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Oct 18, 2006, 10:55 AM
I came out as bisexual first to my girlfriend. Ever since then, I've been rocketing out of the closet (at least by my standards of openness about anything).
My girlfriend (hereinafter referred to as "Couch") had some bad relationships in the past. Eight boyfriends in a row came and went in short order and she has a daughter. She told me I'd have to wait awhile for sex. She wanted to make sure I wasn't going to cut and run. I didn't mind, I've never been too pushy.
Couch told me I could have a boyfriend if I wanted.
Last night, to hear those words, my head nearly exploded. At first, I couldn't wrap my head around them or even know why I couldn't even really THINK about them. Like a brick wall in my mind: "it's ok with me baby, you can :::THWACK:::"
I figured it out later that night. Three phrases, in themselves fine, but put together, not-so-fine.
1. You can have. Not something most boyfriends are used to hearing.
2. A boyfriend. Considering how soon it's been since I came out, it's not something I'M used to hearing.
3. If you want. I should want. My god, I should be ecstatic.
She's someone who completely balances me (on many, many levels) and understands me. It's almost enough to make me believe in fate again. I took a nap with her and for someone with the kind of insomnia I have, it's a freaking miracle.
And now she tells me I can have a boyfriend if I want. If I want. Do I want?
(I should point out here, I've never had a boyfriend or done anything like that, yet. This would be, as an ex has already pointed out to me, "my first".)
This is also not the kind of relationship I expected to be in. This is far from any relationship someone as unlucky with relationships as I've been ever expected to be in.
I dunno what I'm asking. Any response at all would be nice.
My girlfriend (hereinafter referred to as "Couch") had some bad relationships in the past. Eight boyfriends in a row came and went in short order and she has a daughter. She told me I'd have to wait awhile for sex. She wanted to make sure I wasn't going to cut and run. I didn't mind, I've never been too pushy.
Couch told me I could have a boyfriend if I wanted.
Last night, to hear those words, my head nearly exploded. At first, I couldn't wrap my head around them or even know why I couldn't even really THINK about them. Like a brick wall in my mind: "it's ok with me baby, you can :::THWACK:::"
I figured it out later that night. Three phrases, in themselves fine, but put together, not-so-fine.
1. You can have. Not something most boyfriends are used to hearing.
2. A boyfriend. Considering how soon it's been since I came out, it's not something I'M used to hearing.
3. If you want. I should want. My god, I should be ecstatic.
She's someone who completely balances me (on many, many levels) and understands me. It's almost enough to make me believe in fate again. I took a nap with her and for someone with the kind of insomnia I have, it's a freaking miracle.
And now she tells me I can have a boyfriend if I want. If I want. Do I want?
(I should point out here, I've never had a boyfriend or done anything like that, yet. This would be, as an ex has already pointed out to me, "my first".)
This is also not the kind of relationship I expected to be in. This is far from any relationship someone as unlucky with relationships as I've been ever expected to be in.
I dunno what I'm asking. Any response at all would be nice.