Are you attracted to all types of guys?

[JordanCD]

I?m here and I?m obviously into dick but I rarely find men attractive in daily life. When I do it?s usually either younger feminine guys, in which case I wanna fuck them, OR big burly lumberjack types in which case I want them to use me like a slut.

Does anyone else have one or two specific types like this, or are you attracted to most decent looking guys?

[Jazminedress]

well yeah, it's no different than the hetero , gay, lesbian community, we all have our likes and dislikes. I think CD's are, well not to make it like we are special different, but I think we fall into another class. Most hetero people have a look or something that is attracted to them, like me, when younger, I liked any girl who looked like Winnie Cooper from the Wonder years. I am guessing gay men and Lesbian women have their type too, and would hazard a guess that people who are trans would be similar.

When you add being a CD into the mix, well, it changes everything, why do I say that ?

After speaking to about 25 CD's one on one, I find, we basically live two lives, kind of a boy mode and girl mode. we know, as in my case we are biologically male, we don't feel we are in the wrong body, and we adjust depending on how we dress. I know when dressed in boy mode, my likes and behaviors are different than when en femme.

When as a guy, I am attracted to women who have dark hair and hips, something about those mommy hips to me is very feminine and I like it. I am also attracted to women over 45 to 65, younger 20 somethings not so much. I feel lder women have more character in the way they look.

Now, when wearing a dress, I generally am open, with a few likes. I don't like super hairy guys, chest, back, privates, you know, situate that situation. If I can spend 2 hours preparing, clean that up.

I am not attracted to perfect sculpted muscle guys, I like a little flab, a little dad bod, they can be in shape, but, not looking for a body builder I even like them more if they are a little geeky with dad jokes and can laugh at themselves. Beards are not my thing, I do like a smooth face

But, that said, I am mostly attracted to a good personality first and foremost. When dressed as a guy, I am only mildly attracted to men

[KDaddy23]

There are guys I like and guys I don't and I don't "eat with my eyes" because I learned that my eyes can and will deceive me so I don't trust them. My protege loves to ask me what type of men I like and remains baffled when I tell him that I don't have a type and I don't have any preferences other than to have sex with a guy who is willing and able and he's healthy and not my idea of an asshole. I used to have a thing against uncut dicks that took me decades to get over - but I got over it. Really hairy guys just freak me out - but I had to learn how to ignore it. Tall guys. Short ones. Fat. Skinny. Built like brickhouses. Big dicks. Not so big dicks. "Ugly" guys. Guys who could be on the cover of GQ. Race, color, creed, ethnicity - all window dressing because it's what's inside the guy that matters more than anything else.

I prefer to have sex and I am attracted to it. Now it's just a matter of what we can agree on what that's going to look like. I don't like guys like I do women and, um, who says I have to? I have loved a guy and it was real and wonderful, but I still prefer to have sex and if this comes along, so be it but, then again, I have a different perspective on what "attracted" means. I don't look at guys and get all weak in the knees and I'm okay with it and I can't stress enough that what you look like doesn't mean anything because looks are deceiving, and I learned the hard way with both men and women that just because it looks good doesn't mean that it's gonna be good... so ignore the window dressing and see what's on the inside.

I'd sleep with Jaz and not give it a second thought even though she's a CD type of guy. That doesn't matter but what does matter is... Jaz. That desire. Wanting to do it because doing it is fun and all that. I'm game if you are and let's give it the good old college try. What else really matters?

[Ashct22]

well yeah, it's no different than the hetero , gay, lesbian community, we all have our likes and dislikes. I think CD's are, well not to make it like we are special different, but I think we fall into another class. Most hetero people have a look or something that is attracted to them, like me, when younger, I liked any girl who looked like Winnie Cooper from the Wonder years. I am guessing gay men and Lesbian women have their type too, and would hazard a guess that people who are trans would be similar.

When you add being a CD into the mix, well, it changes everything, why do I say that ?

After speaking to about 25 CD's one on one, I find, we basically live two lives, kind of a boy mode and girl mode. we know, as in my case we are biologically male, we don't feel we are in the wrong body, and we adjust depending on how we dress. I know when dressed in boy mode, my likes and behaviors are different than when en femme.

When as a guy, I am attracted to women who have dark hair and hips, something about those mommy hips to me is very feminine and I like it. I am also attracted to women over 45 to 65, younger 20 somethings not so much. I feel lder women have more character in the way they look.

Now, when wearing a dress, I generally am open, with a few likes. I don't like super hairy guys, chest, back, privates, you know, situate that situation. If I can spend 2 hours preparing, clean that up.

I am not attracted to perfect sculpted muscle guys, I like a little flab, a little dad bod, they can be in shape, but, not looking for a body builder I even like them more if they are a little geeky with dad jokes and can laugh at themselves. Beards are not my thing, I do like a smooth face

But, that said, I am mostly attracted to a good personality first and foremost. When dressed as a guy, I am only mildly attracted to men

So well said, as usual. Boy mode/ girl mode- yes, absolutely! Maturity, personality and grooming matter to me, whether it be man or woman. Size and shape not as important.

[tongueteaser]

I have never been like attracted to guys. I just like dick and sucking. I would prefer a feminine type guy though if I had to do more than give him head

[Jazminedress]

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I'd sleep with Jaz and not give it a second thought even though she's a CD type of guy. That doesn't matter but what does matter is... Jaz. That desire. Wanting to do it because doing it is fun and all that. I'm game if you are and let's give it the good old college try. What else really matters?

we wouldnt be sleeping........lol

I 100% agree, the better the person, the more fun the sex is, if I can bond and laugh it makes it so much better

[tenni]

I'm attracted to masculine CIS men and feminine CIS women socially, sensually and emotionally. My being attracted is different for women as it is for men. i.e. I am attracted physically differently to women than men. I like a hairy chest on a guy but not a hairy chest on a woman. I'm capable of being emotionally attracted to men equally as I am for women. However, I can not write that I'm into dick as a driving source of attraction. It is more the total interaction between us.

I'm not attracted to feminine men but I may be socially friendly with them especially if they are creative and/or intelligent. I'm similarly about Asexuals but a very good friend is an Asexual imo and has been for years. I just don't talk to him about sexual behaviour.

I'm not attracted to cross dressers but I'm a bit curious about their behaviour. I do not understand men who post that they are bisexual and are CD. I don't understand why male posters on this site write so much about their interaction with men but not women???

As far as trans people, I'm not sure about any attraction. It might depend how they are transitioning. If a trans woman has completed the transition, I might be interested in her as a feminine woman with a vagina. A trans man with a vagina but hairy body and beard might be curious but I'm not sure if I'm curious enough to explore that.

[Jazminedress]

I'm not attracted to cross dressers but I'm a bit curious about their behaviour. I do not understand men who post that they are bisexual and are CD.

