Question: What do you think caused you to become bisexual?

[thatcher29]

I had been visiting some LGBT forums and there's almost as many different theories about what causes gay people as there are gay people. Hormones, experiences as a fetus, relationship with parents, imprinting, DNA, etc. etc. etc. So I started thinking about my own situation. I'm 68 years old and comfortable as a mature bisexual male. The easy answer for me might be that it's because my brother and I enjoyed masturbating ourselves and each other when we were teenagers. But that seems a bit simplistic since a whole lot of kids participate in those sort of activities and if they all became practicing bisexuals when they got older, then this site would be a lot more crowded. The youthful fooling around might have introduced me, and it certainly let me know that M2M sex was enjoyable, but there has to be something more. Lately, I have begun to believe that my bisexual lifestyle comes from having a very curious personality. I'm the sort of person who has always wanted to try different things. Growing up, I was always reading books, particularly about things i knew nothing about. Back in the 60's and 70's, I experimented with drugs. I never did a lot of any type for very long but I did try most of them. I've traveled to at least 50 different countries all over the world. Even though I'm an atheist, I combed through various religions and their texts. So I think that's my personal reason--always wanting to try new things, feel new sensations, and have new adventures. So what about you? Why do you think it is that you are a bisexual?

[csreef]

I think it is something that you are born to be...Also I think it has to do with the fact that in my family we all have very high sex drives...

For what it is worth, after my oldest brother died, we all came to the conclusion that he was Bisexual also.

My personality type is that I enjoy taking risks,(closet Adrenalin junkie) so exploring my sexuality was something that I wanted to try.

[thatcher29]

I think it is something that you are born to be...Also I think it has to do with the fact that in my family we all have very high sex drives...


Thanks for the reply. I hadn't thought of that. Yes, even at my age I think I still have a fairly high sex drive. I guess that's certainly a factor.

[BeachHound]

In my opinion, I think that everybody's reasons for choosing bisexuality are different. Speaking for myself, I have always had curiosities ever since I was a teenager, just had been afraid to acknowledge them, let alone act on them.

The way I think of it, (and I would like to believe that most everyone would have this common) is the one most important thing that we all hold dear is our own personal freedom. We are free to make decisions for ourselves, and we have that right to pursue that happiness if that is what makes us happy. For me, it is all about FREEDOM!

[NakedInSeattle]

What caused me to become bisexual was cock. I loved sucking cock from the first and still do.

[sysper]

hmmmm a few things i think. if u wanna call me bi, at this point in my life i'm still questioning. and i think that's a big part of it. i've allways tried to question everything in life. never assume, not allways doing what everyone else is doing. or not doing. it took me awhile to affect my sexuality. but i'm so glad it did! it means i'm opening myself up to the possibility of a pleasure i might not of considered if i was more homophobic like most everyone else seems to be lol. also makes me a more wellrounded person to be open to both sexes. which i like. which i also hear could make me a better lover. which i really like! :) i think it also leads to a certain sense of freedom. i'm not dependant on 1 fixed role in society, my opinion & personality matters too. kinda going along that line i admire bisexual women, they got a certain openess to sexuality so i'd be kinda hypocritical if i didn't at least consider it for myself. of course that can lead to admiring bisexual men too. also to be honest i kinda wanna keep my options open. it hasn't been going so good lately with women for me & it can be frustrating. maybe men can satisfy some of my needs. so kinda out of necessity. also considering guys is a thrill for me. it's definately not wrong but, in my mind it's still kinda against my nature. maybe partly because i haven't done it. i might keep trying if the thrill is there, that would be the reason for it. but what if that feels natural to me? would that mean it would be boring or i would have a new appreciation for it? so many questions lol hopefully answered soon ;) finally i think i'm looking for a certain closeness with people. male & female. i'm wondering what role sexuality has to play with that? definately not with everyone & not to the point we're sharing orgasms lol. but even something like flirting that's not meant to go farther than that, or something like that.

[msw645]

For me, I think a big part of it is that I've always been pretty open minded. I don't subscribe to or believe in the word "normal"; to me, there is no such thing. At best, it's a relative term. If there is a "normal, then normal for me is different for you and different for someone else. I'd never had a thought about anything other than women until I was 18, and I'm not really sure what changed or why. Did what I could to bury those feelings for a long time, but finally started allowing myself the space to live that open minded philosophy that I had been previously been happy to apply to everyone but me.

[sysper]

as u can probably tell by the previous post i've also been pretty openminded at least i've tried to be. but it's taken so long to apply that to my sexuality. looking back in my life even in my teens i think i might of felt urges/drives that were homosexual in nature. i don't know why i never recognized them as that, if i was confused or in denial. maybe a little of both. maybe not at all i don't know. also like u i came to an age when i felt those urges for what they were, although for me the age was 22. i was face to face with those feelings. also like u i'm not really sure what changed or why. i felt confused, embarassed, guilty, ashamed. but i couldn't deny i was turned on. but why? at that point in my life there was no way i was gonna admit to myself i like guys in any way other than platonic. the feelings came in phases over alot of years, each time thinking each phase was gonna be the last. but as i got older & maybe more comfortable or mature the time between phases got shorter. over the past several years it has been pretty constant. it's been a rough & interesting journey. i'm still confused & i still go between various phases of heterosexuality & homosexuality. though it's more fluid. i'm still working to understand it, explore it, accept it. but at least now i know there is a journey & i got every right to be on that journey. that is the "normal" as u would say for me. looking for the right guys to go on part of that journey with me holding hands, maybe something else :oh:
For me, I think a big part of it is that I've always been pretty open minded. I don't subscribe to or believe in the word "normal"; to me, there is no such thing. At best, it's a relative term. If there is a "normal, then normal for me is different for you and different for someone else. I'd never had a thought about anything other than women until I was 18, and I'm not really sure what changed or why. Did what I could to bury those feelings for a long time, but finally started allowing myself the space to live that open minded philosophy that I had been previously been happy to apply to everyone but me.

[iamcontent]

It just felt normal. I have always been attracted sexually to both sexes.

[Asspussy302]

I think I've always been bisexual. I wasn't always sure, but looking back I know I always was.

[jcuck]

I think when I tied up with my gf of 10 years.. she gradually worked me into it.. first watching her suck and fuck other guys then having me touch or feel them or lick and taste her after and during.. One thing led to another and I actually started helping her get her lovers hard and licked and sucked them or her and with her. She loved when her lovers did her doggy and let me lie there under them licking and tasting and making them wilder. I have actual vids of that which are very hot and erotic to watch..Has anyone else been brought into it this way?? Would love to hear !

[Christopher South]

I lean towards "born that way". I had no exposure to homosexuality when I was a kid... no exploring with friends, no sexual abuse, "normal" exposure to heterosexual porn but realized viewing that stuff that I liked both the guys and females.

[chub-bi]

When I was 5 my 5 year old neighbor and I sucked each other's dicks.
Ever since that day I have been drawn to giving and getting oral.
Even though I'm attracted to women, I've always known that I like dick.
Not attracted to males as much as women, but show me a stiff prick and
my mouth starts watering.

[csreef]

The way I think of it, (and I would like to believe that most everyone would have this common) is the one most important thing that we all hold dear is our own personal freedom. We are free to make decisions for ourselves, and we have that right to pursue that happiness if that is what makes us happy. For me, it is all about FREEDOM!

After I became comfortable being Bisexual, one day I thought to myself, You are living life on YOUR TERMS. Basically I am a Free Spirit, in that I choose who I want to be with at the time. Yes sexually I am ! :flag1:

[Biintraining]

I do not believe in born with it. It is all situational in your life. I would never had considered my self bi in the least. I was the he man football player in high school and college. In my case it was my ex wife asking if I would suck a cock for her. We were on the way home from swinging with a couple were the ladies got it on together. I tell that moment I never thought about it but has never stoped sense then.

[eager4cum]

I think it is something I was born with. As a 12 year old boy, I loved porn just as much as my friends, fascinated by any (cock or pussy) genitals. My friends and I would masturbate as a group together. One day, Tom asked about sucking, what we thought about it. It did not take more than a few minutes before we were sucking each others cocks. When it was my turn to suck, I just dove right in and enjoyed it from the start. It seemed very natural to me, as natural as masturbating. i enjoyed it regardless of whether I was giving or receiving, I just knew that I wanted to do it even more than masturbating. And when we were done, I could not wait until the next time we were together. I wanted another chance to suck and be sucked. All during this time, I was still VERY turned on by anything to do with girls. So, yes I was BI. There was no thoughts about sucking being just a release or girls not being good enough or anything of the sort. It was all just sex to me, anything regarding cocks or tits or pussys got me hard instantly and I would masturbate if alone or have sex with who ever I was with, girl or guy.

