Bi BDSM

I have enjoyed bdsm play with a woman where I am the submissive. I am wanting to experiment with a male,,any thoughts on the subject? Any good personal experience?

I used to think I might enjoy BDSM with a girl. Not so much because I was into that kink, but because I thought it if it really turned on the gal, that might actually turn me on even more.

So I was going with this girl back in the '80s, or trying to anyway. We didn't get along all that well. One day after sex we were doing pillow talk and she told me she'd always wanted to handcuff a guy and then have her way with him. I told she was free to do that with me if she wanted. She seemed very appreciative telling me I was the first guy that was willing to go along with that with her. I thought maybe we'd found something to make our relationship work.

Shortly after that I was at her house. She had a very vicious dog she kept in the back yard. For some reason she put it on a leash and brought it in the house and the dog immediately barks, growls and snaps at me. I ask her to take the dog outside, obviously nervous about the dog. She says "What? You afraid of him?", and starts coming closer to me with the dog. She's taunting me with the dog. I lost it and the dog could smell it.

I keep asking her to take the dog outside. I'm sitting on the couch and she lets the dog come to within about 3 feet of me saying again, "You afraid of him?". I was VERY uncomfortable and she seemed to be getting off on the power the dog gave her. Finally she took the dog back outside and then rags on me for being such a sissy about it.

I told myself right then I'd NEVER let her handcuff me. God knows what she might have done. We broke up within a few days of that.

So here's the true story of my only m2m BDSM, although it was unintentional on my part. This happened maybe 3 to 4 years ago:

I'd advertised on Craigslist one evening that I was a submissive bottom that wanted to suck cock and maybe get laid. What I'd meant by submissive, and always assumed most other guys meant, was that I'd let the other guy take charge and do whatever he wanted.

A guy answers my ad. Turns out he lived just 3 blocks from me and I'd sucked him off before. I head down to his apartment. He opens the door and immediately "commands" me to get on my knees, closing the door behind me. He's wearing a jock strap. He tells me if I want to suck his cock (and he had a nice one) I had to remove his jock strap with my teeth only- no hands. If I use my hands he says he'll slap me.

Hey, whatever the guy wants, but this wasn't what I expected. Last time I just came over and sucked him off.

So I try to take the jock off using my teeth and it's hard. I can't help but to try and use my hands but each time I bring my hands up he gives me a pretty solid slap. This goes on maybe five minutes before he says I'm totally screwing up and if I keep trying to use my hands he'll put me in shackles.

I can't get his jock off so he says he's gonna get the cuffs. Then he politely asks if I mind if he shackles my hands. Hey, I'm here to please, so I say that would be fine. I'm hoping eventually he'll just let me suck him off.

He brings out some cheap looking old style handcuffs and chains my hands behind me. I still can't do it. He slaps me a few more times. After about 20 minutes of this he seems to get tired of it. He takes of the chains telling me how worthless I am but also takes off his jock. He sits down on a chair and lets me at his big, hard cock.

He says I have to do it right, though, and deep throat it all the way down. I try to go all the way down but he forces me and I gag. He slaps me and pulls it out saying I'm not doing it right. We try two or three times and he's still not satisfied. I almost beg him to let me have his load, but that just makes him play the game harder.

Finally he gets up, puts on his pants and says I'm not worthy of him and I had to go. I suggest that I can still get him off but he'll have none of it so I get up to go.

As I stand there by the door he reverts to his normal self and we end up chatting for probably another 20 minutes about one thing or another. He even invited me over for dinner sometime.

During the conversation it came out that he thought of submissive in the BDSM sense, not as I (and I imagine most guys) think of it. If I hadn't used submissive in my ad I probably could have just gone and done it to him as I did the first time.

As it was, it was almost scary while it was happening. Not for me. My mood was pretty much spoiled and I went home without sucking his cock. I haven't seen him since.

One of my dreams is a lady dominated us both

Honestly, I think Mr. Fredtyg got mixed up with a couple of head cases, and they do get attracted to BDSM. It's what gives the kink such a bad name. It's really hard to find good partners for play like that. Some really bad people get attracted to the scene sometimes.

I have had a couple of experiences with a M/F couple, with her in control. That's what made it fun for me, her being in control. The guy was hot, too. Our emphasis was on the BD rather than the SM. Good fun for all.

I've recently met a guy who, it seems, has some experience in the BDSM scene. He's already described some scenarios to me, and having something of a sub streak in my make up, I find them rather exciting. While I admit I am kind of curious to play with this fellow, I'm still not quite 100% sold. I haven't t closed the lines of communication yet so who knows what will transpire....?

From what I know, and I have a little experience, true BDSM is consensual, boundaries are pre-agreed before anything happens and a safe word is agreed upon. Either of the parties can call a halt to the proceedings by using the safe word, BDSM is still sex and it's still about mutual pleasure. I've dommed a submissive guy I used to know. He was a transvestite and one night I had him undressed, in the normal way and later on dressed, he found his female persona was submissive, so I dommed her and we had a great time. Knowing him unleashed that part of me that could dominate another person, but as someone mentioned on a different thread, the pleasure is mutual, I feel that when I'm doing it I'm giving pleasure and not taking it, because that's how I'm wired.

With my partner, who isn't submissive but does appreciate an assertive lover, we switch things around quite a bit, sometimes he pounds me like a porn star and other times I'm the one possessing and taking him. He loves it and we're slowly inching along as he communicates his desire for me to take control more often (although sometimes I just do it!) I don't think there's any agenda, we're just evolving our sex life, and I do love to make him happy, it makes me so happy.

i done it a few times but with guys i know and it can be fun

Actually I have had an old g/f who like to be submissive was alot of fun. My dream is be a ladies pet and her dom me, getting hard thinking about it.

you have to be sure who you do it with i let a woman and her husband do the me the frist time and got got more than i wanted knew them a while doing 3 somes she wanted me to do bdsm with them well as soon as i got handcuffed and tied over a table it got me more than i exspected at first it was some hand spanking and being throath fucked by him and her using a strapon on me and i kind of got in to that then she got out a leather strap and really turned my ass red next thing i know her friend from work was there and had a 8 inch thick dick up my ass after he got through with me she said had enough and i said yes she said i am not done bitch she give me a hard whipping with a singal tail whip left welts on my ass for a week never met them again