Feel free to PM or ask anything openly..........while I cant speak for all, I have asked this same question of myself and others like me in the past, I am more than happy to answer what I can

[wb4all]

I’m not really interested in a guy as much as his dick although one thing that is a must is cleanness. I’ve had an strong interest in finding my first passable lady with breast and a pleasing dick.

[dicktrobing]

I don't find guys attractive as such, I am just interested in sex with them .................... although there is something about a buff 20 something :love87:

[Long Duck Dong]

Its a question that I have considered at times......

I actually do not find most guys appealing or arousing, they are just guys, in the same way that looking at a cock pic does nothing for me.......but the same is true of females and breast / pussy pics...

I am in a closed group relationship with my intersex female partner, another male and two females, its actually the way they make me smile, laugh, think, consider different opinions etc that I enjoy, and in the bedroom, its the way that we interact and have sex, that is appealing and makes sex with them enjoyable......

As I am generally a bottom with males, and pegged by the females / fucked by my partner, I tend not to top males but will top my partner and the other females

People like jazmine, I find to be attractive, intelligent, funny and great conversationalists ( and would love to meet them for coffee, so I could say I have met them face to face ), and its CD/Trans people like that ,that I am fine with.... I have the blessing of knowing of a number of ladyboys and self labeled she males that are great people, some of whom I have sex with and it has been great sex, but they are also great people......

People I tend to avoid, are opinionated, troublesome, woe is me / eternal victims...and people that act like others are simply a cock and have no other value AKA suck and run.....5 minutes of conversation before casual sex, can make a big difference to me.......

[twilde1952]

Any nice clean old man would do for me. I would like him to smell good and taste good too of course it would be nice if he had a large cock but functional is the most important part. Clean shaven, none smoking, and STD free. Terry. I want you.

[licyou69]

Not attracted to the guy as much as the cock, but prefer the guy be clean and someone who takes care of himself, the latter of which is no different than what I am attracted to in women.

[jimkimball]

I am not attracted to men just cock ,but I do prefer thin muscular over chubby guys .

[KDaddy23]

we wouldnt be sleeping........lol

I 100% agree, the better the person, the more fun the sex is, if I can bond and laugh it makes it so much better

Hell, no, we wouldn't be sleeping, well, um, not for a while...

[nu2curious]

No ! Only a particular type will do. He should be fit , disease free, honest and have a nice attractive package, after all that is the most beautiful thing about a male.

[csreef]

I've never been attracted to all types of men, the same way I'm not attracted to all types of women. N'est pas? :flag1:

[CockHummer]

When dressed as a guy, I am only mildly attracted to men

I apologize right up front for reacting to this alone out of everything you've said, and especially if it just strikes you as nosy, but I find that most interesting and intriguing, to have you say apparently quite seriously and literally, that your gender preference varies depending on how you are dressed. I find that just amazing. You said you've spoken to about 25 other CDs, presumably about a number of issues tied to the dress. Did you get the impression that that is a common experience or perhaps that it is not at all? Does the fact that you're interested in each gender more depending on what your wearing, then, influence what you are more prone to wear at a given time?

[CockHummer]

I'm attracted to masculine CIS men and feminine CIS women socially, sensually and emotionally. My being attracted is different for women as it is for men. i.e. I am attracted physically differently to women than men. I like a hairy chest on a guy but not a hairy chest on a woman. I'm capable of being emotionally attracted to men equally as I am for women. However, I can not write that I'm into dick as a driving source of attraction. It is more the total interaction between us.

I do not understand men who post that they are bisexual and are CD.

I don't understand why male posters on this site write so much about their interaction with men but not women???

As far as trans people, I'm not sure about any attraction. It might depend how they are transitioning. If a trans woman has completed the transition, I might be interested in her as a feminine woman with a vagina. A trans man with a vagina but hairy body and beard might be curious but I'm not sure if I'm curious enough to explore that.

I don't mean to pick on you or seem critical, bug I find it amazing to read how different we all can be. Of course I do not mean to knock you at all to say this, but you and I are just about dead opposites on almost every point you made, so somehow comparing my sexual appetites with yours seemed like a curiously useful way to respond for myself here.

As far as women go, I like them voluptuous but not fat. I tend to prefer long hair styles on women. I like a pretty face and someone who likes to dress and make herself up attractively at least some of the time. Aside from that, I'm pretty wide open with women, just as long as they fall in those fairly broad guidelines.

I am among those who don't really find men attractive physically aside from the genitals, but of all men, I am more comfortable with those who are moderately effeminate. Body hair, aside from pubes, turns me right off. I don't like obesity, but a gymnastic male body, with very occasional exception, turns me off in a different way. If a guy has a bit of an obvious wiggle when he walks and he dresses not necessarily with female clothing but colorfully and without anything to exaggerate his maleness, I'm good with that.

You express not understanding men who describe being both bisexual and CD. Why on earth not? You don't have to be attracted to them or to the idea, but their being different than the way you are different certainly is not problematic. I've even heard there are some CD guys who are absolutely straight sexually, even though they get off on wearing women's clothing and makeup. I'm not even sure what you meant in that comment--do you think all CD guys should be 100% gay, or what? If you do, then why? I live in a suburban enough area, far enough from any major city, that I rarely cross paths with CD guys and wouldn't know if I have with trans females, but considering the former, I know I've seen some porn photos of really hot cocks and balls stuffed in women's panties, and they can drive me crazy. I think it might be fun to find a CD guy with a good personality and sense of humor. Once the clothes come off, I can't picture it being all that much different from sex with any other guy. Maybe I just don't have enough imagination in that regard.

Then there is your comment regarding trans women, and it amazed me. Again, I live where I presume access would be quite limited, and I'm not sure how I would take it, but my reasons are quite different from yours. For one thing, if you're worried about body hair and such, I suspect you're just being a little impatient. You have to give them enough time for the hormone therapy to have effect. I don't suspect any person born into a male body who feels she is a female wants to go through life covered in coarse, "bear" hair. Again, I don't like body hair on men, so why on earth would I want to see or be with a hairy, masculine woman!

This is one place where I fear what I say truthfully might hurt someone's feelings if we have any trans females on here, and of course that is not my intention. The big thing for me in this context is that I would want someone who started the change early enough in life that masculine changes of the facial bony structure had not yet started, so that her face looks absolutely female. I would like big breasts and a curvy butt, but most importantly of all, for me, the exact opposite of you, I would want her to be among those who elected to keep her penis. If I want to be with a woman, I can readily be with a woman, but to find myself with a gorgeous. sexy, voluptuous female with curves in all the right places, who just also happened to have a cock to be sucked would be amazing to me. Just the idea of it is part of what makes it hard for me to find men attractive, even though I love sucking cock.

The one thing I agree with you on is that I find it peculiar that almost 100% of the discussion on this site for "bisexuals" involves nearly 100% males talking about various aspects of having sex with other guys. At the same time, my involvement on here can be described in exactly that way, for the most part, in fact, by far. As such, I can speak for myself on this topic.