[69plus1]

For me I think it was just an evolution. I remember always being horny. I got my first hard on in church as a kid! Later i remember trying to get other kids naked. I didn't know what to do after.
I wasn't sexually active until I was out of school, not for a lack of trying. But it was the 60's. Everybody fucked!
I think the first time I thought about sex with other guys was in the late 70's and early 80's. the cocaine years and often I would be alone with my coke and copies of Penthouse Letters & Forum and all the stories with bisexual play among men were all dogeared from multiple readings.
Thankfully quit coke but my bisexual fantasies continued unfulfilled.
After years of personal growth I was far removed from the yoke of religion and at peace with myself and I started writing sex stories to explore my sexual awakenings and desires.
Over my entire I have been a big fan of masturbation. Even after a date where I got laid, I would go home to jerk off, often thinking about what would the sex I just had be like with another man.
Around the summer of 2015 a fan of my stories contacted me to say how much he liked the story. Long story short I decided that I was hornier than I was afraid and we ended up hooking up and it was life altering. When that first cock touched my lips I knew that it was natural and there was no reason people of the same sex couldn't be bad or wrong.
Sex is for our pleasure and anything willing adults do together is natural and should be explored and celebrated.

[csreef]

This is the way sex should be looked at. I wish just more people so open in their thinking and outlook.

Sex is for our pleasure and anything willing adults do together is natural and should be explored and celebrated.

[nudehiker4bi]

For me...I never would have dreamed I'd enjoy sucking cocks, but one evening my girl introduced one of her vibrators to my ass. At first I squirmed as if I didn't want her to insert it, but really I realized I not only would LET her insert it...I craved it! We broke up not too long afterwards, so my bisexual desires died down. I was afraid to even mention them to new girlfriends.
But the desire persisted...so I began to watch bi porn, and bought a dildo to use on myself. I actually learned to deep-throat with it. after several years, I finally found courage to meet a guy I found on a bisexual site and sucked my first cock. I must admit, I was hooked on sucking from then on. The ONLY thing that keeps me from sucking a cock every day is the fear of AIDS. Otherwise, I love cocks.
I'm training my butt to accept various sizes so when the time comes and opportunity arrives, I will hopefully be able to accept a real cock with much pleasure and no pain.
I don't think I was born bi...it was something introduced to me by an adventurous woman!

[Clancy]

I don't know if this would be considered being bi but when I was just five years old me and a friend the same age would find a place nobody could see us and we would give each other bj's. Sometimes he would start first and sometimes I would start. But mostly I would start,one day I remember I got on my knees and pulled his red swimming trunks down just enough to expose his dick.I put it in my mouth and rolled my tounge around it a few times and started sucking it I remember it being limp and can't remember if we got hard or not but we did this everyday a few times for three years until I moved to North Carolina. By this time I was like six or seven..I met another friend and we did the same thing as my last friend. But this time we tried anal sex. I was the first one to bend over and speed my ass open. He couldn't get his dick in me and so I tried. I still can see him bent over and spreading his ass. I has my dick in my hand and the head was at his hole but couldn't get it in..then we got caught. Shortly we had to move again... Moved to Orlando Florida and met an older friend...we were talking about sexual stuff and I asked him if he can cum,he said that he could and asked if I can see him do it, he told me no . After that I dated girls. Years later I started using a computer. I was in my late 20’s now...I would look at all different porn. Straight porn mostly, then I thought about watching bisexual porn, I was interested in it and it got me hard. I then started looking up gay porn.. I really didn't like gay people until I started watching gay porn. I thought if I watch bi porn with two guys and a girl then gay porn is basically the same thing but no girl..now I don't mind gay people. I could definitely be friends with either bi guys or gay guys don't matter now I like both but I'm not attracted to guys at all. If one or the other comes around me and asks about being friends...no problem. If they ask to suck my dick I would gladly pull it out and tell them to GI for it and ask if they spit or swallow. If they want to fuck me or me fuck them, I would go for it! But if they cum in me I want to do the same to them. If they pull out and cum on my ass or on my dick I'm doing the same thing. If they cum in me then lick it out then I guess I would do it too. I just can't see myself kissing a guy. I don't know if I'm just curious or if I'm bi,but like I said.. If one or the other asks me if they can suck my dick I would not turn them down..only thing is, is I better get to return the favor... I really want to try to 69 with another guy either on our sides or directly on top of each other that way the cum can go into our mouths. I love anal play and watching it done. The only thing I don't like about guys having sex is the one receiving is his dick is flopping around. If I was the one giving I would jerk the one off I'm fuckin.I like watching cock docking and frotting I think that's how it's spelled. Where guys put their cocks together and jerk off. I don't like facials or guys that cum on someone. Or someone that spits cum out after the guy cums in someone's mouth. I would swallow it. I like watching a guy and a girl share a dick too! I would do it! I also look at both man and women asses in porn. They look the same but one has balls below it and the other has a pussy. I would gladly put my dick in a guys ass. again I said before. I'm not in any way attracted to guys I'm attracted to cocks,pussy,and ass. People that I know don't know that I like cock and ass. They think I'm all about women. I'm mostly into women but if it came to it..yeah I would go the whole nine yards! People can call me whatever they want I don't care! Another thing I like is watching a guy suck two cocks at once! I want to do that but I want them both in my mouth at the same time and for them to cum in my mouth either the same time or one then the other. So people,can you tell me. Am I just curious or am I bi? I have sucked cock before and asked my friend if I can watch him cum... Tell me what you think. I don't care who says what call me weird if you want but I like women and only male cock and ass if shaved. Call me gay curious call me bi curious or like I said... You guys call it and me what you want. I can take it! So was I born bi or what am I? Please help because I don't know!

[sysper]

hey u sound like ur clear on what u like. u might be too concerned about what to call it. since u would like some kinda sexual experiance with men & women i guess it technically in some sense makes u bisexual. but i wouldn't worry too much about the label. just be open to meeting the right people & doing things with them. the right people will just enjoy being with u. take a cock in ur mouth if u wanna, don't kiss a guy if u don't wanna. things will become clearer the more experiance u have in the real world. ur not weird at all or if u are ur no weirder than me lol. i'm also pretty confused about my feelings for guys but i know i have got them. so u & me are kinda in the same boat. might take sometime for both of us to feel comfortable but time & experiance will make things ok.
I don't know if this would be considered being bi but when I was just five years old me and a friend the same age would find a place nobody could see us and we would give each other bj's. Sometimes he would start first and sometimes I would start. But mostly I would start,one day I remember I got on my knees and pulled his red swimming trunks down just enough to expose his dick.I put it in my mouth and rolled my tounge around it a few times and started sucking it I remember it being limp and can't remember if we got hard or not but we did this everyday a few times for three years until I moved to North Carolina. By this time I was like six or seven..I met another friend and we did the same thing as my last friend. But this time we tried anal sex. I was the first one to bend over and speed my ass open. He couldn't get his dick in me and so I tried. I still can see him bent over and spreading his ass. I has my dick in my hand and the head was at his hole but couldn't get it in..then we got caught. Shortly we had to move again... Moved to Orlando Florida and met an older friend...we were talking about sexual stuff and I asked him if he can cum,he said that he could and asked if I can see him do it, he told me no . After that I dated girls. Years later I started using a computer. I was in my late 20’s now...I would look at all different porn. Straight porn mostly, then I thought about watching bisexual porn, I was interested in it and it got me hard. I then started looking up gay porn.. I really didn't like gay people until I started watching gay porn. I thought if I watch bi porn with two guys and a girl then gay porn is basically the same thing but no girl..now I don't mind gay people. I could definitely be friends with either bi guys or gay guys don't matter now I like both but I'm not attracted to guys at all. If one or the other comes around me and asks about being friends...no problem. If they ask to suck my dick I would gladly pull it out and tell them to GI for it and ask if they spit or swallow. If they want to fuck me or me fuck them, I would go for it! But if they cum in me I want to do the same to them. If they pull out and cum on my ass or on my dick I'm doing the same thing. If they cum in me then lick it out then I guess I would do it too. I just can't see myself kissing a guy. I don't know if I'm just curious or if I'm bi,but like I said.. If one or the other asks me if they can suck my dick I would not turn them down..only thing is, is I better get to return the favor... I really want to try to 69 with another guy either on our sides or directly on top of each other that way the cum can go into our mouths. I love anal play and watching it done. The only thing I don't like about guys having sex is the one receiving is his dick is flopping around. If I was the one giving I would jerk the one off I'm fuckin.I like watching cock docking and frotting I think that's how it's spelled. Where guys put their cocks together and jerk off. I don't like facials or guys that cum on someone. Or someone that spits cum out after the guy cums in someone's mouth. I would swallow it. I like watching a guy and a girl share a dick too! I would do it! I also look at both man and women asses in porn. They look the same but one has balls below it and the other has a pussy. I would gladly put my dick in a guys ass. again I said before. I'm not in any way attracted to guys I'm attracted to cocks,pussy,and ass. People that I know don't know that I like cock and ass. They think I'm all about women. I'm mostly into women but if it came to it..yeah I would go the whole nine yards! People can call me whatever they want I don't care! Another thing I like is watching a guy suck two cocks at once! I want to do that but I want them both in my mouth at the same time and for them to cum in my mouth either the same time or one then the other. So people,can you tell me. Am I just curious or am I bi? I have sucked cock before and asked my friend if I can watch him cum... Tell me what you think. I don't care who says what call me weird if you want but I like women and only male cock and ass if shaved. Call me gay curious call me bi curious or like I said... You guys call it and me what you want. I can take it! So was I born bi or what am I? Please help because I don't know!

