Do older men turn bi??? [Archive] - Page 2

Christopher South

Oct 14, 2015, 1:09 PM

An internet search brought me to this site and I just joined. This is my first post. I'm in my early 70's, lifelong marriage and became interested in sex with men at about 65. For me, the interest just hit me and can't explain why. My first encounter was with a married man about my age who I met on a business trip. Talked about women and he asked if I ever did anything with a man. In my youth, some typical experimenting. Went to my hotel room for what I thought would be to JO and I rather quickly performed oral sex on him. He did it to me and we did it again. After, I felt guilty and couldn't believe what I did. My wife was still quite oral so I wondered why that same act with a guy seemed so erotic. Had several other similar encounters, retired and continued my interest locally, but now very discreetly. I was initially surprised that so many other married men were seeking MM sex. It seems quite normal these days. Are there other guys out there who are still active in their 70's? I find it easy to connect with other normal, rational men. In my case, I engage in conversation first and then meet in a public place for reality check. Thereafter, we know what we're willing to do and do it.

I'm also a "late-in-life" guy, except my bisexuality first showed up when I was in my teens. Never acted on it. These days I see plenty of guys my age (60's+) who engage in MSM.

While I'm not in my 70's, two guys I have met up with were. One looked like he was 50 (really surprised me when he said he was 70) and another guy who is 72. Granted many guys in this age category don't perform like they used to but there is still fun to be had.

Billie2

Apr 19, 2016, 3:21 AM

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DonLee

Apr 20, 2016, 1:39 PM

A big reason why men of age 50 and older "turn" bisexual is because their wives had lost interest in sex. When I was fifty and sixty I was fucking young women of 20 and 30 when my wife just quit sex completely. After a while I began to want to know what they liked about men and decided to experiment. I liked what I found. I can be totally "fem" in bed with the right man!

liberlib

Apr 20, 2016, 5:28 PM

Actually, I have to challenge the 'because their wives had lost interest in sex" [bwlis] theory. I don't doubt that it may be a factor for many but it's only one among several. For myself, my wife actually seemed to develop more interest in sex--it was me that changed. If it was just bwlis reason, Don Lee comment about 'fucking young women' would be likely response and I would expect to be more common although the sense of guilt in an non-open relationship could twist that some.

DownBoy

Apr 22, 2016, 9:54 PM

void()

Apr 26, 2016, 10:22 AM

Yes! And if you do hook up, meet an older man, keep him! They are the best lovers ever! They have the experience of pounding a sweet hole, but are also intimate and gentle. Any man aged 40+ are my go-to tops. Major bonuses if they're bald, chubby/stocky, and have a goatee. But, that's just my preferred reference.

Not bald, but a little chubby, or paunchy although mostly wiry, got a goatee during Spring & Summer that grows out to full neck and face beard during Autumn & Winter, be 44 come the 29th of this month. I'm a rather fuzzy bear what has no intent to do all the 'fashionable' twaddle of hair removal or what is dubbed 'manscaping'. See no great need of out, I'm straight act bi guy that gets musky when he dives into work or certain aspects of play. I keep a general attitude of what you see, you get, like it or leave it.

But I'm not altogether writing this to express interest in you. Merely stating some observations, and a view.

earloftexas

Jul 9, 2016, 6:25 PM

I have been bisexual since I was in my late teens. I had LOTS of "jackoff buddies" when I was very, very young and really enjoyed mutual jackoff with them, as well as anal and oral sex. When I was almost 18, I had my first sexual intercourse with a girl. She was about 23 and had been married. We had been dancing and drinking a few beers. I told her that I was getting ready to have my 18th birthday, she flipped ! ! ! She asked me if she could bum a ride home and naturally I agreed. When we got to her apartment, she had moved over next to me and started kissing my neck and feeling my crotch, and told me that she wanted to give me a "special" birthday present. I had a hardon that you could drive nails with, and we went into her apartment. She had me naked in a nano-second and herself too. She pushed me down on the bed and told me to get between her legs and start fucking......When I told her that I had never fucked a girl before, she said, "Honey, you are going to get the fucking of your youth".........That was about 50 years ago, and I still remember fucking her SEVEN times that night. My cock never got soft the first 5 times we fucked. As I continued to date girls, I kept in touch with my jackoff buddies and continued to have sex with them almost as often as I got fucked by a girl. I did not think I was "strange" at that time, but did not want to be labeled as a "queer" (guys that were gay were referred to as being queer back then). I continued this lifestyle even after meeting the girl I later married (and still married to the same girl). The last time I had sex with a buddy was two weeks before I got married. He came by my apartment and we went to his apartment and stripped and sucked and fucked for 4 hours. It was fabulous. Two weeks later I got married and we immediately moved 750 miles away from my jackoff/fuckbuddies and I gave up my contacts with my male friends, and....since I had just married, I had all the sex I could handle. I stayed str8 for many years but when landed a job with a company that required me to travel quite a bit, I started having sex with girls AND guys again.....very discretely.
I must say that I enjoy the guy sex as much or MORE that sex with my sweetie......

Likesboth

Jul 9, 2016, 7:19 PM

I'm 57 and had my first taste of another man at 55. It wasn't because my wife let herself go, goodness knows none of us look like 20 year olds anymore.
I think it is a combination of social rules becoming more relaxed and my own maturity allowing me to explore my own desires as I near the end of my physical peak.
Life is a journey and sexual expression is part of life's journey. The sexual experience and expression I share with my wife is wonderful and unique. So is the sexual expression and experience I share with another man on occasion. The love I have for my wife is true and everlasting, I'm not abandoning her for another, be it a manager or a woman.
Some people don't drink, some don't smoke, some don't suck dicks...
to each his own. All is well.

al_atlanta

Jul 13, 2016, 11:23 PM

Always have loved having a guy go down on me, but sucked only 4. As I get older I do find myself wanting to go down more. For me the best is when a wife watches and joins in.

lizard-lix

Jul 14, 2016, 7:56 AM

I sucked my first cock at 11 (didn't even start with girls till 15 when they started to play), loved it since, but it took 36 years before my wife let me back out to play with guys. So while it looks like I am just coming out in my late 50's, I've been bi all my life.

Realist

Jul 14, 2016, 10:24 AM

Good Question and some interesting answers.

I have talked to some members and acquaintances of both genders, who had their first experiences later in life. Each of them seem to have different opinions why they developed that desire.

One lady swore she never considered being with another female, until after her husband died. She sold her home and moved in with a life-long friend, who seduced her. She loved her husband and they had a great life, but her relationship with her female friend was here most rewarding experience, ever! When she revealed her secret to me, she was in her 70s!

There's been many more men, though, who have admitted they became conscious of their newfound MM urges after 50.

My very first sexually, but non-orgasmic, contact with another male, was at 5! I got a spanking for kissing both boys and girls at a birthday party. It never changed my interest in both genders, though.

Havasmoke

Jul 14, 2016, 1:33 PM

I am 62 and have been having thoughts of being with a man for the last couple of years. I love my wife and we have sex. That has nothing to do with it. Frankly, I'm not sure where these feelings came from. If I had to pick something, it would be pornography. Suddenly I find myself watching gay porn, especially where the theme is straight guys having sex with straight guys. I've not done anything about these impulses, but they are definitely there. When I check sites, like this one, that cater to men finding men to have sex with, there seems to be a lot of guys that are like me. I'm not sure why it's happening. My moral compass says it would be wrong to cheat on my wife, but the desire is there to try sucking a cock. One of the mysteries of life, I guess.

WestTxCouple1

Jul 14, 2016, 4:54 PM

Don't believe that people "turn," we all make choices. Possibly, when we were younger and experimented more openly, there were ample opportunities for either a more gay type experience or for an unexpected bi-experience. Seems like during the very busy middle-years, work, commitments, family, etc. impose social restrictions that make "road blocks" for having Bi experiences. Then after a certain age, or with the "right" spouse/life partner, the kids are gone, one can again experience the pleasures of S E X just for the sure joy of it (no matter how each of us chooses to want it).

My spouse supports and likes to watch me with another man...... we both like to have new experiences. It is, was not, and never will be, just a matter of 'turning" (choosing) to be anything. More like having the strength of character to accept that one likes to have "same-sex" experiences periodically and enjoy them to the MAX.............

George51

Jul 15, 2016, 2:27 AM

My desires have just strengthened over the years. No sudden change. I realised that that there was no point fighting my desires when I was in my late twenties. A colleague exposed his very large erection to me, as a joke. I laughed of course, as expected, then went off somewhere quiet to masturbate. The sight excited me so much. I like being bi. I can have it all.

George51

Jul 15, 2016, 2:32 AM

[QUOTE=Likesboth;304727]I'm 57 and had my first taste of another man at 55. It wasn't because my wife let herself go, goodness knows none of us look like 20 year olds anymore. I think it is a combination of social rules becoming more relaxed and my own maturity allowing me to explore my own desires as I near the end of my physical peak.'