I spent most of my adult life married happily to a woman who was not interested in sharing sex outside of our marriage--it seemed perfectly normal to me, as that was the way it was with everyone I knew, and I promised faithfulness, so with a bit of difficulty here and there (and in fact, I came closer to cheating on her with other women far more than with men), she was my sex partner. We had a great sex life that only got better as her body matured, and I had a greater sex drive than she, so between our typical 3 or 4 long sex sessions a week, I would jerk off, at times fantasizing about other women and never about her, but more commonly about sucking off some guy. I had the real sense that doing that spiced up my involvement with her, so it never got tiresome until late in our life together, when she got so busy studying for a new career, that she had no time for sex and she let her body go quite badly (again, I don't like obese; it was a major problem when we went through pregnancies, and she put on about fifty pounds with each of three), and sex between us stopped.

I remained faithful, at least in the sense of not truly cheating on her, but it was around the time we got our first computer, and I found online porn, and she felt that even with that, I was cheating on her. I also allowed myself to become convinced, given how close we had always been prior to that, that I should finally let on about my bisexuality, and she couldn't accept it. It was so bad, that even after sharing periods of time when I was so turned on by her that premature ejaculation was a problem and other periods when I was so turned on I'd retain an erection for sometimes even five minutes after I came, and we'd had so much regular sex together, with me always cumming like mad, she actually came out and asked me, with a tone of presumption, if I was really gay. On top of that, I developed a disabling neuropathy, and we were stressed with a son who had become a heroin addict, and our marriage failed, of all things, right around the time when I had formerly looked forward to marrying her a second time.

Once we were divorced, I went looking for a website to find out more about other guys who were actively bisexual and got involved in some of the discussion--that is how I ended up here. As for me, the straight sex side of things was so ordinary I just haven't felt a need to discuss it. I know everything I could possibly want to know about it. I can't speak for everyone in that regard, but I've gotten the sense from things some guys have said, that they got interested when they lost their spouse or their spouse lost her interest in sex, and after decades of suppressing this side of one's sexual nature, you can be left with a lot to ask and a lot to say.

[Jazminedress]

I apologize right up front for reacting to this alone out of everything you've said, and especially if it just strikes you as nosy, but I find that most interesting and intriguing, to have you say apparently quite seriously and literally, that your gender preference varies depending on how you are dressed. I find that just amazing. You said you've spoken to about 25 other CDs, presumably about a number of issues tied to the dress. Did you get the impression that that is a common experience or perhaps that it is not at all? Does the fact that you're interested in each gender more depending on what your wearing, then, influence what you are more prone to wear at a given time?

You are not being nosy, and I am always happy to discuss these things. I made a choice a while back to really put myself out there, with the understanding that some people will understand how I am, others may flame me to death and hate what I say. My only hope, is that someone else who is struggling with understanding themselves, may feel a little better and be able be at peace, the only way this can happen, is by being open..............so I welcome your questions.

I find CD's (different from trans), in my experience fall into a few categories that get lumped together. There are people like me that work very hard on the make up, the clothes, the perfume (everything to be as close to feminine as we can. Then you have guys who only put on lingerie for the feeling, it's all very tactile and it is nothing more than a sexual enhancement. The other one is what many refer to as Panty boys, they enjoy wearing female designated underwear either as a turn on for themselves, or their partner, of course there are crossovers and variations.

The people like me who try to go all out, the ones I have talked too, we agree, there is a feeling as you are getting dressed. With each step from getting out of the shower and wrapping the towel around your chest and not around the waist, to starting to place toner oils on your face, make up, putting on stockings...................there is like a light dimmer switch that gets turned up on each step to becoming the female appearance you are looking for.

Unlike people who just put on lingerie for sexual reasons, you will find, many of us take 2 or 3 hours for our changeover. Now, to be clear, I do not have gender dysphoria of any kind, I know I am male, I know I will always be male, and I am okay with it, I have no desire to transition. I also know that my look is make believe, I have zero illusions.

You will find as we get dressed and go through the process, we will start walking different, taking smaller steps, naturally sitting different, the way we stand, it really is a change over.

As we "Become" female (and yes I purposely used quotes), we will adopt feminine mannerisims, so it is natural for us to have our attractions change, hence, the reason when dressed I am more interested in men than when dressed as a male.

No, it isn't 100%, sometimes i have to take work calls while dressed so I slide mentally back and forth, and yes I have had to deal with jerk guys were I slip back to male mode to deal with them.

AsI had shared for many years, I felt like I had a dual personality and it worried me about my mental health, if there was something wrong with me. It took a while for me to reconcile that these are just different versions of myself.

I always use the analogy of when I perform onstage, either musically or acting, I become that person for that time period, this is similar, just no stage. So long answer to a simple question, yes, depending on how I am dressed influences how I am.

Think of this, you wear jeans and a t-shirt every day, then one day, you get married, you put on a fitted tuxedo, go to a spa get a nice shave and haircut............you are suddenly looking int he mirror, tilting your head and reciting the words "James, James Bond, shaken not stirred", it's kind of like that

[tenni]

Cockhumer

"You express not understanding men who describe being both bisexual and CD. Why on earth not? You don't have to be attracted to them or to the idea, but their being different than the way you are different certainly is not problematic. I've even heard there are some CD guys who are absolutely straight sexually, even though they get off on wearing women's clothing and makeup. I'm not even sure what you meant in that comment--do you think all CD guys should be 100% gay, or what? If you do, then why?"

I wrote that I do not understand why a bi guy links their bisexuallty to CD. You write "why not?" I do not see my sexuality as connected to CD. If a CD states that they are straight that is their business...not mine. I do not connect all CD's to one specific sexuality. It may be a descriptor to add for some Bisexual. "Shaved body" might be a different descriptor for females or males.

[Mister56]

A mature silver haired gentleman really turns me on…

[Tristate275]

Skinny, 20 something with an average dick or buff 20 year old with a small dick.

[Leo Rabbit]

I find I'm mostly turned on by guys with great bodies. I love touching and massaging someone with muscles. HUGE turn on. I'm also very curious about someone more effeminate as I think those kinds would bring out my Top/Dom side.

[rukiddingme]

Men who are straight socially yet gay privately...lustful, passionate, touching, and kissing...just as erotic as one would have with a traditional male/female sexual experience.

[Jazminedress]

Cockhumer

"You express not understanding men who describe being both bisexual and CD. Why on earth not? You don't have to be attracted to them or to the idea, but their being different than the way you are different certainly is not problematic. I've even heard there are some CD guys who are absolutely straight sexually, even though they get off on wearing women's clothing and makeup. I'm not even sure what you meant in that comment--do you think all CD guys should be 100% gay, or what? If you do, then why?"