[aLABiM75 & StrF51]

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[Clancy]

The thing is I haven't done anything with another guy yet. I am really wanting to but I'm really shy and nervous about it since I'm grown up now. I don't have an attraction to guys it's just the cock I like and have grown to love looking at,plus getting into being interested in looking at asses too but as long as they are shaved! I'm pretty sure that if I was approached by a guy that asked me to suck my cock I would probably go for it...or if I could encounter a male and female couple and they both wanted to suck my dick I would be blind folded for a min and take it off if the guy was sucking my dick I would probably watch him do it and ask if I can blow my load in his mouth.

[lizard-lix]

To quote Lady Gaga: Baby, I was born this way!

[csreef]

To quote Lady Gaga: Baby, I was born this way! I think you may be onto something, but It also depends on society, and the area that you grow up in, and a few other factors, too.

[lizard-lix]

I think you may be onto something, but It also depends on society, and the area that you grow up in, and a few other factors, too.

Not really, I knew at about 10 that I liked both boys and girls and that I was not going to be universally accepted. I knew that my parents wouldn't like it (and when I got caught with a BF, that got proven true!) and a lot of other wouldn't like it either, but I was who I was and I had sex with like minded people. I was sexually attracted to both boys/girls, men/women as soon as I realized what attraction was. When I found out about other genders and identities, they were the same.

So I really was born this way, and nothing society or others think or do will change me. They might change my actions (getting married changed my actions, we discussed it, she wanted traditional, so I went back to straight and was monogamous for 35 years, until my wife and I agreed to change the rules and let me go out to play with others), but they won't change who I am, how I think or what I'd like to do.

I'm bisexual, well really pansexual, through and through.

[csreef]

Being Pansexual is a bloody joke / lie / delusion (take your pick ) ....You are either Bisexual or you are NOT !!!

[thatcher29]

Being Pansexual is a bloody joke / lie / delusion (take your pick ) ....You are either Bisexual or you are NOT !!!

Maybe we shouldn't get too hung up on labels. They are more often used against us than for us. We live in times where even if a guy has sex with his wife three times a day, and has two mistresses on the side. if he gets caught sucking some guy's cock in a bathrrom, it will appear in the paper the next day that he is gay. Bisexual, pansexual, trisexual,--I don't care. Hopefully some day we can all live in a world where we can just be sexual.

[csreef]

Hopefully some day we can all live in a world where we can just be sexual.

I can live with this :flag1:.

[Clancy]

Not being mean or anything but I don't care what people call me. Before I used to not like gay people at all and within the past several years as a matter of fact it was when I met my now ex girlfriend. She had no idea that I would be looking at bi and gay porn sites.. I knew something wasn't rite with me! I'm a freak and I concider myself as a living nightmare. But it's whatever. It really came out in the open about how I was and wanting to try. She was put off by it. Oh well,I'm not attracted to guys or kissing that's a turn off for me. But I started to realize everything when I lost my son and nobody wanted to be around me...I would also try to suck my own dick but can't that's bullshit! I have really low self esteem. I was already into eating my own cum and anal play by myself. I used to look at bisexual and gay porn on the computer all the time. I his it from her told her it was a friend we knew....but I got to the point of where gay people are great. I just don't like kissing or anything like that. I told my ex girl I want to experience what a woman or man would experience like the pulsating when a guy cums in your mouth. I want to see what the difference is between a dildo and a real cock. It's gotten to the point to where I love watching guys fuck and suck each other. I love it all! I really like seeing cum fly from a dick. I don't care what people call me.. Call me bi. So! Call me gay. So! I will always love pussy more than anything! But I also like certain cocks. Ones I don't really care for is hairy,veiny,or curvy. But it is what it is.. If a dick is too big it won't be going in my ass! I will suck the guy off twice and swallow both loads and want him to jerk off and cum on my ass!

[lizard-lix]

Being Pansexual is a bloody joke / lie / delusion (take your pick ) ....You are either Bisexual or you are NOT !!!

Like Thacher29 said, Maybe we shouldn't get hung up on labels. But I have no idea what you are going on about. Bisexual is usually defined as having sexual attraction to both men and women while pansexual is defined as have sexual attraction to any gender or identity (I.E. male, female, M-> trans, F-> trans, GF, etc).

I have been attracted to folks in all of those categories, which is why I label myself pansexual. I don't know why must be a lie or delusional... If you don't like pansexual, just call me equal opportunity :tongue:

[csreef]

Like Thacher29 said, Maybe we shouldn't get hung up on labels. But I have no idea what you are going on about. Bisexual is usually defined as having sexual attraction to both men and women while pansexual is defined as have sexual attraction to any gender or identity (I.E. male, female, M-> trans, F-> trans, GF, etc).

I have been attracted to folks in all of those categories, which is why I label myself pansexual. I don't know why must be a lie or delusional... If you don't like pansexual, just call me equal opportunity :tongue:

If you are pansexual, why are you posting on Bisexual.com . Why aren't you on pansexual.com, if it exists? If not why don't you start your own web site for that purpose?

[lizard-lix]

If you are pansexual, why are you posting on Bisexual.com . Why aren't you on pansexual.com, if it exists? If not why don't you start your own web site for that purpose?

Sorry, this is simply silly, have a great day!

[cslutt]

I had a twin brother and as early as 4 we played with each other. A simple reason? It felt so fucking good! Thrills and chills fondling each others cocks and balls, then taking them in our mouths and sucking on each other. It made our sexcitement throb and feeling our penises swell was just fantastic! We had an older sister who would tease us but she was bi and had girlfriends. They taught us how to 69, showing us how they did it. But, it was more intense on our knees instead, one concentrating on sucking and the other concentrating on achieving 'the feeling'. Of course, that all changed when we started cumming... the feeling plus shooting hot fucking cum!

[fred derf]

I was the younger of three brothers, we were maybe three yrs apart. as you can imagine j/o was very common. So I found myself checking out neighbors and pals that were also learning about their bodies.

[rajones]

I think I was born Bisexual, from an early age I loved every aspect of sex. My oldest memory was playing with my younger brothers feet, I was 4or5 he was 3 years younger than me, even then I felt something I liked. From there I just loved to hear or talk about sex or getting naked. AS a kid I took swimming lessons I really enjoyed being in the locker room and seeing boys my age and men naked, at the time I thought my feelings were strange and tried to hide them. At age 18 I moved from home and tried everything, found myself at the local rest area many a night. As time went on I got a job in a business that is not gay friendly, I am a mechanic. So I married twice and my current wife is the only straight person that knows I am BI. A month ago I hired a lesbian (unfortunately not at all into men) she has given me the courage to come out as Bi. I am not going to run around and tell everybody but I am not going to put up with the gay hate that fills my business. Long story short, I feel as I have always been BI, but more importantly a pleaser to both sexes.

[borntosuckcock]

I think I was born a bisexual. I can remember being fascinated by older men's cocks in the showers at the mobile home park we lived in and at the showers at the public swimming pool. I wanted to touch them and I wanted to suck them. At about 8, I made my first move in the showers at the pool and scored some interest. I was fearless and craving cock, even at that age.

[12voltyV2.0]

My reason for being bisexual is what Lady Gaga said: "I was born this way" but it does go much deeper than that---suffice to say for me---my bisexuality has more to do with things of a spiritual nature than one purely resting in the physical.

[pole_smoker]

Being Pansexual is a bloody joke / lie / delusion (take your pick ) ....You are either Bisexual or you are NOT !!!
There are people who are pansexual but they are sexually attracted to animals and do other sick, and illegal things sexually.

The whole failed argument of "bi=2 sexes, and only sexually attracted to men and women, but pansexual = attracted to ftm/mtf" is mistaken, and transphobic.

A lot of people who use the term pansexual, or just sexual do this to avoid actually coming out and identifing as bisexual. Or because they think terms like pansexual or just sexual, etc. make them edgy, cool, etc.

[pole_smoker]

I had a twin brother and as early as 4 we played with each other. A simple reason? It felt so fucking good! Thrills and chills fondling each others cocks and balls, then taking them in our mouths and sucking on each other. It made our sexcitement throb and feeling our penises swell was just fantastic! We had an older sister who would tease us but she was bi and had girlfriends. They taught us how to 69, showing us how they did it. But, it was more intense on our knees instead, one concentrating on sucking and the other concentrating on achieving 'the feeling'. Of course, that all changed when we started cumming... the feeling plus shooting hot fucking cum!

Fucking sick. You and your pedo "family" belong in prison. My bad, you would enjoy it too much. You all need to be castrated, and on a sex ofender registry.

[rajones]

I think I was born this way. But will admit I am terrible at sports, and did not want to play sports when I was a kid. That made me think I was different at a real early age. Still to the day enjoy many manly things but sports not at all. I did enjoy wrestling, either watching or actual wrestling. My family was open about sex, never gay sex but sex was talked about a lot. As far back as I can remember I liked seeing all people naked.