An excellent post.

I don't think age is a big factor. I find women of a similar age to mine quite sexy. No pretence with older women either. Femininity is also a big factor. And to me at least, far more important than looks. But, having said that, I also find that a lot of older women are cranky, and maybe bitter. Perhaps part of the reason why I also enjoy cock.

Having said that, there really are so many reasons why I do. :)

rayt48

Aug 3, 2016, 2:47 PM

As for myself I don't really remember any strong bisexual feelings until my late 50s. I came to realize that I was increasingly seeking out gay porn on the internet to masturbate. I am now 68 and the need to be sexually submissive to another is an almost constant desire. Both my wife and I were virgins when we married and she has no idea of my desires or that I secretly wear her panties. While viewing gay porn I always get an erection. When I was younger seeing my wife naked would of course elicit a erection but now I really struggle to get an erection when she agrees to permit me sex. If I do get an erection I often ejaculate before entering or shortly after entering her pussy. She's commented that she thinks I am becoming impotent and that sex leaves her feeling frustrated. I do wonder if my bisexual desires are a result of my submissiveness and sissy tendencies. Just the thought of sucking a cock or imagining a pair of strong hands gripping my hips while urgently thrusting in me never fails to excite me.

NakedFun38

Aug 3, 2016, 3:05 PM

The older I get the strong it gets or the older I get the more I let it out. My wife doesn't know and even though she has changed as I have, she is more beautiful to me now than ever. We've been getting it on and she loves the anal.

cuttin2dachase

Aug 4, 2016, 6:50 PM

I'm of the opinion that some people are born to be homosexual....they have the physical attributes of the gender they're born as, but their genes predispose them to feel and act consciously or subconsciously like their opposite genders and thus desire their same gender sexually. They are essentially taught at a young age that boys and girls are supposed to prefer their opposite gender. It is not a birth defect or abnormality or sickness as some homophobes would have us believe. Many other homophobic things they are taught by their parents, teachers, clergy, and peers influence them and it causes them so much guilt and shame about their same gender preferences. Luckily things have changed for the better over the last several generations and now only the most unenlightened parents, teachers, clergy and peers still consider homosexuality to be unnatural.

I also believe that people who are not predisposed to be homosexual are born with a blank slate with the capacity to later make the choice to be heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. It becomes a product of what they are taught to believe and what they actually experience when they become sexually inquisitive and begin exploring sex in their own. Since I'm male I can only speak for my own gender. Some boys are sexually abused at a young age by adult men, raped or otherwise forced to have oral and/or anal sex...that is sick and perverted. It both physically and emotionally affects their sexual behavior their whole lives. In some cases that is what "turns" them to be gay or bisexual...either early in life or later on when they are adult men of any age. Other adolescent and teen boys are curious and explore same gender sex on their own with no coercion, either prior to or after their first sexual exploration with girls. They may or may not ever "turn" bisexual or gay. But it seems from most threads I've read on this and other mm sites that having a homoerotic experience as an adolescent or teen male prior to settling down with a wife or gf makes it a hell of a lot more likely that they will sooner or later in life re-"turn" to desiring mm sex. In my case, I had one homoerotic experience when I was 15 with a 17 yr old neighborhood pal. I had already had sex with an older girl twice and was pussy crazy. I pretty much forgot about and blew off my one homosexual encounter (no pun intended). It didn't seem like a big deal to me. I played sports in high school I was often naked in the shower with lots of sweaty teammates after practice and I never got a hard on or desired cock. In college I had 3 male apartment mates and never did the thought of mm sex cross my mind. Then 17 years later, being adventurous and swinging with an adventurous hotwife, I tried mm oral sex at her coaxing and that was it...I instantly "turned" bisexual. It was only then that I remembered my teen buddy and I jerking each other off and waking up to him surreptitiously sucking me off later that night as I faked sleep. Again it was no big deal to suck my 1st cock at age 32 other than the fact that it excited me greatly and I knew I'd always desire sex with men and women after that night. Still I think it was my adventurous nature and my desire to fulfill my wife's fantasy that "turned" me bi. As much as I love sex with men, I do believe that even if I hadn't tried it at ages 15 and 32, I would have still "turned" bi later in life in my middle age just out of my natural curiosity about sex and always wanting to try new things sexually.

Redo7163

Aug 5, 2016, 8:47 AM

I think we ALL have a Bi tendency at any given point in our life. I think that as we get older we’re less inhibited.

sysper

Aug 5, 2016, 7:47 PM

i disagree in some cases......i think some guys get even more inhibited as they get older. also as u get older u tend to be less horny so less likely to fuck just anything that moves. although that doesn't mean ur less likely to fall in love with "anything that moves"

DownBoy

Aug 5, 2016, 10:27 PM

Not sure if I commented on this post, but, I think older men are bi (or have bi-tendencies) depending on their childhood (doesn't have to be anything unlawful and/or serious), or if they were born that way. Based on that, its to them to decide when to come to terms with being bi and 'being with' other men. Age doesn't really have to do anything with it. Some men have sex with another man (or have a relationship) for the first time when they're older. Others have been with other men for years. For others, its also a phase.

In my case, I knew I was sexually attracted to certain men in my mid-20's based on experiences I've had earlier as a kid (with other boys my age from my friend to my cousins) and started then. Other guys may have their first relationship with a man in their 60's or 80's. Depends on them.

But, they're either born that way or have had brief moments during their childhood (again, nothing unlawful).

OlderGuys

Mar 11, 2017, 7:09 PM

That is a great, concise & honest Post! Since 1987, I have been a Practicing LIFE Counselor {Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology}, now age 60, & have had a few hundred Male Clients who needed to discuss their own Bisexuality issues/questions -- all very similar to Yours.

Addressing your questions & comments, there are MANY answers and explanations that are relevant to your Post, just too many to list here! (1) We grew up during the Time of the first, freest & most non-judgemental state of Human Sexuality in World History! (2) And we have lived in one of the most Sexually-Open Societies {the U.S.A.} on Earth! (3) Think back 20-40 years ago: Not only was there no anonymous way of 'talking' to lots of other Men about these subjects, it just didn't happen as much as it does today because of (a) natural Human Sexual hangups, (b) the relative ignorance of & the lack of Scientific information about Sex & Human Sexuality {two completely different subjects}, (c) and for a dozen other significant reasons! (4) This evolution {passage} of Time {starting with the 1960s "Sexual Revolution"} has Naturally increased our openness, our willingness AND OUR NEED to be natural, total, Whole Sexual Beings. (5) By that, I include the Scientific reality learned in Sexual-Psychological Research starting just 60 years ago, that most Humans ARE Naturally Sexually 'varied'. (6) Ask any Psychotherapist who Practices in today's World & you will get the same answers: Americans & the populations in the 'First World' Countries are more NATURALLY curious & open about their own Sexuality and Society's Sexual attitudes & values. (7) As a result of this profound amount of change & knowledge occurring in such a Scientifically-short timespan, it is natural for everyone whose Bi-ness is surfacing to be confused & unsure about Our awareness of it and what & how each of us should proceed with our individual needs to express It {experience It}. (8) But it is essential for our Mental Health to be Sexually satisfied! Even though that will be different for each one of us, the most negative action we can & should take is doing nothing! Because the longer we go doing nothing about our Bi-Sexual needs/wants, the more Mental anguish & actual Physical harm we do to Ourselves! (9) We must do everything we can to not let so-called immorality and/or negative Societal judgements influence our behavior in ways that do not please us -- no matter what actions we feel we should do or should not do! (10) I can share this with You: Most (95+%) of the hundreds of my Male Clients, all Married and/or predominantly Straight, who satisfied their Bisexual need(s) in whatever manner & degree was Natural for them, were & are satisfied with how their decisions positively changed their Lives! (11) Just remember, Sex is Natural, feels good and expressing It is Essential to being happy & having a Fulfilled Life!! (12) BTW, I'm not just a 'talker'. I'm a doer too.

OlderGuys

Mar 11, 2017, 7:45 PM

Absolutely correct!

csreef

Mar 11, 2017, 8:57 PM

I think we ALL have a Bi tendency at any given point in our life. I think that as we get older we’re less inhibited.

I've become less inhibited as I've gotten older . . Also I've become more liberal in my thinking as I've gotten older.

BIGUY123456

Mar 11, 2017, 9:43 PM

Ive noticed this as well older seems to be turning bi. I think most men are already bi but affraid to act on it or except it. Also there wives stop giving it up and men are horny bastards. Ive had no thoughts since early teens and had a hard time accepting it.
As I get older I have been defenetly turning more bi...

sysper

Mar 11, 2017, 10:57 PM

thanks so much olderguy it was great to hear ur words of support! for years i have been struggling to understand my feelings. i need to hear words like urs, that we're naturally sexually varied & shouldn't let others tell us it's wrong. ur also right about the frustration sometimes all i can think about is trying things with a guy! i think i would be more at peace after i finally did it. i wanna be able to say on my deathbed, i did it with a guy. whether i liked it or not but didn't regret trying. 95% of guys can't be wrong lol.

