Do you wish you had some do overs as you grew up?

I've had a few. One always bugs me. I was maybe 14 or 15 and invited a classmate over to hang around on a Saturday. I had no idea whether he fooled around with guys or not and tipped my hand as we were talking and asked if he ever jerked off. He said no and kind of looked a bit disgusted. Stupid me, I persisted and asked if he ever had a blow job. Again he said no. I left it at that and nothing ever came up about it. Months went by and this guy became pals with another classmate. They hung around alot and did stuff together. They really weren't in my close circle of friends. Out of the blue the second guy asked me one day if I would like to go camping with them. They were going to set up camp on a ridge next to a place where local college kids parked and had sex. I thought that would be cool and agreed to go with them. We nset up camp(a tent) and were making a fire for the night when the second guy (I'll call Peter) started asking me if I'd like to give him a blow job. He told me the other guy told him about what I discussed months ago. I panicked inside thinking word would get all over school about me being a cocksucker and my life would be trashed. I told him I don't do that and had just heard my older brother talking about exploits in his crowd and got curious. Pete wouldn't give up and I almost caved because I really did want to do a threesome. They didn't really think what they we doing out too well. Had they convinced me of total discretion, they would have had blow jobs and maybe fucking for the rest of our school years. I made contact with Peter lately on Classmates, but I didn't mention anything about that weekend. I wonder if my life would have changed if I would have taken them on. I still checked out their cocks in the locker room when we had gym class. I ended up getting together with the team's equipment guy sometimes even during the day the store room and all through life when ever I was back in the area. Boy we could have had a monster orgy in that tent!

How about anyone else? Did you miss out on some hot stuff? Has anyone hooked later in life with the same guys? If yes, has it worked out?

Yeah I have my share. I traveled the world and could have sampled everything. I drank all the beer did all the drugs fucked all the whores but never hooked up with another guy. All the places I went with the beautiful ladies with cocks. The far east, Holland, San Francisco.
so yes I sure do.

I have a bunch of them. Oh to be 18 again and know what I know now! I'd be dangerous as hell:yikes2:

Interesting question! I am Married and Bi, I have a rock solid marriage to a woman and a strong emotional and sexual relationship with a man 12 years my senior. I have been married for 3 years to my Beautiful Wife. If I had met the guy that I am also in a relationship of sorts with sooner (pre marriage), I would have entered into a full in, live with relationship with him. It would have shocked a lot of people, but every time him and I are together, I know I could live with him.

oh yes. I started young(12) and regret I did not start even younger! To know what I know now and put it into practice then would have been a wonderful way of life.

Since I became Bisexual, I've gone out of my way not to have any regrets, and I feel that my life is a lot better because I know I can take risks.

Carpe diem !

Nothing as far as guy-guy activities are concerned. I did, however, have a major crush on a girl in school. I was always too shy and lacking in confidence to ever do anything about it. I later found out (from her best friend) that she also had a crush on me. By that time, however, she was already married...

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Nothing as far as guy-guy activities are concerned. I did, however, have a major crush on a girl in school. I was always too shy and lacking in confidence to ever do anything about it. I later found out (from her best friend) that she also had a crush on me. By that time, however, she was already married...

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it's good u had some fun with guys, but so sorry about the girl! must of really hurt :(

i've got 1. i ran into a friend at a party in our 20's. he was str8 but pretty open sexually also pretty secure sexually. very good with the ladies. he would slap guys on the ass sometimes grab them by the crotch it really didn't mean anything just horsing around. sometimes we would tease him ask him if he was into guys but he allways denied it. which i kinda thought it was weird but i accepted it. at this party i guess we had some drinks lol. he was grabbing my crotch kinda getting into it. i played along but then even i felt it was getting intense. i think i was beginning to enjoy it. but unfortunately i paniced i wasn't allowing myself to admit i could enjoy some fun with a guy. i backed away & i think he understood. it didn't make things weird between us but we never spoke of that again. guess i was pretty insecure about my sexuality. who knows what it would of led to if i just let myself enjoy it & let things happen. our circle of friends would of just accepted it too. he had so much practice with girls he probably would of been real good in bed too.

another 1, also in my 20's. this guy use to live across the street from me. his roomates were gone for 2 weeks so he invited me over to watch tv play cards whatever. 1 nite we watched some porn. good stuff. then there was a 3sum scene with 2 guys 1 girl. at 1 point 1 of the guys mounted the girl & he got mounted by the other guy. i pretended to be surprised & disguted but looking back i was pretty unsure how to feel. i think he must of picked that tape on purpose & say oops how did that get there lol. to see how i would react. i think he wanted to fool around with me. i swear they must make video's like that for this purpose. could of been interesting but i really didn't pickup on it at that time. even if i did i don't think i would go for it. too bad.........