[abc123jd]

for me in IMHO , I think it was unresolved childhood sexual abuse was sodomized at 6 or 7 went on a few years, was molested again at 12, And at times have pchycosematic pain hurts bad in my anal area. But feel that I am like a moth to a flame. Having a woman watch me suck cock or get fucked when she gets turned on. Somehow in my mind takes the shame away for me. When woman watch and get off on it. Please no flaming me just truly my honest opinion of what turned me bisexual in my late 40's.

[thatcher29]

for me in IMHO , I think it was unresolved childhood sexual abuse was sodomized at 6 or 7 went on a few years, was molested again at 12, And at times have pchycosematic pain hurts bad in my anal area. But feel that I am like a moth to a flame. Having a woman watch me suck cock or get fucked when she gets turned on. Somehow in my mind takes the shame away for me. When woman watch and get off on it. Please no flaming me just truly my honest opinion of what turned me bisexual in my late 40's.

If you have found a woman who supports and accepts you as you are, then you are a very lucky guy. Flame you? Heck, I think most of the guys here would trade places with you.

[abc123jd]

thanks, I know Im very lucky she loves me enough to accept me as I am, and gets soaking wet seeing mm sucking and fucking. Thought people wouldnt understand or think sex abuse was a copout for being bi.

[Bi_Dave]

I'd like to see those videos!

[Clancy]

I'm just curious but I think more bi because I get off more from gay porn than straight porn. And I come up with different ways and positions for guys to do things. What made me this way could be two reason. Number one....as a baby I was told my aunt used to change my diapers along with her two sons. I was told that she would play with their dicks just to watch them get hard I asked if she ever did that to me but I didn't get an answer people just put their heads down. And 2 when I got older my sister was always calling me gay or you are a fag and this and that... Then I don't know I got the idea to want to suck my own dick so I tried it but can't I even thought about putting my own dick in my ass but can't because my dick is worthless and little that's when I started thinking what it would be like to suck a dick or have one in my ass and it went from there. Thinking about all kinds of things bi and gay guys do.I even gotten to where I like seeing uncut cock and want to play with one! Call me whatever you want I don't care! Just because I like certain kinds of cock only. Some asshole shots.My main interest is women!I like dick might like it more if i get a real one to suck or in my ass but I will always love pussy.! I just and only like cock as long as they are white! Don't let me leave this out! Me and a friend sucked each others dicks a few times a day every day until I moved 3yrs worth of dick in mouth. Then north Carolina me and a different boy my age tried the same thing but hiding place sucked no pun intended! We just finished sucking each other off then tried anal I think I went first being bent over.. I do remember getting caught when he bent over and I was trying to get my dick in my little friends ass. How did we learn that so early and where from?

[delpark]

I don't know. Sucking cock and enjoying being nude with a male friend when I was reaching puberty may have something to do with it. I've dated a lot of women, married three and pretty much enjoyed the sex.

I dated a woman with a doctorate in Psychiatric Nursing and she told me that everyone is born bisexual. I thought that may explain my desire to suck cocks. As it turns out, I feel sexually fulfilled with a man. I still love seeing tits and ass on a woman, but prefer making a man cum.

[oldoralman]

I enjoyed playing with a fiends cock in high school, then took off after pussy and got married. Our sex life dwindled down to almost nothing after the first 20 years. I needed it bad. Not wanting another lady since I loved my wife,, I went after cock as I enjoyed it in my teens. This didn't happen till I was In my 60s. I love sex with aam, but still miss it with my wife.

[joris]

I know what caused to me.. blowing for the first time. It was something that a friend suggest and i said "why not". I enjoy it so much that a start blowing cocks for pleasure.

[kutag]

I think is was my underwear, when I married and moved out of my parents house where I had 5 brothers, I brought new skimpy underwear I could not wear at home. My small G Strings always gave me a hard on and I used to look in the mirror at myself. I wore my G Strings to the beach and started to shave my cock and balls, I soon added a cock ring to keep a hard on, loved showing off my wet and see through G String to everyone. I would visit Swanbourne beach here in Perth a nude one, a trip up into the sand dunes and I came across two guys sucking each others cocks a first for me. From then on I would go into the dunes and play with guys cocks and them mine no sucking just a wank, but it was far to risky for me, did not want to end up in the newspapers or court. So I started to go to a gay bathhouse/sauna where I could relax and touch other men's dicks a have mine played with, loved the steam rooms where you could not see who was pulling or sucking on you. It took me years working up to having the guts to let a guy fuck me. When it did happen it was in the porn theatre room it front of others, doggie at first and then I laid on my back and wanked myself off to a great come while he fucked me. Still only been fucked once but long to do it again.

[csreef]

^^^^ ​Your underwear made you become Bisexual. . . Interesting.

[Joboo]

You tell me, I had no interest even though a friend and I had jerked each other off many times in our youth. He initiated it and I couldn't say no. Once I started seeing lots of girls and they started letting me do sexual stuff I abandoned him. We remained friends and hung out in the same group still. He tried a few times but respected my wishes.
At 18 or so I had been on a frustrating date and ran into him when I drove back into the neighborhood. We drank some beers and I had told him about the girl and he suggested we get some more beer and park. I kind of knew what was coming and didn't care, I felt at worse he would jerk me off and I would return the favor, it had been 4 years or so.
i was correct and when he started feeling me up I let him, he had my jeans around my ankles and was just slow jerking or mostly teasing my hard dick. I felt bad after a while and reached for his and he immediately pulled his jeans and underwear down around his ankles. It was dark but you could see and when I reached for his penis he was very erect and much larger. I mean we used to be about the same size and now he was way bigger than me. I remember measuring way back and being disappointed I wasn't 6 inches, I was about 5.5 and skinny. I was a sports star and tall and lean and muscular and he was a skinny guy that people would call nerdy. As I stroked his dick I was fascinated although he was only a little over an inch longer it was so thick my fingers didn't reach around it. It had a small slow curve downward and was really attractive. I kept complimenting him on it and he didn't seem to think it was so big. I got him to position so we could hold them together, we used to rub our dicks together long ago. His was huge and it felt so warm against mine but he didn't want to stay laying in the seat since we could see if someone came up.
He sat up and we continued stroking each other and I was just staring at it and getting closer to coming from looking at it. That was about the time it hit me that I wanted to taste him, I wanted to suck him. We had never done it when we were young. I had moved right next to him and told him how much I liked his dick and how good it felt. I had moved so close our faces were very close because I didn't want to say very loud what I wanted. As I moved closer to whisper it to him he turned and started kissing me, I didn't want that but I let him. He had slipped his tongue in my mouth several times and while I wasn't on board it wasn't that bad, he was a little fem. I pulled back from him a little and just told him, " I want to suck you so much" and just dropped my head down and started.
i loved it, it was so hard and soft at the same time. He then wanted to lay in the seat so he could suck me and we did for a moment but were afraid of being caught. Plus I was so close to coming I had to stop him. I knew if I came first I would lose interest. He leaned back on the door and I went down between his legs as he held my head in his hands. He was moaning and telling me no one had ever done this to him. He started arching and warning me he was going to come but I just started going faster. I expected it to taste bad and spit but it didn't and I took all of him. Listening to him had me about to come. I kept sucking him for several minutes after he came hoping my dick would calm some but as soon as he took me in his mouth I came as hard as ever.
We must have sucked each other everyday for the next two weeks. It continued until we were 23. About a year after we started up again he informed me he had no interest in women. I on the other hand was constantly getting new women.
He became on of my regular fuck buddies, I usually had two to three regular girls and him. The girls sometimes changed but not him,
he was always there at least once a week.
He found someone at 23 and we parted ways, never looked for another although one opportunity did arise I took advantage of a few years later. I had lots of guys come on to me over the years but never moved on it, just didn't feel right I thought at the time. Years later I wish I would have explored more.

[sysper]

mmmmm that was a pretty hot story. so good u got to have a friend u could play with for awhile. must of blown ur mind when he put his tongue in ur mouth! or maybe not it didn't sound like it was too big of a deal for u. but i know i fantasize about that! still just nice to be able to trade bj's. hope u find another friend soon, sounds like u could really enjoy it :)

[bw299]

OK this comment should bring up some debate: I am attracted to cock; love sucking cock and cum. That's it. I'm not attracted to men; absolutely no desire to kiss, cuddle, do anal. I don't go all "ga-ga" over a handsome man (by anyone's definition), but I'll swoon should he flash his magnificent cock. Therefore, I don't consider myself to be truly bisexual. I have had some agree with me, while others vehemently disagree. According to Merriam-Webster, I'm bisexual because I am "sexually attracted" to both men and women. But according to the Urban Dictionary, I am not because "...but bisexual means you can be attracted to both genders sexually, physically, and emotionally." I am not emotionally and physically attracted to men, only women.

I've been attracted to cock from the age of 9 or 10. My first m2m sexual encounter was at age 10.

What's the verdict?