Fzmr9t

Mar 12, 2017, 12:59 AM

If you consider 45 'old' then yes. I did some playtime when I was a kid with a neighbor friend. But it was fairly innocent experimentation wasn't until my forties that I became curious and then acted on that curiosity

bw299

Mar 12, 2017, 3:58 AM

I started my sexual interaction with males when I was 8 or 9. I dabbled throughout my teens and twenties, but 99% of my sexual attraction was to females. I think part of the reason I didn't pursue more male sex was because I was closeted and feared the repercussions of being outed because of the social stigma associated with being bi or gay. Now that I am older I am far less inhibited and that lack of inhibition has fueled my pursuit of cock. Also, thanks to the internet, social media, and a far more liberated society much of the stigma has disappeared AND more men are readily available.

delpark

Mar 13, 2017, 3:37 PM

My sexuality has evolved as I have aged. My first sexual experience was with a guy, before I reached puberty. I sucked his dick, he sucked mine. I liked it well enough to ask to suck his cock throughout that summer. I reached puberty, learned to masturbate and chased pussy. Girls were my goal for sex. Until one night I was propositioned by a guy. I declined the offer, but something deep inside me resonated with the idea of being sexually active with a guy.

Pussy was still the main goal, so I got married. I started feeling the urge to explore man on man sex and with the wife's blessing we went out one evening seeking a male playmate. We didn't find one. I met a fellow at the local spa and got together with him. The chemistry was missing, so it was a one time affair. For various reasons, my wife and I divorced.

I was single again and had the urge to explore my sexuality. I answered some ads in a local paper and got together with a really sweet gay guy. The sex was great, I loved sucking his cock and swallowing his cum. After I ejaculated I had an intense feeling of guilt. It changed the experience from joy to feeling I had done something very wrong. I wasn't raised in a climate of acceptance to homosexuality. In fact, it was frowned on. My guilt eventually passed, but I lost the relationship with that sweet gay guy. Today I wish I had handled the situation differently, I am interested in knowing what that guy would have taught me about homosexuality.

Women were still on the radar for me, but it hasn't been easy. I would visit the ABS once in a while, do the glory hole routine, both getting sucked and sucking. Gay porno was, remains, my preference, but I was concerned of the other patrons thinking I was gay if they looked in or heard, not admitting we were all there for the same thing. I did think most of the others were straight. I was taken home by a few different guys and loved being stark naked with a man, the feel of another man's penis in my hand and mouth. And then the payoff, the cum.

I was 69ing with a woman one night and she made me realize that I was meant to pleasure men. I wanted to suck cock as well as she did. Our relationship changed that night, fucking was ok, but I had a desire to suck cock, especially when my cock is sucked.

I dated a psychiatric nurse that told me we are all bisexual, bolstering my desire for gay sex.

I met a nice woman and got married again. The sex was fabulous at first. Then as years progressed, the sex diminished. The first to go was oral sex, then all sex. The wife had lost all interest.

The older I get, the more I feel the need for gay sex. My interest has turned primarily to men. I appreciate seeing a woman's body, but a man's body gets the blood flowing and the salivary glands working.

I have met with several men and been more sexually satisfied than with a woman. There is no guilt with it. I consider myself a homosexual. I know being on my knees with a penis in my mouth shooting cum is my sexual place in life, where I choose to be.

delpark

bobby63114

Mar 13, 2017, 4:33 PM

Well good for you to finally realize that cock is meant to be sucked and swallowed...

cuthwulf

Apr 3, 2017, 2:43 PM

csreef

Apr 3, 2017, 6:55 PM

Normally men have more testosterone than estrogen. But as we age that changes and the testosterone gets weaker and the estrogen hormone gets stronger. So in some way it starts to change our orientation from in our early years only wanting women to wanting a bi sexual life style later.

This is a good point. Also our society is more tolerant to people of different sexual orientations that it was say 25 years ago. Depending on where you live.

sysper

Apr 3, 2017, 10:08 PM

really hope society keeps being more tolerant as time goes by. so many people are naturally not str8 it's cruel to tell them it's wrong & force them to be something there not.

1hot4u

Apr 8, 2017, 3:35 AM

I have craved men all my life. Society did not allow us to be open about it until recently.I was afraid to get caught making love to a man then.

mike_smallwood

Apr 8, 2017, 2:36 PM

I am 59 years of age and over the last 14 years my bi-curious interest has grown tremendously. One factor that is often mentioned is that women tend to lose interest in sex and as a result hetro sex seems to become rare or non-existent. Men however seem to have a constant desire for sex which may contribute as to why bi-sex becomes less of a taboo. This definitely plays a large part as to why I want to pursue bi-sex.

I allowed a much older male to perform oral sex on me a few times in my late teens/early twenties, but I also struggled with the guilt associated with having had sexual contact with another male, so I suppressed all bisex interest until about 12 years ago. Today I so want to experience performing and receiving oral sex with another male, however I just cannot seem to get over the possible guilt I would feel afterwards for two reasons; the first one is that I have never cheated on my partner and secondly I still remember how horrible I felt after allowing another male to perform oral on me. There is also the issue of STD's and of course being found out which I believe for a lot of us would be devastating.

I spend 75% of my time looking at bi-sex porn and masturbate to such porn almost every day. My fantasies go way beyond just having oral with another male, but fantasy and reality are two very different things and being able to have a regular JO/Blow buddy would be great.

Society has definitely become more accepting of bi-sex, but for many of us in our 40's or older, who are discovering our desire for bi-sex, we still have to overcome the values that were instilled in us in our youth. I may or may never experience touching and performing oral on another male, but my fantasies and desires will always be there and I will continue to enjoy these fantasies without any guilty feelings.

thatcher29

Apr 8, 2017, 3:31 PM

I am 59 years of age and over the last 14 years my bi-curious interest has grown tremendously. One factor that is often mentioned is that women tend to lose interest in sex and as a result hetero sex seems to become rare or non-existent. Men however seem to have a constant desire for sex which may contribute as to why bi-sex becomes less of a taboo. This definitely plays a large part as to why I want to pursue bi-sex.

Like most generalizations, there is a bit of truth in the statement that women lose interest in sex as they get older. However, as they say, Your Mileage My Vary. I can say this with some confidence because I've been dating for the last 7 years since my divorce and with the exception of one who was more inclined to be a lesbian, all of the women I've been involved with have been very eager to have sex. My current 67 yo girlfriend, whom I'm in the process of buying a house with, is an absolute tiger in bed. I certainly don't doubt mike_smallwood's comments about his situation. I've run into a lot of men who say the same thing. But believe me, there's a lot of older women out there who not only are willing to provide sex, but are really looking forward to it.

As for the changes in men's attitudes toward bi sex, I believe that society's attitudes toward bisexuals has not changed very much. Most people would probably still consider two married men having sex together as "cheating".The reason that there's more bisexual older men is because we are the rebellious generation, fighting authority since we were kids with long hair. Now that we're in our golden years, we could care even less what people think about us.

sysper

Apr 8, 2017, 4:38 PM

my experiancce is different from urs but we do have alot in common. i have done nothing ever with a guy & i never even thought of being with a guy unitll my early 20's. but when that happened i felt alot of what u have felt. alot of guilt getting excited about thinking about it. even though i knew rationaly it's absolutely ok, in fact it's good to think outside the box like that, no pun intended lol. it's been years, well actually decades, & i'm still working on accepting it but i have come a longway! still confused af but that's ok. over such years i have had alot of time to think about it & just accept it & begin to embrace it. whatever it is, remember i'm confused lol. i think what has also helped me is the internet. there really weren't so many forums & chats back then. i'm still having trouble chatting & emailing the right guys long enough to meet them, but lately i have found alot of supportive people online........including here so thanks guys :) xxx ooo so meeting my 1st guy is gonna be very nervous & i might feel guilty afterwards like u did those years ago. but then again have u considered, is any of that guilt is it because the person was much older? still i remember feeling guilty after j/o thinking about guys. then i would loose interest for months. now i usually feel some guilt but in 5 minutes i can be ready to enjoy thoughts about guys. how it will happen for real, who knows? will i loose interest right away? or if i stick through how will i feel afterwards? but right now i'm torturing myself asking what if? they say it's better to regret something u did than regret something u didn't do. so i think it's the right thing for me to go for it. if i like it do it again (& again & again & again.........lol) but if i hate it at least i tried it for real & know why i don't like it. most likely i think i'd still be confused. but overtime if i keep myself open to the right people i will begin to understand. std's are definately something to think about that's another reason the right guy is so important. personally i wouldnt go to an abs or sauna or something like that. plus i wouldn't feel comfortable being naked with a total stranger. but everyone has gotta make that decision. but everyone should consider there are std's out there & u should consider smart decisions. the only real problem with u is ur with someone. i don't really wanna call it a problem in fact its the best thing in the world to be with the right person. so u gotta ask ursef what's more important, ur wife/gf or this curiosity? no right or wrong answer here but it's something u gotta ask urself & stick to it. i know if i had a wife/gf i would like to be able to talk about this with her, & if she told me she wanted to explore i would at least resepct her feelings & i would try hard to give her my blessing to do it. but let's be real, sex outside of a marriage/relationship can be a bad thing. even if it's under these circumstances. swingers seem to be able to pull it off for example, but if u ask a swinger they will most likely say it's more challenging. i don't know ur situation very good so i'm not saying u should or would continue sleeping around with 1 guy or many guys. but even once can bring up feelings u might not of expected. i'm sure u have thought of something like that because u said u may or may never experience touching and performing oral on another male. do u love ur partner enough to sacrifice ever doing anything with a guy? sacrifice is a great expresson of love. but its ok if u choose not too. that's why it's a choice, if it wasn't a choice it wouldn't be special. but u should be fair to everyone involved. not an easy thing to do, maybe even scary. but u can figure it out eventually.
I am 59 years of age and over the last 14 years my bi-curious interest has grown tremendously. One factor that is often mentioned is that women tend to lose interest in sex and as a result hetro sex seems to become rare or non-existent. Men however seem to have a constant desire for sex which may contribute as to why bi-sex becomes less of a taboo. This definitely plays a large part as to why I want to pursue bi-sex.

