....

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

So what does turn you on then? Just your partner?

I know some people who were turned on by various other people but then once they got married to someone they were only turned on by that person and not by others anymore is it like that for you?

What mental illness do you have? Is it clinical depression? Asperger's or something like that?

You said how this guy is not effeminate or a screaming queen so why did you even reply to the topic or write about him at all if he's not effeminate?

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what turns me on??? actually nothing.... i am a person that lacks a sex drive.... I can have sex and perform, but I lack a sex drive....

my partner chooses to share my life with me, and if she didn't. I would happily remind single and sexless...... as it has no adverse effects on my state of mind.....

as for the mental illness, I was born with dysthimia and a underlaying issue that ( in new zealand ) has never been isolated or diagnosed....

I posted about my friend as hes not a queen or anything like that.... he is a soft natured person.... he is a top and good at it, 6 ft and solid, yet a gentle guy.... and could be mistaken as a effeminate bottom....
and I decided to show that not all of us need the masculine male types in our lives or beds.... some of us are content with the effeminates in our lives.... and beds

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

What's the other underlying issue that's never been recognized or diagnosed in NZ?

Are you asexual? You wrote about how you can perform sexually but how nothing actually turns you on at all. Do you have sex fantasies at all? If/when you masturbate do you fantasize about sex at all?

So if he's not feminine why post about him? He does not fit the category of being effeminate at all which is what this topic and all of the posts in it are about.

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i use the term soft.... hes not a beer gulping sports watching, cigar smoking guy..... and not is he a florist that dresses in pink and speaks with a lisp.....

he speaks in the manner of a feminine gay male, but its natural....

I can have sex easily..... but I have no sexual attractions.... sexual attraction and sex drive and sexual performance are different things
sexual attraction is who you would like to fuck
sex drive is how much you feel the need to fuck
sexual performance is can you get it up to fuck

I lack the chemical triggers in the brain which signal a sexual attraction to various stimuli...... but as my partner knows, i can * turn on * my cock at will.... and since i do not feel the need to fuck until I cum, I can go for hours in a single session, or multi sessions without cumming..... but when i do cum.... well my partner got a new hair style and she was kissing me at the time....

as for fantasying about sex... no... sex means nothing to me.... so i focus on what the person would be feeling, the touch and sensation of lips on skin, the feeling of being hold.... the idea that others may be watching etc....

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

So you are what would be called asexual then?

Is that the underlying issue that's never been recognized or diagnosed in your country?

Just because a guy lisp or has a speech impediment or talks like a stereotypical gay man, that does not make him effeminate. The guy you're writing about isn't a queen or effeminate at all.

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no, cos if it was, it would have been diagnosed....

his whole mannerism is soft.... but he doesn't do the whole queen / prancing / walk like theres a carrot up his ass / drama queen behievour..... hes just a soft, gentle gay male....

I am not asexual.... that is the ruling of a psychologist, american trained, not nz trained and that was after a number of sessions......

asexuals have no sexual interest.... I am pansexual, i can go with any sexuality or gender and have done.... I can top and bottom or play the middle...and as my partner has said in a few threads... i am dammed good in the bedroom
that is not the traits of a asexual.... asexuals generally will not do anything in the bedroom

and thats cos he is not a queen, he doesn;t put on airs or overdo his actions and talking.... his feminine mannerism is natural..... he is clearly not masculine in mannerism, but nor is he flamboyantly gay or a show queen.....

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

Just because you can have sex with any sexuality or gender it does not mean that you are actually sexually attracted to them or really pansexual.

You wrote about how sex means nothing to you, you don't have an interest in sex, and how you have no sexual attractions at all to anyone.

Asexuality (also known as nonsexuality), in its broadest sense, is the lack of sexual attraction (i.e., a lack of a sexual orientation) or the lack of interest and desire for sex. One commonly cited study placed the incidence rate of asexuality at 1%.

Asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy, which are behavioral and the latter is usually for a religious reason. A sexual orientation, unlike a behavior, is definitionally "enduring". Some asexuals do have sex.

Don't be too prideful about being "damned good" in the bedroom.

You can't even enjoy sex or have sexual attraction to anyone. Sounds like a curse for you and your girlfriend. Not everyone wants to be a human dildo.

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as long as my partner is happy and satisfied... I am happy to be a human dildo..... even a monogamous one....

I have always said i am not controlled by my dick..... but nor am I swayed by my emotions or known for making emotional decisions.....

I will remain a psych and neuro science enigma for the rest of my life...I know that..... but... beats being just one of the crowd, like you are trying to class me as.... and if trained professionals label me as pansexual, not asexual... well they are in a prime position to know.... they have spent many hours talking with me....not reading posts in a forum

ok so tell me, if I have had sex with trans, heteros, gays, bis and intersex, males and females...... and I am not bi or pansexual.... what am I.... and do not try the asexual bit as even asexuals have a sexuality

and read my past threads, my ex cheated on me a number of times in 7 years... and I stayed by her side..... as i can, I am not influenced by emotions the same as i lack a sex drive and sexual attractions, but I do not lack a sexuality

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Originally Posted by hot_fun_summertime

You've said how you don't have any sexual attraction to anyone despite being able to perform sexually and get hard and ejaculate, and you don't have any desire for sex at all. This makes you asexual even if you want to deny it.

Just because you are asexual that doesn't mean that you somehow can't have sex or that you can't perform sexually if you really want to like you have and do, you're just not sexually attracted to anyone at all even your girlfriend and whoever else you've ever had sex with there's never been a sexual attraction there for them.

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not sexually attracted, it doesn't mean that I am not attracted to people

asexuals have a sexuality.... any asexual can tell you that.... asexual means the lack of a sex drive....
there is hetero asexuals, bi asexuals, gay asexuals and pan asexuals.....

hetero, gay. les and bi are the types of attraction to genders.... unless you are trying to say that asexuals that are in relationships with males for example, are not gay cos they are not sexually attracted to males, even if they have NO attraction at all to females....

I would suggest you check this site out Asexulity
specially this part
Attraction
Many asexual people experience attraction, but we feel no need to act out that attraction sexually. Instead we feel a desire to get to know someone, to get close to them in whatever way works best for us. Asexual people who experience attraction will often be attracted to a particular gender, and will identify as lesbian, gay, bi, or straight.

Long Dong Ducky Fuck and Summertime Bleating, you two flamers are boring the fuck out me...

I'll borrow a little; "It all depends on the person." I'm not normally attracted to 'flaming queens', but again it depends on the person. Might enjoy it, might not. Not ruling it out completely, nor ruling it in completely.

I love being with a fem. guy. I love when guys love to CD. I love everything about sex with guys and girls.:bipride:

A resounding absolutely..............YES!

I find guys with a nice fem streak are very hot. I'm not into the macho, loud, "look at me" kind of guys.

Guys with a little fem are a little quieter, better listeners, better in foreplay and better under the sheets.

Just my humble opinion.