I wrote that I do not understand why a bi guy links their bisexuallty to CD. You write "why not?" I do not see my sexuality as connected to CD. If a CD states that they are straight that is their business...not mine. I do not connect all CD's to one specific sexuality. It may be a descriptor to add for some Bisexual. "Shaved body" might be a different descriptor for females or males.

very good point, I think most people assume CD's are bi or gay

[Jazminedress]

@Jordancd

very good topic to bring up. Its nice to have a respectful conversation of differences and things we may not understand about each other

[DLazguy]

I just prefer that they are attractive to my standards, not hairy, slim/fit, good looking cut cock (preferably big)

[Long Duck Dong]

You are not being nosy, and I am always happy to discuss these things. I made a choice a while back to really put myself out there, with the understanding that some people will understand how I am, others may flame me to death and hate what I say. My only hope, is that someone else who is struggling with understanding themselves, may feel a little better and be able be at peace, the only way this can happen, is by being open..............so I welcome your questions.

I find CD's (different from trans), in my experience fall into a few categories that get lumped together. There are people like me that work very hard on the make up, the clothes, the perfume (everything to be as close to feminine as we can. Then you have guys who only put on lingerie for the feeling, it's all very tactile and it is nothing more than a sexual enhancement. The other one is what many refer to as Panty boys, they enjoy wearing female designated underwear either as a turn on for themselves, or their partner, of course there are crossovers and variations.

The people like me who try to go all out, the ones I have talked too, we agree, there is a feeling as you are getting dressed. With each step from getting out of the shower and wrapping the towel around your chest and not around the waist, to starting to place toner oils on your face, make up, putting on stockings...................there is like a light dimmer switch that gets turned up on each step to becoming the female appearance you are looking for.

Unlike people who just put on lingerie for sexual reasons, you will find, many of us take 2 or 3 hours for our changeover. Now, to be clear, I do not have gender dysphoria of any kind, I know I am male, I know I will always be male, and I am okay with it, I have no desire to transition. I also know that my look is make believe, I have zero illusions.

You will find as we get dressed and go through the process, we will start walking different, taking smaller steps, naturally sitting different, the way we stand, it really is a change over.

As we "Become" female (and yes I purposely used quotes), we will adopt feminine mannerisims, so it is natural for us to have our attractions change, hence, the reason when dressed I am more interested in men than when dressed as a male.

No, it isn't 100%, sometimes i have to take work calls while dressed so I slide mentally back and forth, and yes I have had to deal with jerk guys were I slip back to male mode to deal with them.

AsI had shared for many years, I felt like I had a dual personality and it worried me about my mental health, if there was something wrong with me. It took a while for me to reconcile that these are just different versions of myself.

I always use the analogy of when I perform onstage, either musically or acting, I become that person for that time period, this is similar, just no stage. So long answer to a simple question, yes, depending on how I am dressed influences how I am.

Think of this, you wear jeans and a t-shirt every day, then one day, you get married, you put on a fitted tuxedo, go to a spa get a nice shave and haircut............you are suddenly looking int he mirror, tilting your head and reciting the words "James, James Bond, shaken not stirred", it's kind of like that

I showed this to my intersex female partner, to get her thoughts....... the reason I refer to her as a intersex female so much, is because people get confused if I talk about her cock, and assume she is transgender

While she is female in appearance, she actually sees herself as non gendered in that she does not ascribe to any gender role or * guidelines * but does her own thing, and the reason for using she / her as pronouns is simply to avoid the pronoun debate, and she / her does not sound like people are talking about her rather than with her when they are talking with her and myself.......

She agrees with the mental shift aspect, she has the same thing herself around others, such as mannerism and expression......and shes honest about the fact that the female aspect is more emotional, sexual, open minded and sharing, while the male aspect is blunt, unyielding and less willing to listen.......and how that plays out in the bedroom, is the male aspect is more in control when it comes to sex where as the female aspect is more versatile and adapting

What she finds interesting ( so do I ) is the stance that males can cross dressing but not females, because jeans are unisex ( even tho there is male and female styles of jeans ) tops are unisex, underwear is also unisex, unless its male or female styled underwear....... and while she wears a sports bra, its more for comfort and ease of putting on, rather than any stance or agenda such as * burn the bra and free the nipple, and also its not just males that stare at her breasts, its also females, its just that males can be less discreet about it......

She, like myself, do have the stance that sex is gendered, people play a role in the bedroom, such as the female is on the bottom, the male is on top, and also even tho people are non binary / gender neutral etc, more often than not, they will actually assume a role that is * assigned * to a gender, such as the * lead * in a relationship......and gets annoyed when people talk with us but deal with me as the * lead * simply because they see me as male, I am actually neuro sexual ( its a modern term where the brain has all the knowledge, understanding and awareness of being male / female and also non gendered....acknowledging the fact that advances in brain scans are showing that gendered brains are not as common as believed )

She shaves her legs occasionally because wearing a dress or shirt rubs against the hair and annoys her, shaves her arms when she feels like she looks like a gorilla, and has a general term for the times that she does not shave, its called * I can not be stuffed * rather than some fight against social norms.....and while shaving leaves a silky smooth feel to her skin, it does not make her feel feminine....

What made me laugh, is when she said that she prefers versatile people in the bedroom, people that do not think that sex has to involve penetration of either person, but can simply be oral, masturbation, cuddling, kissing etc, tho she loves penetrative sex....its simply that she loves the idea that there can be more options than whose cock goes in who......

For my partner and I, we do not see crossdressing and bisexuality as hand in hand like a couple but more like FWB, lol. A good friend of ours is straight and cross dresses, as he talks about a alter ego called maxine, which his wife knows about, and she loves to peg the fuck out of him in the bedroom, as maxine, but not when hes in the male role.....as she says, its like his cross dressing also brings out a side of her that she did not know about previously, yet she has the same thinking that people do not see her as crossdressing when she is wearing male clothing but do see her husband as crossdressing when he wears female clothing.......

We love the way you post in a informative and educational way about your life and have copied your posts for others to read and enjoy.... a much needed voice in the site that shows that cross dressing is not always sexual, but simply a part of whom you are......in the same way that being bisexual, is not always about talking about having sex and how.....

PS my partner asked do you wear heels, cos she hates the fucking things but her boss used to grumble when she would turn up to work in a dress with hiking boots, lol.....her stance was if people are staring at my boots, they are not listening to a bloody word I say..... ( she was a former high flying business executive and expected to dress accordingly, and while she wore suits, and said SEE, I am cross dressing and thats fine, she preferred casual and relaxed because thats the way she talked with clients )

[Jazminedress]

PS my partner asked do you wear heels, cos she hates the fucking things but her boss used to grumble when she would turn up to work in a dress with hiking boots, lol.....her stance was if people are staring at my boots, they are not listening to a bloody word I say..... ( she was a former high flying business executive and expected to dress accordingly, and while she wore suits, and said SEE, I am cross dressing and thats fine, she preferred casual and relaxed because thats the way she talked with clients )

I love heels, to me it is such a feminine thing, and it helps the butt look better. I am also very picky about my perfume. when dating, i demand of a guy, what I demand of myself when dating a woman. Car door opened, chair pulled out. When I am on a date with a female, when she gets up to go to the bathroom, I stand, when she comes back I stand again.