I allowed a much older male to perform oral sex on me a few times in my late teens/early twenties, but I also struggled with the guilt associated with having had sexual contact with another male, so I suppressed all bisex interest until about 12 years ago. Today I so want to experience performing and receiving oral sex with another male, however I just cannot seem to get over the possible guilt I would feel afterwards for two reasons; the first one is that I have never cheated on my partner and secondly I still remember how horrible I felt after allowing another male to perform oral on me. There is also the issue of STD's and of course being found out which I believe for a lot of us would be devastating.

I spend 75% of my time looking at bi-sex porn and masturbate to such porn almost every day. My fantasies go way beyond just having oral with another male, but fantasy and reality are two very different things and being able to have a regular JO/Blow buddy would be great.

Society has definitely become more accepting of bi-sex, but for many of us in our 40's or older, who are discovering our desire for bi-sex, we still have to overcome the values that were instilled in us in our youth. I may or may never experience touching and performing oral on another male, but my fantasies and desires will always be there and I will continue to enjoy these fantasies without any guilty feelings.

sysper

Apr 8, 2017, 4:40 PM

thanks for being the generation that rebelled :) i can only imagine where this world would be if we still just accepted what the authority said without questioning.
Like most generalizations, there is a bit of truth in the statement that women lose interest in sex as they get older. However, as they say, Your Mileage My Vary. I can say this with some confidence because I've been dating for the last 7 years since my divorce and with the exception of one who was more inclined to be a lesbian, all of the women I've been involved with have been very eager to have sex. My current 67 yo girlfriend, whom I'm in the process of buying a house with, is an absolute tiger in bed. I certainly don't doubt mike_smallwood's comments about his situation. I've run into a lot of men who say the same thing. But believe me, there's a lot of older women out there who not only are willing to provide sex, but are really looking forward to it.

As for the changes in men's attitudes toward bi sex, I believe that society's attitudes toward bisexuals has not changed very much. Most people would probably still consider two married men having sex together as "cheating".The reason that there's more bisexual older men is because we are the rebellious generation, fighting authority since we were kids with long hair. Now that we're in our golden years, we could care even less what people think about us.

Itakeit

Apr 9, 2017, 3:49 PM

I don't think is is because they can't find women. I believe men by age 50, are just tired of women's constant nagging. I've had my dick sucked a few times through the years, but have never had the desire to suck a dick. Hell, I get choked on my toothbrush. But I have always wondered how it would feel to have a hard dick sliding in and out of my back door, and the throbbing and pulsing of it cumming in there. I have eat my own cum and I could eat another man's cum, I just cant suck it. Or, maybe the right one hasn't cum along yet.

OlderBC1

Apr 15, 2017, 1:02 AM

I think since women want less sex at our advancing age, and we men are such dogs anyway, still craving the intimacy. the joining that tells us our woman loves us. But doesn't want us anymore, making us think they don't love us anymore, we look for this elsewhere. Besides, we men know what we want and how we want it. Pull my pants and shorts down, and off, then take my growing dick in your mouth and show me how much you want it. I'll happily give what I get, so don't be shy about giving it.

rajones

Apr 15, 2017, 7:31 AM

In my life, I always have been BI. Now being more accepting of this is a different story. As a young man it was something I hide, (my work is the reason). My current wife found a gay porn video and confronted me, I came out and said yes I am BI, thankfully she was OK with it. Since that incident I have been more open. We even play with toys and she enjoys seeing me happy (toy in my ass). To this day she is the only straight person who knows I am BI. Two months ago I hired a lesbian, she told me she was gay after a week of work and I told her I was BI. Since that day I have been very open about my sex life, seems we enjoy talking about being how we are. I have this urge to tell people about being BI, but have yet to act on it. With age comes an acceptance of who you are, and sometimes a wish you were more open earlier in life.

OlderBC1

Apr 15, 2017, 9:12 AM

Yeah, I wish I and the guys, usually close friends, would've been more understanding of my/their Bi tendencies. Share equally, don't just get me to suck your dick, lick your balls and maybe fuck a little. If you like the thought of having hot sex with me, then take what I give you and I'll enjoy what you give me more.

bucks69

Apr 15, 2017, 12:11 PM

Yes, I am 62 and long term married hetro and have never had an attraction or sexual interest in me. However over the last couple years have this strong desire to suck a cock and lick balls. I have been masterbating to bi porn. Wife knows and says go for it. I can't wait to try.

OlderBC1

Apr 15, 2017, 12:35 PM

Sounds good. You just need to find someone in proper condition and willing to guide you and share...

ammoguy

Oct 28, 2019, 7:55 AM

I would be very curious to know how many man honestly are bi. I've known a lot of men personally that I didn't know for years, in some cases, that they were bi. The biggest thing I see is men on these sites who put "straight" on their profile, yet they make comments on my pictures or messages saying how much they'd like to suck my dick. That doesn't sound very "straight" to me. I understand how a lot of guys don't want people to find out. I don't tell everyone, but if they were to ask me, I don't think I'd lie. I'd love to find a credible survey to answer that question. Not just on these sites, half the people on these things aren't honest anyway. An anonymous, real, believable survey out in the world.

ammoguy

Oct 28, 2019, 8:14 AM

I've seen a lot of blame placed on women for this reason and that. I think some of it may be true, but I think the real reason is that men have always had these feelings, but have been taught that it's wrong, so they try to suppress them. I'm Bisexual, and I think I have been since my early teens, and I thought it was wrong. I acted on it for real in my late 20's. I'm 67 now and as I get older I'm a lot more open about it. I don't broadcast, but when asked I reply honestly. My wife doesn't like sex sex anymore, and we go months and months at a time before I get what I call "pity sex", but that's not what drives my sexuality. I just feel I'm running out of time to experience things, and want to get as much in as I can, before I can't. Blaming your wife is just a lame excuse for what you've felt from early on.

Joboo

Oct 28, 2019, 10:44 AM

I think urge for some older guys has always been there and once their wife shuts down sexually they either revert back to some things they did in their youth or they decide to give into their long-standing curiosity. I think the latter would tend to want to place blame on their wife due to the shame they feel once they have a man to man experience, even if they end up liking it and continue.
Im not sure which is easier once you are shut out with the wife, I tend to think same sex is safer as in keeping it secret. I would rather have a girlfriend or two but women seem to be very unpredictable once you have a sexual relationship with them.
I remember when I was young working with a lot of 50 something guys and the common thread with them was they would tell you how their wives had just quit having sex. A lot of them ended up getting divorced since it’s difficult to keep a girlfriend secret.

mike_smallwood

Oct 28, 2019, 12:06 PM

I am not saying that older women are not sexual, only that many tend to lose interest in sex in my experience and I agree your mileage may vary as you pointed that your experience has been different. I should have qualified my statement with "in my experience" in the original post and it was not meant as a generalization. Thank you for pointing that out.

You may, however, be confusing the acceptance of bisexuality and the acceptance of cheating in your statements above. Regardless of gender, a person has sex with another person outside of a relationship is considered cheating and was never well accepted nor is it accepted today to any great extent. Bisexuality is related to two people of the same gender who have sex together, and this is a lot more accepted in today's society. Case in point, we have prime time television programs depicting same gender people kissing and in bed together. The series "How to get away with Murder" which aired on NBC is a perfect example of how societies acceptance of gay or bisexuality has changed. This would never have happened 20 or 30 years ago.

