Sounds like we both had a bad 1st time? I feel your pain & your dilemma. You & I both need a man that's gentle & understanding that's not into pain & all that crap. I don't like rough stuff at all. I'd be glad to talk about things if it'd make you feel better. The guy that did it to me was scary & being 10 & hung, I feared for my life! It was the boonies of PA, so the middle of nowhere. So we can help each other if you'd care to?