I can't get hard when I see a guy giving bj, how do I get around this?

Hello!
I'm straight male looking to get bjs from bisexual males lately cos most of them enjoy it very much.
When I see a guy giving a bj my mind rejects the idea and I can't get hard. Finds it repulsive.

Is there a way I could train my mind to get turned on when a guy sucks my cock?
Why don't I want a bj from a gal? cos they demand a lot of things. They don't do it for free. Most of them
don't crave it. They want me to do a lot of things for them in return.

What's so great about bisexual men? That some actually crave sucking cock and they can have mine
if I could train my brain to be attracted to that.

Put some porn on while he sucks you off.:bigrin: Many wouldn't care if you ignore them while their at it, and you are welcome to use porn to get you hard for it.

In time you may naturally get over that 'repulse' reaction to having a man's mouth on your cock. Forget 'gay'! Forget your sexuality! Just concentrate on how nice it is to have your cock sucked......and enjoy.

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"Just concentrate on how nice it is to have your cock sucked......and enjoy."

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Hear! Hear!

My first M-M contact came during a 3-way with my wife and another guy. I was standing next to him as he knelt on the floor, eating my wife's pussy at the end of the bed. He suddenly turned his head and took my cock into his mouth and sucked on it, briefly. Before this, I had no indication that he was interested in cock at all, so it came as a surprise to me.

I was equally surprised at my own reaction: I wasn't repulsed at all. I realized that it feels good to have your cock sucked, even if the cocksucker is another man! It was, in a sense, the beginning of a major turn in my life, as I realized that I wanted to try sucking cock, too.

I feel the same way as the original poster when it comes to fucking another man's ass. I think I would have difficulty getting it up! Now, if he were a smooth-shaven CD or TG, I'd get into that. I like cocks, and I like femininity. I'll suck or bottom for a hairy, masculine guy, but that's about as much as I care to do with them.

No offense to anybody, just my preference. :)

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Originally Posted by Silkyhoselover

I was equally surprised at my own reaction: I wasn't repulsed at all.

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God, that's just great when that happens.:bowdown: We just don't know until we try, with lots of things.

Everything I've done with a bloke, has been to see if I like it or not. But when a bloke does something to/with you out of the blue and you like it....it's kinda magical.:tongue: You got an extra liking that you never even considered. I'm glad that bloke sucked your cock at that time. He did you a bigger favour than he thought.lol

"Train yourself to enjoy a guy sucking your cock?" You aren't bisexual. Stick with gals.

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Originally Posted by NakedInSeattle

"Train yourself to enjoy a guy sucking your cock?" You aren't bisexual. Stick with gals.

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I agree. Unless you are sexually aroused by a guy sucking your dick, why try it? It takes two to experience the great blow job you want. So, until you can translate your sexual passion into sexual actions that your cock sucker craves and do all he can to reward you, stick with the gals.

This is a hard one. Haha. May I suggest you first look a some gay movies with real good story line in them. I remember first time I got hard watching gay sex, well sort of, was from the movie Midnight Express.Most of gay sex on the internet will do nothing for you. Some bisex porn maybe, but I think you first have to get your mind to accept gay sex, and without you becoming engaged in the story, I don't think it will happen. There is plenty of good movies on Youtube if you look. Two that I like is "Rockheaven" and "Latterdays".But these movies is not porn, but do have gay sex in them, so give them a try.
Best of luck.

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Originally Posted by GiovanniPHL

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If the person is not bisexual and they're hetero like the guy who wrote this topic is...they can watch all the bi and gay porn he wants, or gay/bi themed movies and they're not going to get turned on by men or by having a man suck them off.

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He consider himself straight, havn't we all done that at some time in our life. Why did he come here, there is plenty of gay site he could have gone to. Just saying.

The OP seems to be a interesting contradictions to me ;)

He wants a bj from a bisexual man because he thinks that they like giving bj and women are too much trouble. His issue is that he thinks that he will not get hard or stay hard if a guy is giving him a bj.

The OP writes that he is straight and as others point out guys have claimed to be straight and gotten hard if another guy is giving them a bj. The OP says that he doesn't get hard watching a guy give another guy a bj..then again he has not had anyones lips wrapped around his own dick either. He might get hard...lots of guys can ignore the person giving a bj attractability and enjoy the bj. The OP doesn't seem to have tried getting a bj from a bi or gay man. (funny how he exludes gay men?)

I guess it depends upon what is the more challenging..dealing with women's wants/demands or accepting that a man is sucking on his dick. I'm suspecting that if he gives it a try, that he may very well like it...lol

Close your eyes?

I'm sorry, but did I miss something? Women don't do it for free? When did hoping for a little pleasure in return become a selfish thing? If all you want is to get off and not have to bother yourself with pleasing someone else, that's what hands and glory holes are for! Just my opinion of course.

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Originally Posted by tenni

The OP seems to be a interesting contradictions to me ;)

I guess it depends upon what is the more challenging..dealing with women's wants/demands or accepting that a man is sucking on his dick. I'm suspecting that if he gives it a try, that he may very well like it...lol

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I suspect that some disappointed cocksucker will be dealing with a floppy dick.

The first time I pulled my cock out in front of another guy I was surprised that I was already half hard and the second he began sucking me I was at full erection! I didn't cum the first time (I was too nervous and couldn't relax), But I did enjoy it very much. The second time was with another guy, he began sucking my cock too and I was as hard as hell but again couldn't cum. I sucked his cock and I was very turned on by this and held my erection during the entire BJ until he came in my mouth! HOTT!!!!!! But again I wasn't able cum....... The third time however was the charm!! This time as my partner was sucking my cock he moved to the 69 position, I took his cock into my mouth and that animal passion took over and before I knew it I was cuming in buckets!! So ya never know until you try.

