If you are married, how do you feel when you get home after a rendezvous with a man. Horny? Ashamed? Guilty? Fine?
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If you are married, how do you feel when you get home after a rendezvous with a man. Horny? Ashamed? Guilty? Fine?
Usually very relaxed
I've never felt shame or guilt, just excitement and satisfaction. It makes me want more sex with men as soon as I can get it again !
So, it's basically don't ask and don't tell with your wife?
Im excited having sex with a guy gets me satisfied no guilt because it wax a guy
Mostly I feel very happy, very satisfied, and very relaxed. I really enjoy having sexy with another man. Early on the first several years after our marriage I did feel guilty and ashamed. However as I grew more comfortable and understanding of my bisexuality those negative feeling abated.
I feel satisfied and relaxed. Usually my craving has been building and it's a release to suck and swallow. I usually like to jerk off after sucking a guy and swallowing his cum, then I get a second load to swallow. Think my mood is much better, my wife has said, you seem to be in a good mood. At 68, she lost interest in sex 20 years ago, but I've always been Bi since I was a kid.
Ditto to what Borntosuckcock said. I'm usually in a great mood but somewhat exhausted (if all went as expected...LOL.) If I've spent a few hours with a MF couple I get together with a few times a year, it takes me a few days to recover from all the things she does to us guys. But I'm definitely grinning for those few days!
i feel real horny and want to fuck my spouse but am afraid she'll smell sex on me from my previous encouter
If I were doing it behind her back, I would feel ashamed and guilty. I would not be ashamed that I was with a man, but that I was doing it without my wife's knowledge and consent. That's cheating, and she's a wonderful wife who deserves my fidelity.
So, anticipating my first 'allowed' sexual rendezvous with a man, when I return home, I won't feel ashamed at all, but probably a little guilty. Guilty, because my wife wasn't involved, even though she would choose not to be and not begrudge my activity. But this isn't what she 'signed up for' when we married. I had no clue that I would eventually seek to have sex with another man. Because sharing myself with another man is, in a way, taking away from her, I'd have some pangs of guilt. Hopefully, they won't be too strong when it happens.
At my age, I'm sure I'd be sexually satisfied at the conclusion of the liaison -- so doubt I'd be horny. (at least, until sometime later, when thinking about the encounter...)
Hoping that I can just feel 'fine' about it, when all is said and done.
My first time i meet with another guy, i sucked his cock and he was so right when he said that he was a big cummer. i tried to swallow but he kept on cuming…..it got all over my face and down on my shirt. when i got home, my wife was there to greet me with a big hug and a deep soul kiss. she knew where i had been and after i got home she could see it , smell it and even taste it… "Did you have a fun time, Cock sucker ?" she said to me.
It makes me happy and she gets the benefit of my being in a good mood.
Years ago when I began giving blowjobs to certain men, I'll admit there were initial feelings of shame and a little guilt but those concerns went away very quickly after I became quite good at the act and knew that I absolutely enjoyed doing it.
used to feel guilty but now feel relaxed and fulfilled but if she found out I love giving blow jobs it would be divorce
I dated a gal who knew, and was ok with me being Bisexual...She said "I'll give you so much sex, you'll never even want to look at a man, again"...WRONG...
Every once in a while, I'd drive to to a gay bar and get a Blow Job (or two). She would say " I called your cell, and you didn't pick up...Where were you???"
Did I feel Guilty...NO.
Did I feel sexually satisfied, and balanced, YES !
I also get a craving to suck cock . Even before I was married I had several men That I could go to to satisfy this urge. And somrtimes one was not enough.
I don't play often, but when I do I feel pretty OK with it. It's been 4 years since my wife and I even saw each other naked, much less had sex. I have no desire to tell her and she has no desire to know. So, I don't feel guilty. Don't have second thoughts. Mostly I enjoyed the moment and then go home and enjoy my family and home life. Two separate worlds meeting two separate needs.
I'll be honest and say I feel somewhat guilty. I don't like doing anything behind my wife's back. I'd much prefer the kind of open relationship that some of you guys have.
But I have to say that if I wasn't meeting with a guy, my frustration level over the lack of sexual intimacy with my wife would be through the roof. She does not even try to meet my sexual needs and when they aren't met, most everything else in the relationship suffers. But when I do get my needs met, albeit outside the marriage, things are better within the marriage.
I think I'm in a "don't ask, don't tell" situation and right now everything seems to be at a level calm, which is good.
How cool was that does she ever watch
Wife and I haven't had sex in years. At first I did feel guilty but as time went on her lack of interest in sex I feel no guilt at all now. If she dose know something she never brings it up
Wife & i play together for the most part so always Cheerfullllll :-)
My wife knows so it's all good.
re Christopher South: I find your reply interesting in that you need to go outside your marriage to get your needs met. My question is why do you seek sexual gratification from men rather than women?
Not trying to put words in Christopher Souths mouth but I am married in s situation very similar to his. I search out men instead of women for 2 reasons. First off I find it a lot easier to have feelings for women that I have sex with. Since I've been married there have been 2 women I've met that I've wanted to have a relationship with but despite the no sexual aspect of my marriage, I took my vows and promised before God to stay with her.