[Joboo]

OK this comment should bring up some debate: I am attracted to cock; love sucking cock and cum. That's it. I'm not attracted to men; absolutely no desire to kiss, cuddle, do anal. I don't go all "ga-ga" over a handsome man (by anyone's definition), but I'll swoon should he flash his magnificent cock. Therefore, I don't consider myself to be truly bisexual. I have had some agree with me, while others vehemently disagree. According to Merriam-Webster, I'm bisexual because I am "sexually attracted" to both men and women. But according to the Urban Dictionary, I am not because "...but bisexual means you can be attracted to both genders sexually, physically, and emotionally." I am not emotionally and physically attracted to men, only women.

I've been attracted to cock from the age of 9 or 10. My first m2m sexual encounter was at age 10.

What's the verdict?
i don't use labels in these situations because I don't think there are any. I went along with him kissing me that first night as not to blow, haha, the situation. I was really wanting to suck his dick, way more than I wanted mine sucked. After that it was clear to him I was in it for the head. I have never been attracted to the guy just his dick. I firmly believe had his dick been an average dick like mine he we would just jerked each other and most likely never have had any contact again. The same type thing has happened to me only one other time. I have had about 20 or more MFM's and only been attracted to one other guys cock beside his. I just think it's odd. I'm attracted to a really slim guy with and bigger dick than mine that is just a little feminine. If I was to come into contact with shemales I would probably never come back. Never had one but I've seen some that I might move to Mexico with.

[csreef]

Your Sexuality is your own...YOU define it, for what works for YOU.
OK this comment should bring up some debate: I am attracted to cock; love sucking cock and cum. That's it. I'm not attracted to men; absolutely no desire to kiss, cuddle, do anal. I don't go all "ga-ga" over a handsome man (by anyone's definition), but I'll swoon should he flash his magnificent cock. Therefore, I don't consider myself to be truly bisexual. I have had some agree with me, while others vehemently disagree. According to Merriam-Webster, I'm bisexual because I am "sexually attracted" to both men and women. But according to the Urban Dictionary, I am not because "...but bisexual means you can be attracted to both genders sexually, physically, and emotionally." I am not emotionally and physically attracted to men, only women.

I've been attracted to cock from the age of 9 or 10. My first m2m sexual encounter was at age 10.

What's the verdict?

[acscomps]

I am exactly the same way

[thatcher29]

OK this comment should bring up some debate: I am attracted to cock; love sucking cock and cum. That's it. I'm not attracted to men; absolutely no desire to kiss, cuddle, do anal. I don't go all "ga-ga" over a handsome man (by anyone's definition), but I'll swoon should he flash his magnificent cock. Therefore, I don't consider myself to be truly bisexual. I have had some agree with me, while others vehemently disagree. According to Merriam-Webster, I'm bisexual because I am "sexually attracted" to both men and women. But according to the Urban Dictionary, I am not because "...but bisexual means you can be attracted to both genders sexually, physically, and emotionally." I am not emotionally and physically attracted to men, only women.
I've been attracted to cock from the age of 9 or 10. My first m2m sexual encounter was at age 10.

What's the verdict?

In this case, the Urban Dictionary is full of shit. Do I have to be in love with a man to suck his cock? I would change the quote to "...but bisexual means you can be attracted to both genders sexually, physically,OR emotionally."
Again, it's just labels, which are pretty much meaningless.

[Christopher South]

Both the Klein and Kinsey scales allow for heterosexual emotional attraction and homosexual sexual attraction to end up being bisexual. I plugged in emotional attraction as ONLY heterosexual and it still gave me a bisexual rating.

I've heard this from a lot of guys... absolutely NO emotional/romantic/physical(looks) attraction to guys yet still like sexual interaction with them. If I think about the guys I have been with I can't say any were handsome, very few were in real good shape and socially I wouldn't hang around with most due to differences in politics and outlook of life in general, but I loved their cocks.

[cuttin2dachase]

I think my adventurous nature and open attitude toward sex were the main reasons I explored my bi side. It helped that my 1st wife and I were swingers and she kept coaxing me and encouraging me to try oral sex with our bi male 3some partners. The first time I was ever naked with another man and felt a man's hands and mouth on my cock and then stroked and sucked his cock, I felt quite comfortable and very turned on. The truth is, I would have enjoyed it even if my hot slutwife had not been there to watch and join in. After we split up I was eager to explore my desires and fantasies about 1 on 1 sex and group sex with men and I've never regretted it !

[MorThan7]

I love women. I love to kiss, fondle and fuck them. I have a beautiful girlfriend that I am head over heals with. When we are intimate she will rub my cock a little to get it hard, pull off my underwear, then roll over so I can do the rest.

Last time I was with a guy he dropped to his knees when my cock was exposed. He wrapped his arms around and grabbed my ass while he sucked me like no tomorrow. After a little bit we changed position and I returned the favor. We went 69 for a while but he wanted to lay on his back with his head hanging of the bed while I fucked his throat. I reached over to stroke his cock and it exploded almost instantly. He would suck me for a while, then take a break and then suck some more. During the breaks he would just stare at my full erect dick that was saturated with his saliva and my pre-come.

Notice any difference in the two situations. I was married for 25 years and my wife never once commented about my dick. She liked what it could do but that was it. I catch my girlfriend checking it out on occasion but she never says anything. Every guy I have been with has worshiped my cock, as I worshiped his. I thought the last guy was going to stand up and salute it.

To me, there is your answer. If women could suck like men and would pay as much attention to my dick as I do their pussy, I probably wouldn't have any reason to be bi.

[Kysquire]

You said a mouthful there. Lots of us guys totally agree with you!



I love women. I love to kiss, fondle and fuck them. I have a beautiful girlfriend that I am head over heals with. When we are intimate she will rub my cock a little to get it hard, pull off my underwear, then roll over so I can do the rest.

Last time I was with a guy he dropped to his knees when my cock was exposed. He wrapped his arms around and grabbed my ass while he sucked me like no tomorrow. After a little bit we changed position and I returned the favor. We went 69 for a while but he wanted to lay on his back with his head hanging of the bed while I fucked his throat. I reached over to stroke his cock and it exploded almost instantly. He would suck me for a while, then take a break and then suck some more. During the breaks he would just stare at my full erect dick that was saturated with his saliva and my pre-come.

Notice any difference in the two situations. I was married for 25 years and my wife never once commented about my dick. She liked what it could do but that was it. I catch my girlfriend checking it out on occasion but she never says anything. Every guy I have been with has worshiped my cock, as I worshiped his. I thought the last guy was going to stand up and salute it.

To me, there is your answer. If women could suck like men and would pay as much attention to my dick as I do their pussy, I probably wouldn't have any reason to be bi.

[iamcontent]

IT is who you are.

[bw299]

"To me, there is your answer. If women could suck like men and would pay as much attention to my dick as I do their pussy, I probably wouldn't have any reason to be bi."

My wife loves my cock and loves sucking it; she can't get enough. Doesn't change anything about my desire for cock; sucking and swallowing.

[FredHosier]

I absolutely know what you mean. I don't fancy any guys on the street at all, but strip them off to only stockings and a garter belt or pantyhose, with me dressed similar, or lately getting turned on with the idea of both naked (less hair the better) wanting to wank and suck their cocks.

[thirstyfellow]

"What made you bi?"

With respect, I think it's the wrong question. Or at least kind of a meaningless one, unless we're swimming at the surface. I have the same reaction to most sexual "preference" designations, because they arose in a culture where for some reason we've attributed great significance to them. Only if the classification is really important do we take the effort to argue over it. I don't think it matters much at all.

We are sexual beings. We're born with a need or urge to reproduce. Our mechanism for that involves physical intermingling of our genitalia. We've evolved all sorts of good stuff to make that event more likely than less so. That means sex and sex play feels good to us. It means the pheromones we give off when we're aroused affect the people around us and they, or some of them, also get aroused. Our body chemistry has all kinds of chemical receptors and discharge features to spread the chemical messages that we are good candidates to fuck into the next century. It's how our bodies and minds work.

So male / female sex has an evolutionary basis. Sure, I've stated the obvious. But what is apparently a little less obvious is that our mechanisms of attraction are so powerful that they get triggered all the time. By images. By tactile sensations, by taste, by scent, by sound, by the chemistry of age, and by thought alone. It stands to reason that our sexual attractions are designed to be as expansive as practicable and not designed to be limited. That's an evolutionary response as well because the nature of it ensures that our DNA gets spread over a wider and not a narrower range of other people, places, times.

With these very wide ranging chemical and physical responses, all powerful as hell, there is a huge overlap between cisgender male and female mating in a manner that will actually join DNA, and mating of all kind that will implement or act out the physical and emotional urges created by our chemical and physical responses. That means we've evolved over the millennia to be promiscuous to the degree our body chemistry directs. Chemistry has no favorites. If you or I feel a strong sexual attraction to a person of the same physical sex - cisgender or otherwise, we have that attraction irrespective of the label we place on it. And we will, or we probably should if we intend to stay sane, mate or engage in sexual play with that person if we can.

