Trying to figure this out finally!
So when I was around 21 I started liking trans porn and gay porn and liking stuff up my ass, I never looked at guys in a sexual way though in public. I've always been about women, have slept with lots and lots, and have had amazing relationships and was married. But I'm in my late 20s now and I started finding I think about guys a lot and yes I still think about women but not as much, but when I have sex with my gf I love it! She gets me really turned on. I have never been with a guy and nor do I want to be unless it's a 3 some or fantasy in my mind with one but my mind is always thinking about it. I know I'm not gay, I just don't understand how I can feel this way now when I never had a sane sex thought until my early 20s?!?! Didn't care then but now I do? It bothers me a lot and my gf knows about it all and is cool. I am just confused.... Bi curious, fully Bi or straight? Thanks guys
Re: Trying to figure this out finally!
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Well, you never had a thought about men until you were in your early 20's? There are guys who reached 40 before a conscious thought about sex with men entered their mind. I suspect that you are still processing your sexuality. Bottom line is that you are sexually attached to both women and men. There is an aspect of fluidity that happens to some people. Sometimes they are more attracted to women and no men at all . Another time (year or ?) they may swing all the other way and only be sexually attracted to men and not women. How often and how far this swing may happen varies. Just to make you more confused. Factor that in if it happens to you. At the present, you only want to be with a man if your g/f is present. That may be for self reassurance. You may feel more comfortable that way. Take it slow and easy. If you really want a label, you are probably bisexual but could call yourself bi curious until your first time with a man sexually.
As I wrote, you are attracted to both men and women. One day you may even find yourself emotionally attracted to a man or you may never feel that way. The point that you are now finding more focusing on men is telling. Don't marry a woman who can not accept this aspect of yourself and is willing to let you try sex with a man one day if you want to. Insist on that option. If she says that she can not accept that, she is not for you. Dump her no matter how much emotion that you feel for her unhappiness probably lies ahead with such women. Look at your dual attraction as a positive. You have doubled your pleasure by including men and women into who you are attracted to!:wiggle2::bounce:
Re: Trying to figure this out finally!
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tenni
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Well, you never had a thought about men until you were in your early 20's? There are guys who reached 40 before a conscious thought about sex with men entered their mind. I suspect that you are still processing your sexuality. Bottom line is that you are sexually attached to both women and men. There is an aspect of fluidity that happens to some people. Sometimes they are more attracted to women and no men at all . Another time (year or ?) they may swing all the other way and only be sexually attracted to men and not women. How often and how far this swing may happen varies. Just to make you more confused. Factor that in if it happens to you. At the present, you only want to be with a man if your g/f is present. That may be for self reassurance. You may feel more comfortable that way. Take it slow and easy. If you really want a label, you are probably bisexual but could call yourself bi curious until your first time with a man sexually.
As I wrote, you are attracted to both men and women. One day you may even find yourself emotionally attracted to a man or you may never feel that way. The point that you are now finding more focusing on men is telling. Don't marry a woman who can not accept this aspect of yourself and is willing to let you try sex with a man one day if you want to. Insist on that option. If she says that she can not accept that, she is not for you. Dump her no matter how much emotion that you feel for her unhappiness probably lies ahead with such women. Look at your dual attraction as a positive. You have doubled your pleasure by including men and women into who you are attracted to!:wiggle2::bounce:
Thank you! Lol it's just so confusing, like today a girl came in to work and I would have bent her over in my office.... Lol guess excepting is the hardest part? I need to realize I like both sexes and just live with it. Btw my GF is Bi but is like a 2 on the scale. Haha this is very hard, how does one learn to control thought? It's an emotional roller coaster for me!!!! I know I want a woman in my heart but my mind wants to have fun with both?!?!