Second although I like cock and get excited seeing feeling and sucking one, I've never met a man I wanted to pick curtains out at Bed Bath and Beyond with.
In a present friendship with a guy who's relationship with his wife is very similar to mine, we meet talk for about 10 -15 minutes
take turns sucking each other off. Then we bullshit about sports or politics for a 1/2 hour or so slide into a 69 position and suck each other's cocks again. After we bust, we get dressed kiss each other and 2-3 weeks later repeat.
I can't do that with a woman, I find myself wondering what she is doing and coming up with plans to see her again. I guess I'm just a romantic at heart.
I feel horny wanting more cock if I was not married I have a red light on all the time in or outside my home
Im probably fucked either way but I really like the way married guys make the most of time spent together.
maybe i'm deluding myself but I feel guys just want to get off and don't want drama.
If I could find a married woman nearby that just wanted to get off and go home I would do that in a heartbeat but at my age it like searching for a needle in a haystack.
When I was single I slept with several married women and it always seemed to wind up with them showing up on my doorstep at the most inconvenient time. Maybe younger women today are different but women around my age seem to want something more permanent.
I think chub-bi pretty much answered the question for me. I will add that I actually did look into finding a girlfriend but didn't for two reasons. First, no woman wants a middle-aged, married guy as a fuck buddy that hits and runs. Second, I had years of hetero-sex activity but no gay sex activity until this started so it was an opportunity to explore. Finally, finding a guy is much easier.
To answer Havasmoke's question, I still feel I'm breaking my marriage vows. One can argue that my wife broke hers first but it doesn't make it right. I consider this cheating.
As for her being more upset, she was more upset that (a) I cheated and (b) I never told her I was bisexual. The fact I cheated with a guy wasn't really an issue. She was brought up in a very liberal family that was very accepting to the LGBT community.
I just did this today early morning. My wife knows have her blessing since medically her sex drive has dropped to zero over the past 2 years. I have fucked a woman gad 3 guys suck me I have sucked 1. But my wife and I were talking about it and actually a few hours a go, she is far less threatened by men than competing with another woman.
BEAUTIFUL and BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!
Cheating is cheating if you are doing it without your spouses knowledge or consent. Doesn't matter if it's guy/guy or girl/girl. My Husband would let me do a guy or another chick if I wanted to on my own. Our third comes over every week or two and we spend the day together playing. I tell my Husband about it and it gets him extremely hot. I'd never go play with someone without letting him know what I was going to do and I am pretty sure he'd extend the same courtesy to me as this is our agreement.
As someone that had been cheated on several times through previous relationships (I have never EVER EVER with held sex), it's hurtful no matter what and does nothing but causes divide and long term emotional damage for the one that was cheated on. It's cruel and mean. If you can't be honest with your sig. other, you are with the wrong person. Sneaking around is wrong and you clearly know it because ........... you are sneaking.
My heart agrees completely. But well, some things come from a bit further south. Those can be a dilemma...or, as I was told by an older, ex-hell's angel once," A stiff dick has no conscience"...
Thank you for your comment, SecretlyNaughty.
You and your husband, and my wife and I, are all very fortunate to have similar thoughts in this area. We understand the desires and needs of each other and take care to emphasize and honor the bond that was created when we said our wedding vows. We have reached out to others to share physical pleasures within the context of a strong continuing commitment to one another and, above all, value trust and honesty to ensure that there are no hurt feelings or turmoil that arises as a result of this activity. Everything needs to be above-board, and agreed-to in advance of anything that deviates from what you normally do together.
This past weekend, I enjoyed the company of another man, with the full knowledge and approval of my loving wife. I told her of the initial meeting the day before, and kissed her on the way out the door when I left for playtime the following day. And I brought coffee home for her when we finished.
It did feel a little strange going downstairs when I got home, but it went smoothly. She asked if I had a good time and commented that I wasn't gone for very long. I replied that, 'Well, it doesn't take all that long, you know.' And she said, 'Yeah, but I know you like to take your time.'
I do like to prolong the pleasure, but somehow being away for a long session the first time with a man while your wife is at home, doesn't seem right...
Silky, I have to say, that was beautiful, man. I'm the same way with Sharon. I want some dick & ass, but we were among the last to still have the " love, honor & obey" clause in our vows to each other. I love her so much, it hurts when she abuses me in the typical female fashion. Past menopause, she has no drive left...or so she acts like? Read the stories I post, & check out Marie's behavior. That's something of Sharon that I know is there, lurking under the surface, waiting to be brought out..in the right way. I've never cheated, although when she left me once, she did, Cried her broken heart out to me about it. So it's only a matter of situational differences making things happen. Idk what to do sometimes?
this^^
great, blame your infidelity on your wife, whatever helps you sleep at night...
again this^^
i'll be honest here, i haven't always been faithful when it came to my marriage and my bisexuality, but i always knew it for what it was, cheating plain and simple. i did feel guilty, but at that time was so selfish i made excuses to make myself feel better... which is what it seems that a lot here do..
I don't really feel any differently except the fact that I was able to scratch that itch and take care of my occasional desire.
We just want some good dick, ass, & pussy! Why do we have to have all this drama?