A perfect example of societies attitude towards homosexuality since 1952 can be seen by reading the story of Alan Turing, the person who cracked the enigma code the Germans used during WWII. There is a good write up on Wikipedia about his life and how he was treated being a homosexual, after his incredible contributions during WWII. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alan_Turing

iamcontent

Oct 28, 2019, 12:14 PM

I think most older men always had those tendacies but ignored them. As you get older you want to expierence things. Also todays society is more open and there is the internet

Mmpmm

Oct 28, 2019, 12:27 PM

My story is similar to many on here. I have always had these same sex desires. When I was a teenager I would flip to the back of the porn magazines and look at the gay ads. When I would watch porn videos I always wanted to know what it was like for the woman and wanted to have her experience. My family would never have accepted me being gay. I had 1 experience in my mid 20's that I really enjoyed but I was afraid because it verified my sexual desires for men. Although I have never really been attracted to men and don't know if I could ever have the same deep loving relationship that I have with a woman. At any rate I suppressed my desires but they have always lingered just under the surface. As I get older my desires for mm pleasure get stronger.

nu2curious

Oct 28, 2019, 2:32 PM

zbi73

Oct 28, 2019, 3:56 PM

I think at 60% or more guys are bi from the beginning. I believe bisexual will one day be what most people describe themselves as being, in other words the new " norm ". As men get older they're less inhibited , more sexually adventurous so any feelings that have rested quietly within their beings begin to surface.

True. Time's are a changing. Today teens have far more freedom to express their sexuality than any of us did growing up. I read a survey that was done in the US/UK where it asked 13 to 26 year old's about sexuality and 57% said they don't identify as traditionally straight, 47% took a fluid approach and 45% said they'd be happy kissing either sex. The sample size was very small though, over a 1000.

Another survey done in the UK a few years back surveyed 1632 people. Here's a couple of exerts, "When asked to plot themselves on a scale of sexuality, ranging from exclusively heterosexual to exclusively gay, 72 per cent of adults and 49 per cent of people aged 18 to 24 chose a position other than completely straight." and "Of 1,632 people surveyed, 60 per cent of heterosexuals and 73 per cent of homosexuals supported the idea that sexuality is a scale." so I guess this is good news for us bisexuals, sort of.

For me, like many, I believe it's genetic, I was born this way. Nature vs Nurture. Nature won but it took time so whilst it may appear I turned bi later on I had in fact always been bi. There were so many signs. The only sign missing was a sign on the side of the road telling me. Media coverage has also been greater over the passed few years which I guess has helped awareness so people who may have never thought or entertained the idea got curious. Don't know but if each generation is more accepting than the last it can only be good. Tolerance and acceptance from society will help so many who are struggling with their identity.

As humans, I believe we have the capacity to love anyone, regardless of gender. That would imply we may all just be a little bi, some not enough to acknowledge or even know. It's society and religion who condition us from an early age telling us that it's wrong. That's just my opinion though.

Flypaper

Oct 28, 2019, 8:35 PM

1. My love of, desire for and sex with women has not changed.
2. When I was 15, 25, 35 and 45 I had zero interest in or desire for men.
3, When I was 52 I found myself getting regular oral sex from a guy.
4.:I am 60 and continue to enjoy both sides of my sexuality.

What changed?

Bidad61

Oct 28, 2019, 8:59 PM

bnicks122016

Oct 28, 2019, 10:41 PM

I’m 57 now and when I was young was always chasing women. I had some thoughts and fantasies in my 20’s but never acted on them. When I hit 50 my desires to have sex with a guy became overwhelming.
After I acted on them I realized what I’d been missing! I’ll always love women but am now happily bi. While sex with a women is great, guys just seem to know what makes each other feel good. I’d never sucked cock before but seemed to instinctively knew what to do.

Bluehill

Oct 29, 2019, 3:24 AM

I've always been bi. Since sex with my wife became infrequent I've sought out more hookups with guys as no strings sex with guys is more readily available than with ladies.

zbi73

Oct 29, 2019, 3:26 AM

What changed?

Dunno, I reckon you're the only one that can answer that. :)

cleves

Oct 29, 2019, 6:38 AM

I'm 69 and have been sucking cock for a year now. Once you try it, it's really hard to stop.

eager4cum

Oct 29, 2019, 9:35 AM

personally, I think there as many reasons for this as there are people. WE are all individuals and have an individual reason for being BI. We also take a different path to the discovery and acknowledgement of being BI. Since there are so many paths, it may take some time and in some cases, a lot of time for this discovery and acknowledgement. From the outside, the time it takes may appear to be an older man turning BI but in reality, it just took that long for him to figure it all out.
In my case, I was always BI. I started having sex with my boy friends at 12 and with my girl friends at 20. I enjoyed every one of them but was definitely confused for a long time, well into my 30's. I finally figured it out and acknowledged my Bisexuality in my late 30's so I did not just turn BI then, I just took a lot of time to figure it out.

nu2curious

Oct 29, 2019, 9:48 AM

Well I have been Bi my whole life but didn’t really act upon it of my own free will until I was in my 30s. I told my wife about my desires and she supported me. I am in my 50s now and her appetite for sex has decreased so much that our sex is once or twice a year. I still desire her but she just doesn’t care about having sex anymore. With men it is easier to please them, I know what they want and just suck their cocks until they cum. The funny thing is I don’t look at men the same way as my wife, I only want to please their desire to cum. I don’t think I could ever have a long term relationship with a man like I do with my wife. Describes me exactly ! It's not a romance thing or relationship deal although I value friendships greatly it's about cock really. I think if a guy says he's developing feelings etc. he's most likely gay not bi at least that's the way I see it.
I'm only interested in servicing his cock.

bibliss

Oct 29, 2019, 3:42 PM

Great thread!...

As a "mature" guy, I ask myself: What is wrong with affection for other men and between men? I don't think there's anything to fear about it. I don't see love or joy or erotic pleasure as being about either-or.

Sex and sexuality are spectacularly diverse and utterly experiential, that is, defined solely by one's own experience of it. No one can say what your sexuality truly is than YOU! No one can say what your partners' sexuality is than him or her.

I don't think it's a contradiction that you might share some tenderness or erotic bliss with another man and somehow that negates or cancels out your love for women. That's ridiculous. I see all kinds of ways that society forces us to pretend our sexuality is either one way or another -- that you either like guys or girls or you don't. But, as a 58-year-old bisexual man, my experience (and the wisdom I've gained from it) reveals to me that the whole damn world is shades of difference -- delightfully so, and quite the opposite from this either-or thing that so many of us unconsciously buy into.

Personally, the older I get, the hotter I am for men. And still I love women. More even.

zbi73

Oct 29, 2019, 9:55 PM

zbi73

Oct 29, 2019, 10:05 PM

Describes me exactly ! It's not a romance thing or relationship deal although I value friendships greatly it's about cock really. I think if a guy says he's developing feelings etc. he's most likely gay not bi at least that's the way I see it.
I'm only interested in servicing his cock.

Each is different but to me bisexual is made up of two parts, sexual attraction and romantic attraction. Together they make up the individual. You can be biromantic and still end up happily married to the opposite sex, it's just that you don't care about the gender and are open to romantic relationships with both. I can see how people would think that if a man ended up having a romantic relationship with another they may be seen as gay but in all reality they're just expressing one side of their sexuality.

Just my opinion though but I feel it's a far more complex subject than "I see you have a boyfriend, you must be gay". :)

FredGillard

Oct 29, 2019, 11:43 PM

As a 50 something, I'm definitely more comfortable now with my sexuality and bi urges. There was always something there, but I'd push it away, dreading that I might be gay. If we watch something on TV or a film which has a gay theme, I'll usually get so turned on, sufficient that I'll ask my wife to wank me off and she'll talk about me with other men. I'd love us to hire a male escort for me to play with while she watched, but I think that's likely a step too far for her.

I don't find myself at all attracted to men romantically, and have never looked at any man in the street and thought, "oooh he's hot." On here however, I do, but not sure about seeing a guy's face. That's still strange to me.

Great topic. Thanks for all the sharing.
:)

colfax129

Oct 30, 2019, 11:55 AM

I can remember being in the gym locker room one day after PE, and seeing guys walking out of the showers. Like a bolt out of the blue, it hit me that I wanted those cocks in my mouth. It was a fleeting image in my head that wouldn't resurface for years. I have never had any attraction to guys. Just cock. The adult bookstores were the only avenue for exploring porn in those days, but the emergence of AIDS kept me from experimenting with those enticing gloryholes that were so prevalent at the time. However, the sexually charged atmosphere of the arcade booths kept me visiting them any time that I could.

Over time, I realized that I hardly ever saw any obviously gay guys there. Just normal blue and white collar guys that you'd see anywhere in day-to-day life. The same held true no matter where I went. Obviously, there were tons of guys out there who liked cock, who you'd never suspect if you met them anywhere else. To see how quickly they dropped to their knees when offered a nice looking cock was amazing. It seems to have nothing to do with attraction to a person, only what's between their legs. That's certainly true for me. My attraction to cock has certainly grown stronger the older I have gotten. And judging by the demographics of age that I've witnessed in such places, I certainly believe that guys trend more towards cock as they age.