How do you get to Carnegie Hall?....Practice, practice

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Originally Posted by karma803

I'm sorry, but did I miss something? Women don't do it for free? When did hoping for a little pleasure in return become a selfish thing? If all you want is to get off and not have to bother yourself with pleasing someone else, that's what hands and glory holes are for! Just my opinion of course.

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LOL It took the until the 14th post to come up with the obvious answer 'GLORY HOLE'.:oh:
We are not worthy!:bowdown:

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Originally Posted by NakedInSeattle

"Train yourself to enjoy a guy sucking your cock?" You aren't bisexual. Stick with gals.

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I don't agree...Be realistic...many men (including myself) have had sex with...I hate to be this harsh...ugly women! Were I hated myself the next day but I did it because I was horny!

in under those conditions I've noticed I might have drank too much the previous night...a good3-4 ginn and tonics should still keep you hard and get the idea of the guy sucking you out of your head...or imagine he's a really ugly girl LOL

Groove311,,,what's the latest news about you???

What happened to the glory hole a week ago? Went online and a man set up a glory hole at his house so he called me to meet him at night.
I showed up and waited outside but nobody showed up. I was waiting in my car the whole time like he asked.

When am I gonna do it with a guy? I am willing to try it. I am willing to get it done by a guy who actually enjoys it instead of paying $100
each time.

What about gay porn? I've watched it a lot and it's not that repulsive anymore.

I disagree with this.

When was the last time a woman wanted to give you oral sex? For me she said she loved to do it then she asked me for $100.

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Originally Posted by NakedInSeattle

"Train yourself to enjoy a guy sucking your cock?" You aren't bisexual. Stick with gals.

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I Agree 100%
Stick to chicks. He isn't Bi.

The month has gone by. Have you tried anymore connections to give your cock to another man with out having trouble getting hard?

I'm sorry, but lust works both ways! And attitude is far more attractive the pure animal magnetism, so perhaps conflicting personalities are at play here too. Maybe women don't like how you or your cock look? Maybe you come across as being a jerk (even if you aren't)? I don't know. Since I started swinging, I've had no problem getting laid or getting blowjobs, from men or women! And I've never had to buy the service! I am married, but have had more cock and pussy after marriage than before!

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Originally Posted by NakedInSeattle

"Train yourself to enjoy a guy sucking your cock?" You aren't bisexual. Stick with gals.

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I agree ! You admit you are str8 but are surprised to cannot get a hard seeing another guys cock :) I am Bi and have always been tuurned on seeing another guys hard cock. Dont think you can train yourself to be Bi or gay but in some circumstances , a few drinks help, you can make yourself desire some sexual action and if only another guy is available make the best of it. My problem is finding that cool BI guy too many str8 guys around :)

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groove311,

Each and every person is different, I had an aversion to the idea because of my religious upbringing. But in the army (not in combat) where a quick blowjob was appreciated and even if no one spoke of knowing of it's existence, everyone knew and those who took advantage never spoke of it. I often heard it was a great reliever of tensions. I sought out my first, and at the time I thought that I would close my eyes till it was all over, need to say I received a very enjoyable blow job. As we were not allowed to smoke there, I sat in the dark listening when a cock brushed my shoulder and I turned to it and made a pitiful job of giving a blowjob, the guy splattered on my face, then said thanks and turned and left, and I was alone. For a while after that I observed the cocksuckers as I enjoyed their work on my cock, I made a mental note of all the most enjoyable things they did. Several months later I again sat alone in the dark and a cock presented itself to me, I gently engulfed it and I think I gave a great blowjob because the guy was grabbing my head and humping my throat till my throat was filled with sperm. Whenever I needed my cock sucked I noted the scent of my sperm appeared and others tended to get the guys horny. If you have the ballz it will happen, I for one enjoy it.

It took a long time and many, many attempts before I could get hard for a guy to suck me. It took even longer for me to cum while being sucked. Not because I had an aversion to it; I had been sucking cock myself since I was 15. I had no problems when a female wanted my cock; I'd get rock hard. For some reason; maybe my upbringing or maybe my idiosyncrasies, it just took me a long time to get there. So, groove311, if it's something you think you really want, then keep trying. But make sure you're upfront and honest with your cocksucker by letting him know you may not respond to him. Don't worry, some of us cocksuckers take it as a personal challenge of our cocksucking skills and are eager to go for it anyway. Good luck!

Groove311 is absolutely right on girls. Girls (most of them, not all) are either using men to obtain money and stuff, or they simply "maintain" them, having no interest in sucking a man other than their sense of duty. This, still falls short of having one dick sucked just because the sucker loves sucking it. You can't beat it (no pun intended).
So, what I would recommend Grove doing (if he so wants to change his own sexuality) is to do as all trainers do - slow move from existing situation to desired situation by passing many multiple stages.
Take up an interest to ladyboys, specifically, latin and asian ones. They are extremely feminine and sexy, all the while sporting huge dicks and voice tone. From there, you will slowly travel to more masculine, because, you will be looking for a partner that likes you more than your money, and that, as is everything in life, is less good looking than great being.

One danger on the way, though. You might start thinking of sucking a cock too, as the trappings of directed cultural upbringing fall off and you realize how cool of a toy it is.
Have fun!