It may sound sexist, but, I prefer old school manners, such as when a woman stands, a man never sits, I enjoy the old school behaviors in many ways.

I could not imagine being intersex. It's honestly hard to wrap my head around. It is the ultimate foot in both worlds. I would love to one day sit with you two and really have a deep discussion

[Long Duck Dong]

We would both love to meet for coffee, in fact, the other people in our closed group relationship, would as well, as they enjoy your posts.....and yeah the old school manners thing definitely got a nod from the other guy in our closed group relationship, he said yes a gentleman treats the ladies with respect, a lady respects a gentleman more than a male that treats her as if shes just another woman......

My partner would tell me off if I did the old school thing with her, in jest of course, as she would love being treated with such respect and courtesy and in the house, she is actually the head of the house and manages it with ease, while I deal with our different businesses and investments.......we both love to cook and tell the other to get the hell out of our kitchen when we are cooking......but when it comes to her baths, she loves bubble baths and foot massages, and being pampered....doing the whole princess thing lol

As for being intersex, it is the foot in both worlds but it does have its dark side, shes seen as a female and a woman but also told that as a intersex person, she is really a sexuality / gender minority and so her voice is best heard in that role.......and to her, thats actually an insult and devaluing of her and her experiences......sure shes run into the odd male thats a jerk but as she says, shes run into modern feminists that are just as bad in different ways.......

[CockHummer]

I don't want to make too much of this, but I remain confused. I don't know that anyone meant to say he "links" his bisexuality to being a CD. They seem to me to be two different aspects of his life. In a sense, experiencing both might even be convenient for him in some situations, but I think it's fair to say that most bi guys are not CD, and there is no expectation that the two be linked at all. CD guys can be straight, gay, or bi. You explain that you don't see your sexuality as connected to CD. Well, I don't either. Of course not. Most of us don't. They are two distinct, somewhat uncommon aspects of sexuality that will just occasionally occur in one person.

[tenni]

CockHummer

I am going to reply as I think you are posting to me. Remembering that the OP of this thread asked about attraction to all types . I see that as no wrong or right answer for whom a type of person is attracted to.

I agree with your post in post 33. "Links" may not be the best word.

Transgender is another complication especially when discussing bisexuality and gender transitions. Go with the flow hummer and don't worry if it is not you. :)

[Jazminedress]

They are two distinct, somewhat uncommon aspects of sexuality that will just occasionally occur in one person.

I think you are correct in some of this, as I have discussed with others, for me, the majority of the time it is very linked in the two together, even thought there have been exceptions.

I think one day, it would be interesting to have a liason with another CD, as that adds another realm of possibilities.

Now ya all got me being very introspective and thinking, but it is a very good and interesting conversation

[beamish13]

I love very androgynous and somewhat femme trans guys

with cisgender men, they must have smooth faces and bodies. Very partial to chubbier guys and men with thick, bubble asses. Smaller cocks are wonderful.

[Long Duck Dong]

I don't want to make too much of this, but I remain confused. I don't know that anyone meant to say he "links" his bisexuality to being a CD. They seem to me to be two different aspects of his life. In a sense, experiencing both might even be convenient for him in some situations, but I think it's fair to say that most bi guys are not CD, and there is no expectation that the two be linked at all. CD guys can be straight, gay, or bi. You explain that you don't see your sexuality as connected to CD. Well, I don't either. Of course not. Most of us don't. They are two distinct, somewhat uncommon aspects of sexuality that will just occasionally occur in one person.

A while ago, I was reading about identities and one that stuck out to me, was autogynephilia, which is basically sexual arousal when a male sees themselves as a female or presents themselves as a female........

It had me curious about if some members and non members find sex to be more enjoyable for them if they put themselves in the role of a female ( including CD / role play ) which is different to a male being a sub / fem for another male, which is different again to a person that prefers to be a bottom or sucker etc......

I have trans and CD females myself, that range from straight to gay, lesbian, bi, pan and asexual...most of them do not link their gender expression or CD, to their sexuality, tho a number of the trans people have changed their sexuality label, to match the change in their gender identity, and interestingly the majority of them ( MtF ), do not consider themselves to be bisexual / gay but straight or lesbian....

Even in this site, the majority of CD members have not indicated that they see their sexuality and gender expression mutually linked, in fact many ( males ) have mentioned crossdressing and sex with males and how they enjoy those experiences, and rarely mentioned crossdressing with a female, even tho they are bisexual.....and a good number have indicated that they do not combine their crossdressing and sexual activities.....

The only person in the site, who is vocal about their attraction to CIS people, and how bisexuality and CD can be seen as mutually linked, is actually tenni, who has posted in the past that he feels that CD posting about crossdressing and sex in the site, will confuse people into thinking that bisexuality and CD go together/ are mutually linked together.....and maybe CD posts belong in a CD site, not a site about bisexuality.....
tenni has a history of objecting to members posts that do not fit with the way he believes the site should be, or having the site being open and welcoming to all as a place to share and learn....

[Jazminedress]

....and a good number have indicated that they do not combine their crossdressing and sexual activities.....

The only person in the site, who is vocal about their attraction to CIS people, and how bisexuality and CD can be seen as mutually linked, is actually tenni, who has posted in the past that he feels that CD posting about crossdressing and sex in the site, will confuse people into thinking that bisexuality and CD go together/ are mutually linked together.....and maybe CD posts belong in a CD site, not a site about bisexuality.....
tenni has a history of objecting to members posts that do not fit with the way he believes the site should be, or having the site being open and welcoming to all as a place to share and learn....


My only disagreement, I have agreed to some of those points personally. I think the bigger issue is, we are learning that no one definition fits any of us anymore, and I think that is society wide, we are having to relearn things we thought we knew. On a personal basis, I know there are people that dont agree with my lifestyle, or the way I see things, and thats actually good. When we do it in a respectful manner, it allows us to have open conversations and learn from each other.

Although, I could be batshit crazy, you never know.....lol

I think being a CD helps me to express my Bi side a lot more and freely in the manner I wish too. There is two guys together sucking and getting off, that is for sure bi sex if they go home to a female.

The added part of dressing allows for the more feminine seduction and feelings, which, for me personally is more important, but as I said, i could be crazy

[Long Duck Dong]

Being batshit crazy is not a bad thing...lol....far better than seeing the world the same way as everybody else.........

I do agree with the no one definition fits any of us anymore.......I have watched the *debate* about what bisexuality actually is, and some people stick with the * attraction to males and females * while others say it includes males, females, trans, non binary etc ( pansexuality ) and the right to self identity makes any variation correct......what makes me laugh, is the way that people then say the definition of bisexuality is.....rather than one of the definitions of bisexuality is....