Tag200

Oct 30, 2019, 1:24 PM

Just wondering why most bi-men are over 50, most of which are married, semmed to all of a sudden want to be with another guy, in some way or another.
Did this come to the front, because of age---can they not find a female now, that turns them on---or is it something that as been there all along, but society didnt accept it till they got old enough not to care---
Were they afraid of being called gay infront of their friends--
Can you really be bi at 50 and not at 20? Maybe people are more open now?
Just curious, because I find myself in the same sitituation. Have always thought of being with another guy, since the first time I was a teen. But never acted on it. Now that I am older, want to try it again.
I am so confused??

I never considered cock until I learned about tea rooms in a class I took in college. I found it very interesting and have had a few theater booth type encounters but never did much. Too nervous to date I have sucked two cocks but want more

nu2curious

Oct 30, 2019, 2:26 PM

"My attraction to cock has certainly grown stronger the older I have gotten. And judging by the demographics of age that I've witnessed in such places, I certainly believe that guys trend more towards cock as they age."

I've seen this all over the internet and it's true, however society has heretofore encouraged female bisexuality while frowning on male bisexuality. We guys have had the short end of things for years IMO. Now things are beginning to change slowly as society is more accepting of the male bi but it starts with each of us accepting our own bisexual feelings.

mike r

Oct 30, 2019, 2:38 PM

this is certainly not an orignal observation but i'm a 61 year year old married man whosucked a few cock in adolescence, and did not suck anoyher cock until my fifties at an adult theater turned glory hole and loved it. have hosted a couple of guys in my home and come out as bi to my wife. I do think I "turned' bi in my fifties so much as rediscovered what I've always been.

KDaddy23

Oct 30, 2019, 3:07 PM

In my experiences, this isn't really surprising because, before the Internet even existed, I knew of older men who developed a taste for cock and they weren't gay. Thanks to the Internet and forums like this one, you have a lot more visibility of this than ever before and I've heard a lot of reasons for this "late change" from sexless marriages to it being the next sexual thing to do and experience - and, sometimes, shit happens, alcohol gets blamed, up to and including being in the right place at the right time and with the right person - and it's quite a rush to live large parts of your life not even thinking about this... then find out that you missed out on something really special and exciting if you never even got close to having such an experience earlier on.

I'm 41, sitting in a bar having a drink after a horrendous day at work and the guy sitting next to me, who I later learned was in his 60s, starts talking to me and we're having a great conversation and one that somehow turned into him asking me if I ever had a guy suck my cock. I told him that I had (thanks, Scotch) and asked why he was asking and he said, "I want to do it... but I'm not sure why I do!" and, no, I can't honestly say he didn't know because he was a little boozed-up. We go get a room and he sucks me off and before I went to work on him, he said - and, to me, sadly, "I don't know why I never wanted to do that before now - and now I'm mad because I didn't." To me, it was nothing I hadn't seen before.

As someone who has been bi a very long time, this just fascinates me and proves that you can be of any age and discover bisexuality, that and any reason that makes sense to you is a good reason - and even if it doesn't make sense to anyone else. We kinda accept that when we're young men and somewhere around the time puberty slams into us, if we "experiment," it's no big thing but when we become adults, we're supposed to set it aside and do what we're supposed to do as men - deal with women only. What we don't think about so much is that even if you never fooled around when younger, it's not like no one can change their minds about this, even guys who've never done a thing like this until they got much older. You don't always have to be young and insanely horny to want to find out what it's like to be with another man but what we don't know is why the bisexual bug bites some guys early on but can bite guys later on.

So some guys - like me - are early adopters who jumped on the bandwagon and never got off; some guys return to the party after being absent for a few... and some guys are just getting to the party albeit a bit late and the thing that really fascinates the shit out of me is that it just makes sense to do this even though we've grown up knowing that we're not ever supposed to for any reason. Or like an older newbie once told me, "Why not? I've done everything else except this until now..."

Birobertb

Oct 31, 2019, 5:49 AM

I once was talking to a bi older man on Facebook, who says hes now more into men than women. He claims he was straight until he one day wandered into
The nude beach here which is mainly gay men. That night he found himself wanking thinking of men and boom he's attracted to men.
He's now 60 but was in his 50's when this happened.
Myself i find im more into men as the older i get. Can't explain it, its just like that.

SilkyHoseLover

Oct 31, 2019, 8:06 AM

Although I've probably already contributed to this long thread, I'm not going to search back and check what I previously wrote. The material facts haven't changed, but my perspective might be slightly different than before. Doesn't really matter. What I write is always truth-based, so it will be quite consistent.

I was well into my late 50s and had never had a conscious thought about doing anything of a sexual nature with another male. I was always turned-on seeing other people having sex, and was standing naked next to my bed, watching another man eating my wife's pussy. Without saying a word, he suddenly withdrew from her spread legs and turned to me, briefly taking my cock into his mouth. I instantly realized two things:

1) It feels good to have your cock sucked.
2) It didn't matter a whit that the mouth providing the pleasure belonged to another man.

It didn't last more than a few seconds -- physically. But, it left a huge psychological imprint on me, and I knew that I wanted to see what it was like to have one in my mouth at the earliest possible opportunity. It didn't take long for that first taste, and I loved everything about it right away. building upon that and gaining more varied experiences has been a gradual process, though.

I have to factor my marriage into the equation and do things what work within her values, as well as mine. So I can't indulge and enjoy as much/often as I'd like. But I'm very comfortable experiencing these newer pleasures in my retirement years!

GTS67

Oct 31, 2019, 10:29 PM

Just my own observation, but I would say a good number of older men at least have started giving it a thought. I am 65 y/o and have been giving it some thought for a few years but have been very cautious about acting on my curiosity for many reasons. I have tried to do some personal research on this subject and that's why I suspect there are many men above the age of 50 who find themselves dealing with their new found curiosity. Everyone is different and has their own take on this so I will just state my own feelings here.

I did have one same-sex experience when I was in my early 20's but alcohol was a factor plus a recent breakup with a girlfriend - her idea - so the two factors were contributors to the experience, which wasn't much actually. A buddy of mine and I had gone in on some beer and were at his place watching a lame movie and both of us were getting bored so he pulled out some porn magazines and we were going though them. I was already horny and this just made me more so and apparently it was making him horny too and he finally said he needed some relief and began masturbating. For some reason, probably the beer, it didn't bother me and I kept looking at the porn and finally decided what the heck and I began to masturbate. He offered to do it for me and I didn't stop him. I returned the favor and that was it and chalked it up to the beer and being horny and forgot about it.

A few years ago I was reading some posts in a sex forum and a guy around my age stated that his wife had a severe case of MS and his sex life was down to none and he really loved his wife but he really missed the intimacy of sex and didn't want to cheat on her with another woman and wondered if having a masturbation buddy would be considered cheating. I personally thought it was, whether with a woman or a man but by this time I had been divorced a few years and not really finding the women I was dating to be compatible, I wondered if as far as I was concerned if having a masturbation partner would be a viable way of expressing myself sexually. I started thinking about that same-sex experience I'd had so many years ago and the thought was actually quite erotic. I began to think about this more and more. I, like most guys am not attracted to men - I don't walk down the street and think, oh wow, he's really hot and I just can't see myself wanting a romantic relationship with a guy whereas I feel all my romantic, emotional feelings are with women but there is something about the idea of being with a guy who is as into giving sexual pleasure as he is receiving is a positive idea, as I've had a tendency to think of most guys as being the takers when it comes to sex - which is one of my many reasons for being cautious. The fantasy of this kind of mutual sexual relationship appeals to me.

One of the things that I think hold older guys back is the old societal taboo that "real men don't give each other sexual pleasure" is still somewhat ingrained in us and is a large hurdle to overcome.

zbi73

Nov 1, 2019, 1:28 AM

"Society has heretofore encouraged female bisexuality while frowning on male bisexuality. We guys have had the short end of things for years IMO. Now things are beginning to change slowly as society is more accepting of the male bi but it starts with each of us accepting our own bisexual feelings.

Couldn't agree with this more if I tried and I believe it's the reason why many men suppress or flat out deny having these feelings. It's the reason why I'm still in the closet, I'm just not prepared to have to deal with any fall out at this stage.

It almost seems that if a female says "I'm bi" the answer is "cool" or "interesting" depending on who's being told of course. If a male says it, from what I read, it goes like "Hi I'm bi..... so you're gay?... no, bi..... gay?". Obviously this is very generalized but it definitely doesn't seem to be an equal understanding or acceptance.

Self acceptance is very important indeed and a major step in the journey. Accepting you're bisexual or even gay for that matter doesn't make you any different nor is it actually telling anyone. You can continue on with the status-quo outwardly and no one will be any the wiser. In doing so I found I no longer over-think, analyse, attempt to rationalise, panic or frett over my sexuality like I used to. I shudder to think of the hours I wasted trying to fool myself I was 100% straight.