So the answer to "what made you gay" or "what made you bi" or "what made you straight" is in our essential body makeup. I believe we are all gay. We are all straight. We are all bisexual. None of these labels matter beyond their own exceedingly narrow self definitions. Our sexual attractions will certainly be shaped by experiences we've had during our lives, for better or worse. But those experiences affect our basic polyamorous natures to result in the attractions we have developed. I think that's why many people feel that they've been "this way" all their lives. I think it's also consistent with the developing changes in a person's sense of attraction over the course of a lifetime (I'm probably an example of that, from straight /fearful, to straight / accepting, to straight / bicurious, to bicurious lacking only experience). It makes perfect sense to me. We are sexual; life tosses experiences at us which can shape what is done with that sexual nature. No labels needed.

[Bear816]

What caused me to become bi? It was pressure from my wife! After months and months she finally confessed to me that she loved watching guy-on-guy action. She took me to the computer and showed me all the videos that she had downloaded. She started playing them while I watched. After a couple of seconds I could see how turned on she was getting. Well, her getting turned on got me turned on. We immediately got naked and had sex. After we were done she looks at me and said "I'd love to see you having sex with a guy". Well, that got me curious about it. A few days later she brought it up again and we talked about it. This went on a few more times until one day I told her I would do it. She was shocked to say the least. She set it up and 2 days later there was a knock at the door. She opened the door and let him in. We went to the bedroom and got naked. Before I knew it our tongues were flying, we were rubbing each other all over and the we had our cocks in each others mouth. I could see her watching us while she was working her clit. We climaxed hard which sent her over the edge and she climaxed so loud I think they heard her in the next county! And that's how life has been since that hot steamy day!

[sinanju69]

I have always found both men and women attractive. My first sexual experiences were with guys and this included looking at each others butts and doing oral on each other. High school and early college was all about sex with women. A threesome experience presented itself and I was aware that attraction and arousal is simply that and if someone of the same sex and of the opposite sex both do it for you then there you go. All of my experiences with men (other than the early play) has been in threesome and group situations.

Rob

[BiGuyInHouston]

I find both men & women attractive. Made me Bi? Easy the feel and taste of an older man's hard cock when I was young.

[a2smith09]

I think I was born that way. I've always been insatiately sexually curious, kinky, extremely curious, like to try out new things, attracted to both sexes, find both the male nude body and female nude body sexually stimulating and always have been fascinated with and loved playing with erect male character cocks and balls. I love having sex with both males and females and always have.

[csreef]

You are extremely lucky to have a wife who is so sexually open and adventurous.


What caused me to become bi? It was pressure from my wife! After months and months she finally confessed to me that she loved watching guy-on-guy action. She took me to the computer and showed me all the videos that she had downloaded. She started playing them while I watched. After a couple of seconds I could see how turned on she was getting. Well, her getting turned on got me turned on. We immediately got naked and had sex. After we were done she looks at me and said "I'd love to see you having sex with a guy". Well, that got me curious about it. A few days later she brought it up again and we talked about it. This went on a few more times until one day I told her I would do it. She was shocked to say the least. She set it up and 2 days later there was a knock at the door. She opened the door and let him in. We went to the bedroom and got naked. Before I knew it our tongues were flying, we were rubbing each other all over and the we had our cocks in each others mouth. I could see her watching us while she was working her clit. We climaxed hard which sent her over the edge and she climaxed so loud I think they heard her in the next county! And that's how life has been since that hot steamy day!

[csreef]

The other side to that coin is , your wife is going to have your lover as her sex partner...I hope you don't get jealous...

[sysper]

The other side to that coin is , your wife is going to have your lover as her sex partner...I hope you don't get jealous...then again it turns out some guys actually like this so it's bonus :)

[nashs.bath]

I think it's just a matter of what turns you on sexually and being honest with yourself about your desires. A girl with a nice ass gets me hard,but boobs don't really entice me. The idea of sucking a hard cock turns me on but fucking a guy doesn't really do it for me as much as if it's a woman. Same thing with kissing. The right guy fucking me is making me hard just typing but I have to be hot for him not just his cock. I don't think anything caused me to become Bi, I've just always found the idea of trying to make people climax really hot.

[asdfdsf]

I guess what drove me into the other sex was not being able to have sex with a girl. I mean, the first time when I started to feel attracted to both men and women I'd been masturbating for like 6-7 years and I wanted to have some sexual experience. Anal masturbation and feeling something for men did feel much more real since I can put up things in my ass and feel like a woman having real sex.

Also I really liked the look of big cocks long before I realized that I was bi. Aren't they so beautiful?

[smokey]

For a number of reasons when I was in jr high and well into high school I was a regular target for the jocks and bullies for supposedly being gay. How they came to this conclusion is beyond me since being from a very sheltering home I had little to no sexual contact until after I graduated. They would stalk me and when they got the chance, beat me to a pulp... sometimes on a daily basis. I remember swearing through my tears that I would not grow up to be like them. Consequently I am a very open minded and tolerant person. Mind you all of this was happening in the late 60s and early 70s. When I went into the Coast Guard I was stationed in what was even then a very gay friendly city, Portland, Maine. I had sex with several women by then and knew I throughly enjoyed what we did... but still old doubts nagged at me. What if I was gay? So one night I went to an adult theater and let a guy pick me up. I told him I'd never been with a man and he said he understood. We only had sex once but he was a good (and well hung) teacher. We did it all. Blowjobs, rimming, fingering and fucking. He would suggest something then do it do me and then I returned the favor. When he came in my ass I was so contented with myself I was all but purring and preening myself. I was at a quandary. I throughly enjoyed sex with both men and women. A friend explained bisexual to me and I decided that was what I was so not seeing any harm in it, I indulged myself, probably to excess... if I was single. If I was dating someone, I never cheated or involved them in any way in my sex with men... but if I was unattached I played the field up until I met my late wife. I have had several hundred sexual partners of both sexes and I am damned lucky. All I ever caught was a case of clap... once. So I became bisexual because I was curious and didn't see any harm in my behaviour.

[jimisbi]

Nothing caused me to be bisexual. I was born this way.

[jem_is_bi]

I was probably born to be homosexual. But, by the time I was in high school I was bisexual.

[Chazman55]

I like to play with other people's cocks!!

[69luvr]

I had been visiting some LGBT forums and there's almost as many different theories about what causes gay people as there are gay people. Hormones, experiences as a fetus, relationship with parents, imprinting, DNA, etc. etc. etc. So I started thinking about my own situation. I'm 68 years old and comfortable as a mature bisexual male. The easy answer for me might be that it's because my brother and I enjoyed masturbating ourselves and each other when we were teenagers. But that seems a bit simplistic since a whole lot of kids participate in those sort of activities and if they all became practicing bisexuals when they got older, then this site would be a lot more crowded. The youthful fooling around might have introduced me, and it certainly let me know that M2M sex was enjoyable, but there has to be something more. Lately, I have begun to believe that my bisexual lifestyle comes from having a very curious personality. I'm the sort of person who has always wanted to try different things. Growing up, I was always reading books, particularly about things i knew nothing about. Back in the 60's and 70's, I experimented with drugs. I never did a lot of any type for very long but I did try most of them. I've traveled to at least 50 different countries all over the world. Even though I'm an atheist, I combed through various religions and their texts. So I think that's my personal reason--always wanting to try new things, feel new sensations, and have new adventures. So what about you? Why do you think it is that you are a bisexual?
WHO CARES! I just know I luv cock.....

[Biintraining]

At one time I thought that was going to happen. In the end she became an ex wife. Still looking though.

[xxxcjs]

I haven't had any experience yet but this is exactly my feelings on the subject

[HaroldSaxon]

I would like to think that I was born this way but some abuse in my youth may have had an effect.

[softfruit]

"What do you think caused you to become bisexual?"

You're born this, that or the other. So: I was just damn lucky is all.

[Bi_Dave]

What caused me to become bisexual was cock. I loved sucking cock from the first and still do.


Absolutely!

[Bi_Dave]

That's me tp a Tee!

[gymboy]

I think we all have attractions for both sexes. I think women are more open to it then men because of our so called "roles."

[PR24sguare]

For me was my wife's lack of being sexual and it made me think. I love oral and sucking clit so made me think we'll I can suck better than some girls do and we'll I'm hear and don't have a lot of experience since I only had my first experience two years ago. All experience have been with married friends.