I am neuro diverse, neuro gender and neuro sexual myself... a complicated way of saying that my brain works like it was put in a blender, and now likes to argue with itself, my mind and my body on a regular basis, so I could find a person like you, attractive, while not being attracted to you as a male, yet enjoy sex with you as a male, enjoying talking with you as a female, kissing and cuddling yet zero desire and interest in penetrative sex...... and 3 days later, completely different, no sex desire for you as a male and enjoying full penetrative sex with you as a female.......

So yeah I also get what you say about being with another CD could be different to being with a fixed gender person.... kinda in a similar way to how my partner is great for me, sexually because they can be the male, the female or both at different times......

And to be honest, I am still no closer to working out what type of person I am actually attracted to... and I have done a wide range of people and activities......but when it comes to individuals, its easier because I can list the aspects and traits in that person

Anyways, I have an odd question, when you post in bisexual.com are you posting as a male, a female or both or simply as jaz... because your posts are funny, insightful but also neutral in energy ( not really masculine or feminine )

[grover]

I am not attracted to men. I could care less about their looks other than being healthy and horny. I am most certainly not interested in a relationship with a man. My primary attraction is toward women. For me they are the full package. What I am attracted to is sex with men. It's the mouth, the hands, the cock, the balls and the asshole. It is the feel of a cock in my ass. I enjoy those enough that I don't want to eliminate them in my life for one sex/gender only. And, while it is true that I haven't had sex with a man in years, decades actually, I am honest about my bisexuality, and like theoretically to keep my options open even if I don't act on it... And the reason why is that I do not cheat. Period. End of conversation in that regard. If I am single, I play the field as it were, but even then I do not consider men as possible relationship partners. I just don't and it is one of the reasons why I do not consider myself gay even when I have gone through periods where my only sexual expression was with men. Once I met a woman that was it. The playing of the field was over. I am however always honest about it with the women I have relationships with and I also let them know I will not cheat on her and mean it. That is just me.

[Jazminedress]

Anyways, I have an odd question, when you post in bisexual.com are you posting as a male, a female or both or simply as jaz... because your posts are funny, insightful but also neutral in energy ( not really masculine or feminine )

You caught that,lol

While there is some crossover, in my male life I have two very distinct ways about me. Because of my job (I deal with finances, running a company, spreadsheets, compliance laws, employment laws) I have to be very analytical. I never just watch TV, I am analyzing market trends, social trends everything. I have to be this way to keep the company going. we have people that are good with numbers, but, they have zero clue how to take the people and society into the equation.

Apparently, I seem to have a weird knack for reading the environment around me. Pretty much every economic factor that has hit us in the past decade, I had called within 30 days of being correct, so our company reacts to my "feelings" on thigs. I also , because it is normal for me to have amounts of money on me that would make you go WTF, I have to carry every day, which requires a lot of situational awareness, and many times I am fast, blunt, and not the most friendly person. Not by choice, but necessity.

Where the crossover happens, is when I am on stage playing music or acting..........I get to let the me out, and express myself somewhat, be less robotic.

So you can tell I am dressed in boy mode when I am more matter of fact, or numbers.

When dressed as her, I tend to be more reasonable, more go with the flow, notice the good in things, more thinking as a relationship amongst things aspect instead of raw data and numbers.

Some of my behaviors are a disability I have, I have an eidetic memory (most refer to it as a photographic memory). But in my case, it's not just remembering things or facts, I physically can't forget things. It is slowing down as I get older and some things are starting to slip, but until 8 years ago, I never forgot anything, my entire days was like shoving information into a computer. When you can remember what tie and shoes your boss wore in a meeting 10 years ago, or correct a judge at a hearing and it is verified from the recordings, it becomes a burdern

When I am in meetings, they are used to me staring into space and speaking, what I am doing is visualizing spread sheets I memorized in the air, kind of like my own little metaverse without the glasses. I think something had to break eventually, and, being bisexual, and having a more feminine side naturally, it finally came out as jazmine. Combines with being a musician (which started as a way to turn my brain off instead of drugs), it makes sense.

oh, just to throw it out there, I am the weirdo that actually enjoys show tunes......lol

[KDaddy23]

Jaz said, "You caught that,lol"

I did, too which, if nothing else, lends itself to your mystique. It's just... who you are and you do have a way of making it less... genderized, which I know isn't a real word but I think you know what I mean. You put stuff out there and we see... you. Yeah, neutral is a good word because you know that you're just being yourslef and it gets relected when you write stuff here. Makes you seriously interesting and not just in a sexual way.

[Jazminedress]

Jaz said, "You caught that,lol"

I did, too which, if nothing else, lends itself to your mystique. It's just... who you are and you do have a way of making it less... genderized, which I know isn't a real word but I think you know what I mean. You put stuff out there and we see... you. Yeah, neutral is a good word because you know that you're just being yourslef and it gets relected when you write stuff here. Makes you seriously interesting and not just in a sexual way.

Why thank you, you should come to work with me, I get described as an anti social asshole. I get so focused during the day on one thing, making money, even some of our board of directors hate me, but they wont fire me. I have been trying over the years to be nicer. Years ago, I actually said, in a board meeting to one of the directors.

"I apoligize, I did not mean to hurt your feelings by calling you a fucking moron, I actually figured that by this time in your life, you realized how stupid you are"

The room got very quiet. I think in reality, I am very compartmentalized, as in when something starts or ends, i shut everything else off.

[CockHummer]

Thanks for the detailed answer. I'm glad to know you got to a place where you are comfortable with yourself and not fearful that you suffer multiple personality disorder or something like that.

[Long Duck Dong]

You caught that,lol

While there is some crossover, in my male life I have two very distinct ways about me. Because of my job (I deal with finances, running a company, spreadsheets, compliance laws, employment laws) I have to be very analytical. I never just watch TV, I am analyzing market trends, social trends everything. I have to be this way to keep the company going. we have people that are good with numbers, but, they have zero clue how to take the people and society into the equation.

Apparently, I seem to have a weird knack for reading the environment around me. Pretty much every economic factor that has hit us in the past decade, I had called within 30 days of being correct, so our company reacts to my "feelings" on thigs. I also , because it is normal for me to have amounts of money on me that would make you go WTF, I have to carry every day, which requires a lot of situational awareness, and many times I am fast, blunt, and not the most friendly person. Not by choice, but necessity.

Where the crossover happens, is when I am on stage playing music or acting..........I get to let the me out, and express myself somewhat, be less robotic.

So you can tell I am dressed in boy mode when I am more matter of fact, or numbers.

When dressed as her, I tend to be more reasonable, more go with the flow, notice the good in things, more thinking as a relationship amongst things aspect instead of raw data and numbers.