Long Duck Dong

Nov 1, 2019, 2:08 AM

The older guy I am with, said he would rather been seen as gay than bi. I said ok, why is that ? His answer was he did not want to be seen as a person that was going to jump as soon as a cock was shown to him while looking for a female partner to swing with but if people could understand that not all bi people are swingers, could be happy with a partner and did not want to hook up constantly, he would be ok with being bi....

He said he had dreams about cocks as a younger man but there was very little opportunity and in later life, he had tried going to LGBT groups only to find animosity and judgement, also nobody seemed to be interested in a ongoing friendship with a opening to explore with him, they wanted cock out first, so a friend pointed me out to him and said, talk to this guy, his thinking is anything but mainstream.
It went from there and he has been able to enjoy a good sex life with me and the other two females are part of our group. What I find interesting is that both ladies have said that while the idea of them kissing, may be seen as hot, they have copped a lot of backlash for doing it, from males and also backlash for turning down offers of 3somes simply because they kissed each other.

I am 49, I still do not see myself limited to bisexual ( only two genders ) I have a long time female friend that is intersex and very well developed, and I see her as a close friend, not a OMG I would love to bang the hell out of her cos she is a dream fuck, and she appreciates the fact I see her as more than a dream fuck, tho we have been intimate and while it was very passionate and intense, we both loved the holding, cuddling and kissing before and afterwards cos it reinforced the understanding that we are very close as people, not sex objects.

I love the feeling of intimacy, connection, respect and consideration which is why I do not go for one night stand / casual sex, others do and thats ok, each to their own.... but yes for some of us, the idea that as bi people that will bed hop and constantly chase sex / cock, is off putting but its one of the way that main stream society can view bisexuality and that can have some very adverse consequences or cause concern to older guys that are experimenting and want cock, not conflict

zbi73

Nov 1, 2019, 2:31 AM

Agreed, some will want to bed hop but that bed hop isn't caused due to being bisexual it's just who they are I guess, they're just not looking for anything serious nor limiting themselves to a single gender. I am glad you've found someone you're happy with and I believe like you there are many bisexual people who long for something more than just sex, something passionate, something meaningful and it doesn't matter which gender they find that with. The idea that bisexual people can't commit to a monogamous relationship like a heterosexual person could is quite appalling and one big misconception. Bisexual itself isn't promiscuous, people are. If I commit to one person then I commit regardless of gender, end of :)

We're all different, judge us by the character of our person not by the person we choose to love and/or have sex with.

Long Duck Dong

Nov 1, 2019, 5:08 AM

I love what you said " We're all different, judge us by the character of our person not by the person we choose to love and/or have sex with." as that reflects very much what I believe as well.....

unfortunately society judges by the most visible and vocal element, not by the quieter and less visible... and at times I have had to take months of talking to a person to get them to listen to me, and not listen to what they think I said... and one of the most offensive things I have had said to me, is " you are just lying to me so you can get into my pants and heart then you will start with the I need to stray BS ", which is ironic as its been most of my exs that have cheated on me, so I am definitely not interested in doing the same to a partner......

I will be honest, if I had to come out today as a 49 year old rather than growing up aware of my desires and interests, I am not sure how I would handle things, based simply on what I know of the people around me. Most of the bisexual guys I know, will not make contact regarding sex unless its a "cum and run " situation, a local LGBTQIA support group has 90 members but at any meet, only 6-8 will go and only one of them is male and they are gay and engaged... the guy most likely to offer sex, hangs around the local toilets and does not have safe sex at all.... so yeah it would be harder to find a guy that would be open to a casual FwB connection so I could indulge my desires and explore my sexuality......and while there is older gay males looking for more than casual sex, even talking with them leads nowhere as very few of them want to talk, they want their relationship and close the rest of the world out......yet people say its easier to be out today than it used to be, which is true but being out and making a connection are two different things

nu2curious

Nov 1, 2019, 2:03 PM

Grant_Norman

Nov 1, 2019, 2:30 PM

I'm 69 and have been sucking cock for a year now. Once you try it, it's really hard to stop.
Yes...70 here started sucking regularly about 4+ years ago....would like to always suck and swallow as much as possible

YESHUA888

Nov 6, 2019, 3:32 PM

Thought Viagra was given to be a kick stand so they wouldn't roll out of bed:oh:

RoadWarrior942

Nov 14, 2019, 9:27 PM

I'd always fantasized about being dominated in a M/F group scene, but never to the point of pursuing it.Had it happened while my wife and I were swinging, I probably would have rolled with it. My turning point was that I was divorced, lonely, started reading a wider variety of porn, including gay & bi. I also approached the question with a little logic: "Have I been missing out on a different variety of sex because I'm straight?". I also decided that women suck cock all the time, so what's the big deal if a guy does. I tried it and I liked it.

Birobertb

Nov 21, 2019, 10:24 AM

I think it is. Although I think more that everyone has the possibility to be bi, it just has to be activated or something like that.

zbi73

Nov 22, 2019, 1:07 AM

I think it is. Although I think more that everyone has the possibility to be bi, it just has to be activated or something like that.

There are some who subscribe to the notion that everyone is bisexual and all it takes are a certain set of conditions to be met... I do believe that there are many, many more bisexual men and women out there who identify at either end of the spectrum. I see it's quite common for straight people, men and women to sleep with the same sex off and on who still identify as 100% straight. I guess frequency and their own acceptance plays a part, but at the end of the day, it's just a label and I can totally understand why the do given how society reacts and treats bisexual people, in particular men. That's a discussion for a different day.

ChiefH

Nov 27, 2019, 7:18 AM

I was reading a post on another site the other day and this very same subject came up! I explored my bi side many, many years ago in my early teens and found I enjoyed sucking my friends cock and letting him fuck me! But time went on and we went our own ways! I got married and had a family and stuck my bi feelings deep in the back of my mind, oh I still had my fantasies of watching my wife being fucked and me licking his cum and her juice from his cock!! We had a really good sex life until the dreaded change hit her! I know some women it doesn't faze them and they continue with the great sex life! But the men answering the post were all in their 60's and 70's that menopause caused them to look in another direction for sexual relief!! My wife could care less if my cock ever entered her pussy again, that is so sad because my wife is still a very nice looking lady and she still turns me on wanting to fuck her!

TouchHere

Nov 30, 2019, 11:24 AM

Interesting thread! I've been Bimale all my life but limited myself in my youth as I felt alot of shame and inhibitions. As I've gotten older, that shame slowly evaporated and now I'm (finally) comfortable with my inclinations. I think this is true for many who develop Bi leanings later in life.

softail99

Dec 1, 2019, 5:41 AM

ChiefH......I can relate to your response. I am 60 yo, been married many years to a wife that was very active in bed, but her sex drive is now pretty much gone. My desire for sex is strong and she still turns me on, but it is to the point that we would never have sex if it was left up to her. So that leaves me in a predicament; I do not want another woman, having an affair does not interest me, I don't want my marriage to end, so, I look at porn when I have alone time and fantasize. My fantasies involve watching my wife with a well hung lover, his large cock unleashes her dormant desires and she has a renewed hunger to fuck again, but not for me since I am average in size. She lusts for his large cock, after he fills her with his load, she allows me sloppy seconds. I fantasize about cleaning her and him as well and those thoughts turn me on. It turns me on to think about helping her please lover, to play a part in her renewed passion for sex. I have always been a masculine, dominant type of man, and never had many bi thoughts until the last few years. I must admit that I am turned on by looking at nice hard cocks, thinking about how they would look sliding into my wife's 62 yo pussy and making her orgasm like she used too with me. I have an appreciation of virile men and their cocks that was not there when I was younger, probably because I too was once virile and could satisfy my wife. I love sex, I wish my wife loved it too, but it is what it is. With all that being said, at my age and with things the way they are with my wife, I may not be bi in real life, but bi fantasies have found a home in my mind.

Sidsmith

Dec 9, 2019, 7:20 AM

I can only speak for myself buy I think so. In my mid 50s and I think of cock nonstop now.

SlowNEZ

Dec 12, 2019, 9:37 PM

I would have to say “yes” to this question. As I am getting older, I am becoming more obsessed with the desire to get intimate with a man. Several years ago, a fellow in a locker room slyly showed me his (beautiful) cock ... my knees went weak, and I became flushed. I knew, then, that I wanted to fondle and suck that piece of anatomy. I dId not get the opportunity, because in an effort to get close, he became a patient, and therefore he became ‘hands-off’. Nowadays, that is nearly all I think about. Even when I masturbate, I get my best orgasms while I suck on a realistic dildo. I am getting very hungry for some male cream.

poetofdarkness

Dec 14, 2019, 3:37 PM

I can only speak for myself buy I think so. In my mid 50s and I think of cock nonstop now.

do you think about women still?

Sidsmith

Dec 14, 2019, 3:58 PM

Occasionally but still there is cock involved. A 60 old couple would be heavily.