[PR24sguare]

I agree men are more likely to hold in because of status and jobs

[Joboo]

A skinny guy with a nice thick cock. His was bigger than mine and at 18 I became fascinated with it. I loved playing with it, stroking it and sucking on it. I liked how it felt hard and soft in my mouth at the same time. I loved how I could feel it stiffen even harder and lengthen by a half inch or so as he began to climax in my mouth or on me as I jerked him. I loved seeing his face and hearing him moan as he came. After a while I discovered leaving it alone and not touching it for a couple of minutes after he came and them gently sucking his gland as he squirmed and shuddered begging me to stop. After a few times he was able to contain himself and then I could make him cum again just minutes after shooting a huge load.
Although when I was 16, two years prior to sucking my first dick (and only) a forty something guy I worked for one summer made a pass at me in his office after hours. He set me up. He gave me a couple of bourbon and cokes and started showing me porn mags. This was early 70's and I wasn't familiar with the magazines, not playboy or penthouse. Full frontal with men and women, penetration pictures and all. At one point he said this guy in there reminded him of me. Never caught on till he said that. I went to leave and he began begging me to stay. Stay and just let him see me. Let me see you so I can jerk off after you leave. He was actually on his knees. I started to unbuckle and he hurriedly help me. In a moment he was sucking me. I was hard in a second. I maybe lasted two minutes as it tried to hold back because it felt unbelievable. Ten times better than the 3-4 girls that had sucked on me. I had never come in anyone's mouth, never even close with the girls. I came so hard in his mouth I didn't realize I was holding his face. I came so much he couldn't hold it all, it was dripping all over. As I went to pull my pants up he stood and he had a huge buldge in his dress slacks. I remember thinking I wanted to see it and was thinking of reaching to feel him. Then he kind of ruined by saying he thought my dick would be larger. My heart sank hearing that. He kind of backed it off saying I had really nice large balls and then he said it again. " but you have a pretty small dick". I would have at least jerked him off if he hadn't said that, I probably would have sucked it. If he had pulled it out before I left I know now if it was as big as it looked in his pants I would have.

[softheart]

I remember when I was a little tyke and like most little boys I wanted to peek at my dad's cock. He caught me and didn't mind after all that's what kids do. Giving me fatherly advice, he said "Sucking another man's cock is down right disgusting".

I was thinking, "Really? It doesn't seem so disgusting to me."

After I got out of the Army, I found me a boyfriend and enjoyed every mile of it!

[Tight1-4u]

I had been visiting some LGBT forums and there's almost as many different theories about what causes gay people as there are gay people. Hormones, experiences as a fetus, relationship with parents, imprinting, DNA, etc. etc. etc. So I started thinking about my own situation. I'm 68 years old and comfortable as a mature bisexual male. The easy answer for me might be that it's because my brother and I enjoyed masturbating ourselves and each other when we were teenagers. But that seems a bit simplistic since a whole lot of kids participate in those sort of activities and if they all became practicing bisexuals when they got older, then this site would be a lot more crowded. The youthful fooling around might have introduced me, and it certainly let me know that M2M sex was enjoyable, but there has to be something more. Lately, I have begun to believe that my bisexual lifestyle comes from having a very curious personality. I'm the sort of person who has always wanted to try different things. Growing up, I was always reading books, particularly about things i knew nothing about. Back in the 60's and 70's, I experimented with drugs. I never did a lot of any type for very long but I did try most of them. I've traveled to at least 50 different countries all over the world. Even though I'm an atheist, I combed through various religions and their texts. So I think that's my personal reason--always wanting to try new things, feel new sensations, and have new adventures. So what about you? Why do you think it is that you are a bisexual?

For me I don’t like the term bi!! There is straight and gay.. bi would be right in the middle 50/50 straight and gay.. we all know that each and every one of us are different.. more or less of each of them.. I lean more toward the percentage range.. I can tell you I am 75% gay and 25 % straight.. it allows each the freedom to be what they are.. I would have to say that I had always wondered.. it was t until I actually had the expierance that I knew..

[cfr50s]

I was brought up to not be prejudice against anyone for any reason and additionally to never look down on anyone unless I was helping them up. At some point when I was young someone said, Don't knock it until you have tried it. I thought that was a worthy manner to live. With that I was willing to experiment and learn. First same sex encounter left me with mixed emotions for a day or so. I did enjoy it and so I figured anything that gives you pleasure can't be all that wrong. I tried a straight marriage but that left something missing. I finally married a bisexual woman who was comfortable with her sexuality and mine. Our motto became, The couple that plays together stays together. We had a totally open line of communication and that is the most important point when married. No lies and no secrets. We lived it our way. We lost some friends and became closer with some. No one thing made me decide I prefer being bi. It was all things that I encountered that agreed with me. I couldn't live a lie.

[BigAlNYC]

I don't think any outside factor "caused" me to be bi. I think I was always this way. As far back as I can remember thinking about sex, I thought about acts with both women and men. I definitely tend quite a bit more to the hetero side though. So, I will have my head turned while looking at women all the time, but almost never by men, and I have been in long-term relationships with women but never more than an affectionate regular sex thing with a man. But I fantasize about both, and there are definitely times when only sex with a man will do, during which I feel very intensely sexual about other men. And, of course, there are also times when one just feels incredibly horny in general, and sexual activity with men is just easier to come by quickly.

But I have been this way all of my now rather long life, and, other than my experience level and comfort, it doesn't seem to have changed much at all over the years.

[ncbymail]

I am never sure if I'm Bi or if I just like sex so much that either sex can turn me on. I know I don't have more feelings for men than women. When I'm out I don't see men and think I'd like to have sex with him but always see women I'd like to.
I do know that not enough sex with my wife got me looking for ways to be satisfied. I was with a few women and felt like it was too emotional and could be more likely to blow up into really negative consequences. After that it went to getting BJs from men, to giving, to sex with men. And of course enjoying the sex with men, especially the taboo/kinky feel of what I was doing.
I don't think very much about whether or not I'm Bi. I am concerned with being satisfied sexually.

[Shelby57]

I don't think anything "caused" me to become bisexual. I spent several years with a very good counselor dealing with lots of stuff during and after my divorce. What I ultimately discovered is that we are all normal. Things like sexuality and gender are not binary. They come in all shapes and sizes. A lot of what determines the gender or sexuality we outwardly display is our fucked up cultural 'norms.' Especially in America, we have this puritanical undercurrent in our society that tells us we have to be a certain way and will be damned for all eternity if we don't fall in line. In the end(pun intended), it's just sexual pleasure and I really don't believe that God or god or gods really care whom we enjoy it with. He/she/they just want us to be good people and be nice to other people and what better way to be nice to someone else than sucking their cock or eating their pussy or letting them fuck you in the ass?

[Odge1]

I think it just my love of sex. It seems to be easier to find a male that's interested in having sex than females. They make things so complicated. Guys seem to just want to get off. Fill the need and leave then wait until next time. The penis is a beautiful thing. I love my penis and love to look at others. I also love pussy. I love breasts. I love a nice plump Ass. Then women's emotions get everything fucked up.

[sysper]

I was brought up to not be prejudice against anyone for any reason and additionally to never look down on anyone unless I was helping them up. At some point when I was young someone said, Don't knock it until you have tried it. I thought that was a worthy manner to live. With that I was willing to experiment and learn. First same sex encounter left me with mixed emotions for a day or so. I did enjoy it and so I figured anything that gives you pleasure can't be all that wrong. I tried a straight marriage but that left something missing. I finally married a bisexual woman who was comfortable with her sexuality and mine. Our motto became, The couple that plays together stays together. We had a totally open line of communication and that is the most important point when married. No lies and no secrets. We lived it our way. We lost some friends and became closer with some. No one thing made me decide I prefer being bi. It was all things that I encountered that agreed with me. I couldn't live a lie.


I don't think any outside factor "caused" me to be bi. I think I was always this way. As far back as I can remember thinking about sex, I thought about acts with both women and men. I definitely tend quite a bit more to the hetero side though. So, I will have my head turned while looking at women all the time, but almost never by men, and I have been in long-term relationships with women but never more than an affectionate regular sex thing with a man. But I fantasize about both, and there are definitely times when only sex with a man will do, during which I feel very intensely sexual about other men. And, of course, there are also times when one just feels incredibly horny in general, and sexual activity with men is just easier to come by quickly.

But I have been this way all of my now rather long life, and, other than my experience level and comfort, it doesn't seem to have changed much at all over the years.
i kinda think how u guys think about bisxuality. a part of me has allways wanted to explore & question things not just sexually. though considering doing it with another guy took awhile for me. never really even considered it or turned on by it untill my early 20's. at least i know it's allowed as long as another guy allows it :) i wasn't really brought up not to be prejudice but fortunately i figured that out. i also don't checkout men it doesn't interest me. women on the other hand :) i don't want anymore than to be fwb with a guy but i can't deny i got some kinda attraction to guys. i also have my times when all i got on my mind is guys & i know that's fine. would be nice for me to have a wife/gf who was bi or understood what it's like to have attraction to both sexes. i wouldn't necessarily be interested in acting on anything outside of the relationship but its still a part of me & it would make things easier to understand it.

[sysper]

I don't think anything "caused" me to become bisexual. I spent several years with a very good counselor dealing with lots of stuff during and after my divorce. What I ultimately discovered is that we are all normal. Things like sexuality and gender are not binary. They come in all shapes and sizes. A lot of what determines the gender or sexuality we outwardly display is our fucked up cultural 'norms.' Especially in America, we have this puritanical undercurrent in our society that tells us we have to be a certain way and will be damned for all eternity if we don't fall in line. In the end(pun intended), it's just sexual pleasure and I really don't believe that God or god or gods really care whom we enjoy it with. He/she/they just want us to be good people and be nice to other people and what better way to be nice to someone else than sucking their cock or eating their pussy or letting them fuck you in the ass?sex is such a great way to do something nice for the right people! :bigrin::oh:

[sysper]

I think it just my love of sex. It seems to be easier to find a male that's interested in having sex than females. They make things so complicated. Guys seem to just want to get off. Fill the need and leave then wait until next time. The penis is a beautiful thing. I love my penis and love to look at others. I also love pussy. I love breasts. I love a nice plump Ass. Then women's emotions get everything fucked up.
i agree it's easier overall to have sex with the same sex or at least it applies to guys. i'd still much rather be with women. i think thy are definately worth the effort. problem is, i don't know women good enough to be very successfull with them.