Some of my behaviors are a disability I have, I have an eidetic memory (most refer to it as a photographic memory). But in my case, it's not just remembering things or facts, I physically can't forget things. It is slowing down as I get older and some things are starting to slip, but until 8 years ago, I never forgot anything, my entire days was like shoving information into a computer. When you can remember what tie and shoes your boss wore in a meeting 10 years ago, or correct a judge at a hearing and it is verified from the recordings, it becomes a burdern

When I am in meetings, they are used to me staring into space and speaking, what I am doing is visualizing spread sheets I memorized in the air, kind of like my own little metaverse without the glasses. I think something had to break eventually, and, being bisexual, and having a more feminine side naturally, it finally came out as jazmine. Combines with being a musician (which started as a way to turn my brain off instead of drugs), it makes sense.

oh, just to throw it out there, I am the weirdo that actually enjoys show tunes......lol

That all makes perfect sense to me.....in fact when I read your posts, I do not read them as a post but as if we were both sitting at a cafe, talking face to face over coffee, and thats exactly what I am seeing in my head as I read......

I was born with anhedonia, the inability to feel or experience most emotions, so I generally perceive the world in analytical, logistical and logical patterns, rather than emotional, and that side of me ended up becoming a persona called * kit *, very intelligent, intuitive, a side of me that is ever present, and actually talking to me as a person, is next to impossible because I struggle with self expression and communication, as myself

When it comes to other people, relationships and sex, its like a role I play, expressing the right words, actions and emotional veneer, the body and brain reacts to the situation and interaction, but the mind remains disconnected, so I measure things in terms of how much the body and mind react to people, as a way of telling if there is attraction, desire and interest with a person.... and thats a good part of why casual sex / hook ups do not really work for me for the most part......

In a sense, its interlinked with my sexuality, tho they are separate aspects of me, I can be the male, the female or simply a person, in the bedroom....and having male, female and a intersex partner allows me a greater range of expression, interaction and experiences, and in a sense the ability to be straight, gay, lesbian ( non penetrative sex with a female ) bi ( male and female partners ) or simply a fuck toy ( as my partner puts it ) and also asexual ( I can exist without any company, contact and interaction with people )...and yes I get tired of arguing with people about how thats not possible because in their eyes...... my response is I have the medical, psych history, test results and brain scans to back up what I say, they have opinions and google searches......

SO yes what you have said, makes perfect sense to me......I can see and understand how being with a bisexual CD who can be male and female in the bedroom, for you, would be an experience...and thats using my partner and myself as a template for that understanding......

And yes, in answer to the question, the Kit persona is writing this out, which is why there is a marked difference in the flow and feel of the post.....so yeah, I fully get the maxine aspect of you....

PS sometimes what others call and see a disability, is not always a restriction or limitation for us.....a bit like being bisexual, it can make it difficult to be monogamous but when it comes to sex, relationships, interactions and experiences, we can enjoy a wider range of options and choices......

[CockHummer]

I think you are correct in some of this, as I have discussed with others, for me, the majority of the time it is very linked in the two together, even thought there have been exceptions.

This gets a bit confusing in terms of just what you and I meant to say. You did explain to me, and I got it, that the gender you find attractive at a given moment varies considerably depending on how you are dressed, so in that sense there is a linkage, for you, between being CD and your gender preference at a given moment, and I understand that and of course would not argue (how silly would that be?) that you are wrong, but do you think or know from how your life unfolded that you would not have been bisexual if you did not find yourself driven to CD? That is what it would mean to me to say that the two were entirely linked. How did the two present in your life? Did one become obvious and result in specific related behavior well before the other, or were they pretty simultaneous in their onset and how they influenced your sexual drives and your dressing activity?

Beyond that, just to make it clear, I was responding only to the fact that I have read of straight men being into CD, I have seen numerous gay men involved in CD shows, and here you are bisexual and CD, so it made no sense to me to think that being CD was specifically linked to any one of the three erotic gender preferences over the population as a whole. That is all I meant.

[Jazminedress]

This gets a bit confusing in terms of just what you and I meant to say. You did explain to me, and I got it, that the gender you find attractive at a given moment varies considerably depending on how you are dressed, so in that sense there is a linkage, for you, between being CD and your gender preference at a given moment, and I understand that and of course would not argue (how silly would that be?) that you are wrong, but do you think or know from how your life unfolded that you would not have been bisexual if you did not find yourself driven to CD? That is what it would mean to me to say that the two were entirely linked. How did the two present in your life? Did one become obvious and result in specific related behavior well before the other, or were they pretty simultaneous in their onset and how they influenced your sexual drives and your dressing activity?

Beyond that, just to make it clear, I was responding only to the fact that I have read of straight men being into CD, I have seen numerous gay men involved in CD shows, and here you are bisexual and CD, so it made no sense to me to think that being CD was specifically linked to any one of the three erotic gender preferences over the population as a whole. That is all I meant.

Very thought provoking honestly. I know I looked at guys from a young age, and I know around the same time I enjoyed touching womens clothes. I also did have very mild "Circle jerk" encounters with a few guys before I started dressing. I know in highschool I looked at girls and what they wore, not just because I enjoyed looking at them, but I wanted to wear some of the outfits, and the boys locker room, I would carefully steal my glances.

I am not sure I can give an honest respectful answer, as I don't know for sure I believe, I would have still been bisexual, but it would have been more blow and go's a few times a year. I say that because the interest was still there. But, I don't believe it would have been as satisfying. I think it would have been more mechanical just to get off.

I think the dressing part, if I did not have relations with men would have stopped at lingerie and porn on some nights alone. So this really becomes a chicken and the egg type of thought.

I am guessing in most people, the two roads would have taken a single channel at one point. For me, I am very introspective, in that I sit and analyze myself quite often Many times that leads to testing and trying things because I am curious of the outcome. I think at some point, it was the perfect storm, things came together, and this became me.

Its actually an interesting intelectual though

[Jazminedress]

That all makes perfect sense to me.....in fact when I read your posts, I do not read them as a post but as if we were both sitting at a cafe, talking face to face over coffee, and thats exactly what I am seeing in my head as I read......

I was born with anhedonia, the inability to feel or experience most emotions, so I generally perceive the world in analytical, logistical and logical patterns, rather than emotional, and that side of me ended up becoming a persona called * kit *, very intelligent, intuitive, a side of me that is ever present, and actually talking to me as a person, is next to impossible because I struggle with self expression and communication, as myself

When it comes to other people, relationships and sex, its like a role I play, expressing the right words, actions and emotional veneer, the body and brain reacts to the situation and interaction, but the mind remains disconnected, so I measure things in terms of how much the body and mind react to people, as a way of telling if there is attraction, desire and interest with a person.... and thats a good part of why casual sex / hook ups do not really work for me for the most part......

In a sense, its interlinked with my sexuality, tho they are separate aspects of me, I can be the male, the female or simply a person, in the bedroom....and having male, female and a intersex partner allows me a greater range of expression, interaction and experiences, and in a sense the ability to be straight, gay, lesbian ( non penetrative sex with a female ) bi ( male and female partners ) or simply a fuck toy ( as my partner puts it ) and also asexual ( I can exist without any company, contact and interaction with people )...and yes I get tired of arguing with people about how thats not possible because in their eyes...... my response is I have the medical, psych history, test results and brain scans to back up what I say, they have opinions and google searches......