Flypaper

Dec 15, 2019, 11:44 PM

I can only speak for myself buy I think so. In my mid 50s and I think of cock nonstop now.

I subscribe to the fluid sexuality theory. I came to it in my 50s, after a healthy hetero sexual life and zero thoughts about cock. Then it happened. I’m not thinking of cock nonstop, but when I do it feels natural.

I think we are just more secure when we reach a certain age.

fredward

Dec 19, 2019, 4:28 PM

I subscribe to the fluid sexuality theory. I came to it in my 50s, after a healthy hetero sexual life and zero thoughts about cock. Then it happened. I’m not thinking of cock nonstop, but when I do it feels natural.

I think we are just more secure when we reach a certain age.

I couldn't agree more. That sounds exactly like me too!

hung4you

Dec 22, 2019, 5:10 AM

Without a doubt in my mind I think most men are open to man to man private time, no matter the age it starts at a very young age. For me it all started with my group of friends stealing our dads playboys and hustler magazines and circle jerking our brains out. Tasted my 1st cock at 15, swallowed my 1st load at 16. Now after 34 years of marriage not only myself but my wife are actively engaged in lots of same sex fun. We share a lot of our fantasies with each other as well as others. Our partners are all older around our age and just enjoy the fun of it. No commitments, no jealousy just sexual fun for all involved. I love cock as much as I love pussy, on any given day I don’t care which one as long as we both are satisfied.

With regard to do older men turn bi, I think we are all in one way or another open to bisexual thought, only the bravest of souls actually persue their desires or fantasies. Think about it, every man I ask in general conversation is damn dogs are lucky they can lick their own dicks and they laugh and say yea I wish I could, and when we watch porn, for me my favorite part of porn is watching a hung bastard sliding his dick in and out of a well lubed pussy and I get all hard when I see him cum on her or watching his throbbing cock unloaded in her. If you are older then think about it, I’m right which is why I get to play as much as I do.

Fred_Brice

Dec 22, 2019, 2:21 PM

In my opinion, I do believe that, most men can/or open, to be with another man, no matter their age, with some it can start at a very young age. For me, it all started with a much older man, that had seduced me, back in my early teens, many years ago.
He had asked me, to help him help move a few things, and he would pay me for my time, so I agreed to help him. It was a warm summer night and we both were wearing shorts and tee shirts and after a while, we both started, to sweat a bit, as we moved things around. Soon both, of our tee shirts, were drench with sweat and he then suggested that we remove our shirts, cool down a bit. He then asked me, if I wanted a drink and that he had some wine. I did liked wine, since I had tasted it, at few family functions, so I said yes. We both sat down on his bed, as we drank our wine, we both did cooled off, a little. I was starting cool down a bit, but I did get a bit warm feeling, as I continued drinking, my glass of wine, as we started talking about each other. He told me about the death of his wife, many years and about how he missed her.

Soon he started asking me, about my own love life. I cannot remember, exactly how it had gotten around to that, and he did seem, to be more concern, about my own sexual life and soon, it was really more, about my own, sexual experiences. At some point, he had placed his hand, on my thigh and after a while, his hand, slowly moved up, and in between my thighs and his hand was getting closer to my crotch, as I was talking about my own life, or lack of a sex life. My boy cock was now starting to get hard and he soon placed his hand on the bulge, in my shorts and he had, then started massaging my hard boy cock, and I started breathing hard, in no time. He asked, if he could see my young boy cock and before knew it, he made me stand and he undid my shorts, the he pulled them down along with my tight-whites and I stood there completely naked, with my hard boy cock pointed, at his face. He wrapped his rough hand around my boy cock and started stroking me and making me moan, with pure pleasure. He then asked me, if I wanted to feel, how it felt to have another person suck, my boy cock. I was now in, a wine induced trance and all I could do was, nod my head yes. He wrapped warm moist lips around my boy cock and his tongue danced all over my boy cock head while his hands squeezed my ass cheeks. It did not take long and I soon, started to cum hard and fast, into his mouth and he swallowed every drop of my tasty cum load.

After a while, and after I caught my breath, he stood up and undid his own shorts. His man cock was so much bigger than mine and it was rock hard and much thicker than mine, maybe about 7” or so. He took my hand and put it on his cock. He asked if I wanted to try to suck his man cock and I told him, that I never sucked a cock before, so after a while, I leaned over and instinctively I then, wrap my hand aroynd his man cock and started stroke him and I was amazed, at how warm his cock was and the texture, it was all very appealing.

I then, took his man cock, in my mouth and I was amazed, with his big mushroom shaped head and it was soon hitting the back of my throat, as I slid my mouth up and down instinctively. He was soon moaning in ecstasy and after awhile he started bucking his hips up and down, so I took his swallow and sucked his man cock faster and deeper into my throat, as much as I could, as I moved from the top, to deep inside, my own throat. After what seemed awhile, I could fell his thick cock throbbing a bit, as he shot his warm load of man cum, I had tried to swallow, as much as, I could and some of his man juices, began to leak from my mouth, all over my face and soon onto the floor. So, I had experience my first man cock! Now, I did understand, at lease at that time, that, in my life that, it was not considered normal, so I then focused on what I believe, was normal, a male and female lifestyle. Now after 40 years, of marriage to a wonderful woman, and after we both, had raised four wonderful and normal children, while living a very normal relationship. then we discovered that my wife had Cancer, which we fought for almost 3 years, until she passed.

I now often find myself, reflecting on my own, vivid memories, of my very brief, Bisexual experience and I think we are, in one way or another, mostly open to having Bisexual thought, not all men are brave enough to peruse, and/or act on our Bisexual fantasies.

I was very blessed, with having a great woman and very lucky, being married, to the love of my life and I am not interest in seeking out another woman. So now, I find myself, seeking a new Bisexual relationship. Meaning now, I can enjoy a nice male cock. as much as, I once love the female pussy, on any given day, as long as, we both are satisfied.

If you are older then, maybe you should consider or at lease think about Bisexual relationship, it is the best of both worlds!

ncbymail

Dec 29, 2019, 5:12 PM

I've always been over sexed and had a more that ordinary interest in cock. So when my wife lost interest in sex to the point I had to beg for it I looked for other ways to get off and satisfy my needs. I fucked around with a couple of women but was always more about it just being sex than they were. It seemed like it could get ugly if I said the wrong thing. So I went to ABS glory holes and got my cock sucked for years. Then I finally tried sucking one and really liked it. Now, I'd probably rather suck one than get mine sucked.
I don't want to put the blame on my wife but the changes in her brought out a dormant side of me. I don't fuck her but a few times a year. The most common way for me to get off now is by jacking my cock or sucking some dick. I pretty happy with that but if I could get more cock I'd be even happier!

Jsmitty077

Jun 10, 2020, 3:45 AM

Not sure if I qualify as ‘older’, but I’m 36 and just discovering I may have some interest in other men. I too am a bit confused by it, because I’m not attracted to men at all. Wouldn’t wanna make out with one or cuddle etc, but for some reason I’m very turned on at the idea of engaging in sexual acts with another guy, most specifically a threesome with my wife and a bisexual guy. For me, I guess it’s mostly that it’s something new. After being married for 14 years my wife and I have dabbled in just about all that sex can offer between one guy and one gal. It started for me when my wife (who was a virgin when we got married), told me that she was kind of curious about what it would be like to have sex with another guy. I had had sex with maybe a half dozen girls before I met her, so as she pointed out, I got to experience sex with someone other than her whereas she never had that experience. She had fooled around with guys before we met but only touching and oral, nothing penetrative sex wise. But she said she would be apprehensive about having sex with another guy off by herself so expressed that maybe having a threesome with me and another guy would be a more comfortable way for her to experience it. So that led me to start thinking about that and if I would want to do anything with another guy if we had a threesome together. I started watching bisexual threesome (mmf) porn to see if it struck my fancy and boy did it ever. The idea of fucking another guy, just me and him is somewhat less appealing than a bisexual threesome with another guy and my wife, but I’m still very curious about it. As mentioned before, I always like trying new and different things in regards to sex, and fooling around with another guy isn’t something I had ever even really considered before my wife revealed that she was curious about sex with someone other than me. So I’m somewhat hesitant to call myself bisexual, not because I’m hung up on labels or anything but more so because I’m not sure it quite fits as I’m not attracted to both sexes per se, but am very interested in sex with both, preferably simultaneously, but even just me and another guy I think could be fun. Part of it for me is I just very much enjoy physical pleasure/sensations and I enjoy providing others with the same. So for me whether I lick pussy or suck a cock to pleasure my partner makes no real difference to me, so long as we are exchanging pleasure with one another, that’s what it’s about for me and not that I find a guy or find dicks appealing per se. I guess it’s also in part that I’ve more or less mastered the pussy so to speak, I know it’s ins and outs etc and am just sort of yearning for something new and different. Not sure that helps answer your inquiry at all, but that’s how it is for me.