[bicuriousnewexp79]

Not sure how to begin a new topic or thread in the forums so I figured i would piggyback off this one. Ok so a little about me. I am a 38 year old bicurious male that has had a longtime fantasy of bottoming with another man. I secretly watch bi mmf videos often and enjoy them alot. There are several things that not only do I fantasize about but actually imagine happening as I play with myself. I have attempted trying to play with another man once. I was so nervous and the fact that he had a scruffy beard I couldnt get hard. Not to mention I believe he wanted to do what I want and that is a full bottom experience in the middle of a mmf threesome not to mention I really would like to have a woman who not only is actively envolved but enjoys and if it goes well may even order me to do certain things. So anyway away from rambling...Here is my issue...I am married..been married for near 10 years and together for 12. I love her to death and I will be the first to admit I thoroughly enjoy our what I will call FUN TIME. She is very good in bed and boy I enjoy a good pair of breasts and the feeling of being in a woman. So I finally came out to her a few years ago about being bicurious. Over the years I have told naughty stories here and there about us having a threesome. Some just a normal straight mfm and sometimes when I feel brave enough I have a straight mfm turn into a full on bi experience. We tried taking steps into having a threesome with a friend of mine (who is also self admitly bisexual and has had not only bi threesomes but also even a few man on man enounters. The first time the three of us were in the living room in the dark and were talking about me and my wife wanting to try a threesome for real and one thing led to another they had sex but through miscommunication and misunderstanding it ended there. I didnt act fast enough and only ended up watching them have sex lol. He came really fast and she thought he was done but wasnt..Anyway so it was a bust although after she got a little emotional being her first time being with another man while I watched which made her feel bad it really spiced things up..We were like rabbits like when we first met. Now that has long tapered off but I still continue telling naughty stories about having a mmf with her and him and have actually been sharing my bi fantasies more then I used to during our fun time. After that she at one point even gave me permission to try a one on one with a guy as she doesnt see as it as cheating and even told me that i could have a bi mmf with the same friend and his now exwife because she was her friend and trusted it was all about the experience. Now here is the thing she has shown interest and has said she would be willing to help me experience my fantasies. Now yes they are my fantasies but really my pleasure would be pleasuring and making them both cum then and only then allow myself to cum. But everytime we attemp to set it up it goes bust. Yes sometimes its his fault but when its ours it seems like a mutual chicken out thing lol. So here is what I want advice on. One what can I do to make sure she is fully comfortable do this and if she is then any tips on how to get the ball rolling..I have some ideas which I use in my stories on how it would start..Now on the other hand if it turns out she doesnt really want to do it and is just playing along for my sake what should I do. I have some opions some of which are probably bad some I am afraid I would chicken out. I really want to experience it once and here are my opions if it turns out she doesnt think she can go through with a bi threesome.
First I figured I could set up a regular threesome with her and our bi friend again making sure to get physically involved right away then as the fun continues and things begin getting really hot start doing some of the things that I want to try a little bit and see if one she enjoys it and 2 gets into it for instance 69ing with her with me on the bottom as he does her doggy style which I would then occasionally pull him out of her and suck on him then guide him back in her and continue going down on her and try to judge her comfort level before trying more things that are a little bit more well out there.
Second I thought of having him come over with the knowledge that I was going to attemp a bi threesome and as we are sitting there just sporatically getting on my knees and going down on him sunddenly in front of her and judge her reaction. My concern here is that she would disgust her to the point where it would fully destroy our already strained sex life. Thoughts...but remember she has told me she would be willing to give it a try.
Third just give up on my quest to get the real experience and go back to imagining fantasizing and watching videos alone while self soothing and maybe occationally use a toy to get some of the experience.
Fourth continue telling the stories until she caves and changes her mind lol
Fifth and could be the worst choice depending on one thing. That would be to say screw it and accept that our sex life is dying and accepting an invitation which he has offered several times and continues to join him and his new girl who isnt bothered and actually gets into bi mmf threesomes and get the experience armed with the fact that she has given me permission to have a one on one with him but the fear that she didnt give me permission to have her involved fully and would most likely view it as cheating if she found out and probably leave me. Bonus if i go with this is not only do i get the experience but I get it with someone I know and the fact she has seen a pic of my cock and likes it (supposedly lol) and well she is pretty hot lol. The negative is I would have to probably keep it secret and hope she doesnt find out and if she did then she would drop me like a rock. Like i said this ones the worst one. Only reason I have thought of this is because well we seem to me to have become more and more distant and even after sharing several times that I was unhappy with the lack of sex and felt like she was starting to loose romantic feelings for me.
Sixth I could let them hook up while I watched and then when they finished I could do what I could with him as she watched . This could turn out good or bad for a couple reasons..It could go good if she began to get turned on watching then join in and then we could have the whole experience and do all the things I have fantasized and then shared with her in story form. Could go bad if she goes the other direction and gets disgusted and either walks away leaving me in an unsure position or worse so disgusted it finishes off our sex life entirely and she begins seeing me more as a gay man which I am not. I understand there is alot here but I am really wanting a real experience and want her envolved to whatever extent she is willing to be envolved in without wrecking our already shrinking romantic bedroom life.
I am willing to share in detail the fantasies I have if it would help get me some good suggestions, advice and or tips on what I should do. Keep in mind the one time we tried which ended up being them two doing their thing and me watching did lead to a huge jump in our sex life which did last for quite a while and she has claimed she would be up for and even said interested in and turned on by the idea but always goes bust once the plan is set.

[hung4you]

I can say with out doubt that us older guys who have been married for many years seek other ways of sexual satisfaction. My sexual buddies and I all agree that it gets boring fucking the same pussy all these yrs. Honestly, the best head I have ever gotten has been from a guy, I have been told that I m a good cock sucker. A good example of this is my frequent friend needs Viagra to get stiff enough to fuck his wife, no medications n needed for a evening with my ass. I think it’s our natural journey as humans to explore our sexuality.

[bicuriousnewexp79]

So I already posted a lengthly post just a bit ago but I do have a question. So I consider myself to be bicurious. I have never had a real experience aside from on that went bust Im assuming due to nervousness and the fact that he had scruff when he went to orally have fun with me and well the scruff was uncomfortable to the point that it prevented me from well to be honest getting hard. Now after sharing this I do enjoy fantasizing, thinking about, and story telling about the different things I would like to try and get worked up and excited everytime. I also enjoy a good video from bi to man on man on occasion. Now considering I have never had a successful encounter in which I experienced everything I enjoy fantasizing about is Bi Curious the correct term? and if not does the fact that I actively would love to make my fantasy come true enough to use that term successfully?

[SilkyHoseLover]

Relax and don't worry about definitions and labels.

IMO, however, you're pretty much the textbook definition of 'bicurious'. You fantasize and enjoy discussions about M-M sexual activity, occasionally enjoy bisexual erotic videos and can easily imagine allowing yourself to experiment with another man.

I'm more confused by guys who have had some experience with other males and continue to consider themselves bicurious. I was only curious until I took the first step. I didn't do 'everything' right away -- but there was no more curiosity. I knew that I was open to more and I looked forward to broadening my range of experience.

[Joboo]

I feel much the same.

[Fzmr9t]

Curiosity. Well into my 40s, and the internet was still new and open (thank you, Al Gore LOL), I started searching the net for any and
All sites sexual. Gay sites really interested me and I started watching gay movies and lurking in gay chat rooms I finally took the ‘plunge’ one time and started chatting with a guy, who said he was also gay curious. We met, and the rest as they say, is history

[ohbimale]

I have always been bisexual since puberty. My sexual fantasies have always involved both genders. My sexual relationships have been with both genders, 80% same gender and 20% opposite gender.

[foundpuppy]

Just as I developed tastes for different foods and different experiences, i developed a taste for both men and women. I love the scent, softness and taste of a clean vagina and I also love the hardness of a good clean cock and the feeling of said cock throbbing in my mouth. Trying to understand why is like trying to understand why I like fried chicken. I like it cause it’s good, just like pussy and cock.

[Bluehill]

My first sexual experience was with another guy, however I never felt it ruled out having sex with women and it hasn't!

i guess the other reason is that casual no strings sex is more readily available with guys rather than girls!

[Luvpanties]

My college girlfriend was so hot ... she had a great body and looked amazing when she'd strut around in her fuck-me heels and panties. When she sucked my cock, she'd stop and kiss me so I could taste my dick on her breath. She worked nights sometimes and I would slip on a panty and luxuriate in her soft, fragrant sheets before falling asleep.

I think that's where the seed was planted for me ... I wanted to be her and excite and pleasure men the way she did.

[DJCRT]

I've always been turned on by a naked body and having the chance to play with someone has always been what I'm into!