SO yes what you have said, makes perfect sense to me......I can see and understand how being with a bisexual CD who can be male and female in the bedroom, for you, would be an experience...and thats using my partner and myself as a template for that understanding......

And yes, in answer to the question, the Kit persona is writing this out, which is why there is a marked difference in the flow and feel of the post.....so yeah, I fully get the maxine aspect of you....

PS sometimes what others call and see a disability, is not always a restriction or limitation for us.....a bit like being bisexual, it can make it difficult to be monogamous but when it comes to sex, relationships, interactions and experiences, we can enjoy a wider range of options and choices......

very well said

[marine20]

i'm certainly not attracted to all types of guys. i would not touch a bear. my type is a twink. the thinner and more feminine the better. as a matter of fact , i fantasize about making love to a really hot shemale. that would be my dream. hell i'd pay for one , if i knew how to go about it.

[Shelby57]

The same things that attract me to men attract me to women, intelligence, kindness, wit, charm, a fit body and a positive attitude; of course, for men, an eight inch dick helps too.

[querty]

The same things that attract me to men attract me to women, intelligence, kindness, wit, charm, a fit body and a positive attitude; of course, for men, an eight inch dick helps too.

Exactly

[BiGuy97015]

No, I generally prefer smooth, cut men with big cocks that I can deep throat and feel their cock heads rubbing against my tonsils. Just like in the photo of myself that I attached where the big cock's outline shows deep in my hungry throat.

[CockHummer]

I love heels, to me it is such a feminine thing, and it helps the butt look better.

My most recent ongoing relationship was with a really hot gal who loved sex and called sexy heels her "come fuck me" shoes, for that very reason; well, in fact, I don't think it was so much that she thought they made her butt look "better" as that they made it look downright sexually inviting, if you get my meaning. They also cause the calf muscles to bulk up in a way that can be especially attractive. You might try to remember those comments the next time you put them on and see what you think. It's just a thought that your comments brought to mind. For all I know, that may be too overboard for you, but I figured it wouldn't hurt to share it.

[Tight1-4u]

now I am going to go out on a limb and explain where I am in this.. yes I ust to have a couple types.. but over time and becoming way more comfortable in my own skin,, I realized that and I must say ? who knew, I have a very dirty and mischievous mind ? and I was wasting it on just a couple types.. now I really find all most all men attacking.. it is way more fun to be in public knowing that most every guy around me makes me very horny.. I have so much fun dreaming of how each of them would take me.. use me!!
I must say that a dirty mind is a shame to waste!!!

[bi_data_nerd]

Attraction to men has evolved through phases that seem to coincide with how much I acknowledge my interest in men. What's interesting is that I am attracted to "older" women and I seem to drawn to the same age range with men. I'm 38 but when I think about partners my mind goes to 40s, 50s, 60s. In the past, a cut thick piece with some hair and a nice helmet was delightful and I'll always have a soft spot for some of the 80s adult performers with dark hair and beards or mustaches. Similar to the age range, hairless women and men isn't what I picture when my mind wonders but that doesn't mean hairless men and women aren't beautiful.

Does the age range similarity across both men and women resonate with anyone?

[CockHummer]

I've always been most attracted to people very close to me in age. Life is now playing a trick on me in that regard, because finding myself in my mid-60's and looking forward to 70, all of a sudden people my own age don't look so attractive to me anymore, as a rule. I look unusually young for my age, and now for the most part I find only younger people physically attractive, but I don't find that I want to connect with them on an intellectual or personal level so much, which has always been the case, so something must give, one way or the other, if I am ever to get involved with other people again.

[CockHummer]

Does the age range similarity across both men and women resonate with anyone?

Just to clarify, I wrote a response to this, but decided to start over at one point, and when I did I forgot to reinsert this quote. That answer starts out, "I've always been attracted to people very close to me in age," and goes on from there a few sentences.

[rukiddingme]

Interesting to see all the different views here. For me, my attraction with men is masculine guys in my age range. Those who are passionate, enjoy lots of touching, foreplay, and kissing. Effeminate guys or cross dressers never seemed to be a big draw for me. Yet for transgender women my attraction is for those who identify exclusively as female gender identity.

[Fluidity]

I used to think I had a "type" but it turns out I am pretty eclectic in what I like. Good vibes and chemistry above all else

[Butman]

I will admit im really attracted to young guys. I would love to find a young inexperienced guy, that can learn with me.
Cut, & shaved in my thing..

[Veryoralniceguy]

I’m attracted to all kinds of guys and gals. Overly hairy men are a turnoff, but I love hairy pussy.

[Jozyxt]

I am not thin but I really don't like super heavy guys with big guts. That said, this description fit the first guy to cum i my mouth. I just swallowed my objections and his cum.

[Bi-Will]

The best and hardest to find it seems.

[Fiddlestyx]

I'm not really attracted to guys. I never look and say "there's a hot guy" as my "playmate" does. While I'd hardly describe myself as a "sapiosexual" first and foremost there has to be some clear intellectual and general social connection form there to be any hope of a spark. I could care less about height (I'm 5'7" and my buddy is 6'4" and I really don't notice), but the same is true with women as my range has been from 4'10" to 6'1". Probably more tolerant of plumpness in a woman than in a man (though it is not a specific turn-on). Hard to imagine hairiness as I've never had that to deal with. Decently turned out is a must for either sex, but not overboard. I prefer "interesting" looks to centrefold in either sex, but a nicely proportioned body is more than welcome.

[Neonaught]

I think everyone has their tastes. I like slim men who are attractive, smart and witty and uninhibited sexually. I have one friend I have been seeing ten years now and can honestly say I'm in love with him despite being a married man.

[chongster]

I like younger, slim, smooth and fem bottom guys or trans

[querty]

I like younger, slim, smooth and fem bottom guys or trans

Yeeeeesss

[Rest85]

I'm just attracted to his dick and am not particular about the guy. I don't want anyone unclean. As long as he's a decent guy...a nice guy who's not judgmental, I'll gladly pleasure his dick and be his cumslut. I will not deal with assholes...arrogant types.

[eager4cum]

I'm just attracted to his dick and am not particular about the guy. I don't want anyone unclean. As long as he's a decent guy...a nice guy who's not judgmental, I'll gladly pleasure his dick and be his cumslut. I will not deal with assholes...arrogant types.
I would only add that I prefer they don't have a belly hanging over their cock, just my personal likes / dislikes.

[tryinbi]

I don't check out guys at all, only thing i'm attracted to is their cock, I always look at women when I'm out and about, but the guys I do suck off can't be obese, I don't mind a dad bod just don't want a gut in my way lol

[Tag200]

Am only attracted to their cock for the most part .. but do admit that I have some likes ; much older , much younger , any race but like black and Asian a bit more at times .. and also willing to say I was with a much younger black guy who was built and had some additional attraction beyond cock… but cock is main focus as I am very attracted to women ..

[Cum1st]

To me it's more about his cock and I don't care what kind of cock he has.