Well, yeah, but I'm not going into specifics at this time. I'd just like to say that I have been very fortunate to have lived a comfortable life, and have a wonderful wife & family who love me.

I've had a lot of varied sexual experiences, many of which have come later in life. It would be easy to make a list of things that I would have done differently with regard to sexual experimentation, but some of those adventures would almost certainly have changed my entire life's trajectory. I'm not so certain that it would have been worth the risk that things would be drastically different with regard to my overall satisfaction with how things have turned out.

I'm happy that I have learned that I'm bisexual, and, yes -- it would be nice if I'd been able to experience these joys since I was young! But it is what it is. I'm fortunate and grateful for what I've had and what I'm now permitted to enjoy.

Not so much with individual people (although, sure there are a couple in there), but one thing I regret from growing up in the 1970s was the sense of fear and anxiety I felt about any feeling that wasn't hypermanlyheterodammit. There was such a stigma about sexuality that any guy who didn't fit the hetero image could easily get ostracized, beat up or worse. The only guys that seemed to be safe were the demonstrative flamers - who were accepted. It was a strange time, and I expected the stigma was entirely fear-induced; other guys had questions about their own sexual attractions and that scared the bejeezus out of them. Anyway, the whole thing was enough of a mindfuck that I just closed my mind to anything other than completely straight sex, except for one time. My buddy and I went down on each other one night. I was excited and terrified at the same time; it was awkward but I remember it as if it happened last night.

It took me years to feel comfortable around people with multiple gender attraction, but once I made friends who were comfortable enough in their own sexuality to be accepting of others, I soon came to understand the foolishness of my fears and started the path towards true acceptance. In retrospect, I really wish that I had not felt that visceral fear as an adolescent, as I would probably have been a better person.

Fast forward to late adulthood and I made a complete turn around, advocating for gender equality and for gay rights as quickly as the next guy. But even still I have some of that anxiety. I haven't told my wife about my interests, other than that we both acknowledge "bi tendencies." My online persona is a little out there, but in real life I am still pretty conservative. It's a path to travel and that seems to be where I am on the path. Lots of regrets still kick around in my head about this whole thing.

Yep, there was that one girl that I had heard through the grapevine had a crush on me. If I had only....

Yeah--I had plenty of opportunities that I passed on at the time they came up back in my younger days. I am sure that if I had taken the offers up, I would have had a good time and now wished in retrospect, I had not turned them down now.

probably should mention also tons of blown opportunities with the opposite sex, too many to keep track

Oh yes have alot

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probably should mention also tons of blown opportunities with the opposite sex, too many to keep track

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That definitely goes without saying---as you say---far too many to have kept count---

Why are you people living in the past??? Deal with the here & now !!! Look to the Future...God Almighty....

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Why are you people living in the past??? Deal with the here & now !!! Look to the Future...God Almighty....

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There are occasions when I enjoy thinking about the past and alternatives to the life I chose to live. I am totally happy with my life and at peace with the choices I made to get to where I am today. But, it is still pleasant to dream about the alternatives once and awhile. I do that without regrets.

I would have probably come out as trans in my teens or early twenties. I always felt I was different, but it was different times way back then. Now its just not possible, life, wife, son, grandson and career. Lots of depression and frustration. I guess I can always dream of what could have been.

I only wish I acted upon my desires much sooner in life. I have missed so much but I am enjoying myself now when I can.

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I would have probably come out as trans in my teens or early twenties. I always felt I was different, but it was different times way back then. Now its just not possible, life, wife, son, grandson and career. Lots of depression and frustration. I guess I can always dream of what could have been.

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Yes it is true, times have changed, just like us. I had always felt that I was different and I knew that I also leaned towards, Transvestism, but it was very different time, way back then. There was a huge information gap and with no internet, and trying to identify, what or why you felt different, was a huge problem for a lot of us! Although we all, probably had a desire, to learn more, most of us usually feared the worst, of being outed, with the fear of being ridicule and false accusations of homosexuality, so most of us, kept it a secret back then.

As I age, I always try to live, with the future in mind, but often the past, has a way of catching up, with a lot of us. Out memories of past experiences, usually have an effect on how we live our own live's. "Memories" are ours, to own, and hopefully they will always be there to continue to help us all. Maybe that is why some people wish for "Do Overs"!