Curious to try...

[curious_m_18]

Hi All,

Long time reader, but i think this might be my first official post.

A little background... I began to have bi thoughts / interests soon after finishing high school, around when I turned 18. Had no experience or interest in guys in general, but just the idea of playing with men and women was really interesting and a big turn on.
I have watched my fair share of straight, bi and gay porn and liked it all and like many my feelings come and go at times.

Recently I have been in a long term relationship with a woman and it has just ended which has obviously caused me some pain. I had open conversations with her about my potential bisexual side and although she was limited in what she was willing to do she was never against it or ruled out fulfilling fantasies of mine (and hers).

So where I am at the moment is an opportunity to 'play around' but I am really after some advice. I am scared of being in such a vulnerable state with someone who I may not trust and more so scared of the health risks involved with 'playing around'.

Any help, advice, thoughts etc would be very much appreciated. I am keen to explore, but I want to be safe and make sure its an enjoyable experience.

[Chris98-12]

Well, maybe not a lot of advice, but here is a description of my first time. I hope sharing it will at least give you some perspective and something nice to think about!
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My first time to be with another man? A bit nervous…lots of excitement…oh, and anticipation…LOTS of anticipation…

The first time I was ever with another guy was not until I was about 38 or so. I am 48 now. I had thought about being with another man when I was in junior high, but it didn’t happen until after I was grown up, married, and had two daughters. Not sure why it took me so long to get there, but I am REALLY glad I tried it. And I tried it more than once!

So…being married at the time and a father and all…probably not the best time to try it…but like I said, I am very glad I did…

I had played in m4m chat rooms on AOL for a few years before it actually happened. The curiosity drove me kinda crazy, and I finally gave in. My first wife was away for the weekend and I had my chance. I approached it from the start as a “one night stand”. I just wanted to try it with someone close by, someone who just seemed like the right person at the time. I don’t remember that many details of how I chose him, but I sure remember the details from the time he arrived at my place.

In the chat room he told me that he was straight, but that he liked to have a guy suck him off sometimes. So I went for it. I don't know if he was telling the truth about that but I really didn't care. I believe we spoke on the phone for a bit but I can’t be certain. Once he came to my place I invited him in and we made some small talk for a little while. Then he asked me, “So, do you want to go for it?” I said yes and he stood up and slipped off his jeans. He was wearing boxers underneath and I remember seeing his penis start to bulge through them.

I immediately kneeled in front of him and pulled his boxers down. His dick slipped out and it was already mostly hard. It was not huge, but it was a good size, and it was hard…and it was RIGHT in front of me. I thought…wow so this is it…I finally have a chance to do this. I took him in my hands, looked at the tip of his dick, and saw the precum there, starting to drip. I slipped my tongue and lips over the head, tasted that wonderful sweet flavor, and then smelled that musky smell that drives me crazy.

Oh my God, what a combination of sensations. I knew from the minute I started that I was going to enjoy all of this. Thinking back now it seems a bit odd to me, perhaps, that I immediately felt at home kneeling in front of him. Perhaps it was because I was so familiar with having a penis myself, and the fact that I had thought about doing exactly this for so long.

I honestly don’t remember the several minutes that passed while I was first sucking his cock, but it all felt great, tasted great, smelled great.
At some point I ended up on the floor on my back, with him kind of in the “push up” position over me, with his dick in my mouth. He was fucking my mouth slowly, and I was enjoying it all. His movements became more intense, I think I even heard him groaning some…

Then he stopped.

He said “I am going to cum”. And he held his dick away from my mouth, expecting me to do something different I suppose, in case I didn’t want to go any further. But I told him, stick it back in…

So he did. And he continued fucking my mouth until he came. I remember thinking there was no way I was going to stop now. I had come this far after so long, the ending was inevitable to me. I wanted him to fill my mouth. I recall the warm wetness of his cum as he filled my mouth. I recall the wonderful flavor, a bit different from mine, but so very cool for the fact that it was from his dick, another man’s dick. He continued pumping until he finished, then he pulled out.

We didn’t talk much after that. I smiled and said it was wonderful. I think he told me I was pretty good at it and he thanked me. He dressed and I showed him to the door and let him out. I told him thanks for coming (appropriate huh?) and he left. We never saw each other, nor spoke, again.

But the act, the excitement I felt, the first taste of cum from another man, will always stay with me as a great memory…

[curious_m_18]

Nice story :) Good to see it was such a positive experience for you! :)

Keen to get any other thoughts, advice etc on how to make sure I am safe and any past experiences that allowed you to go through with it.

I really do appreciate the support

[Realist]

I've never had gratifying sex with a male, who wasn't well-known to me and we'd developed a trusting relationship, first.

I actually prefer to have a romantic connection, rather than strictly sexual involvement. Regardless, my longest mm relationship was with a fellow who wanted to maintain a less-than-romantic connection....friends with benefits. I knew him for 6 years before we became intimate. After our initial contact, we were together for a little over 10 years!

Most guys won't wait while I'm planning and considering the different criteria, so I had many aborted relationships.....most got tired of me getting my security and emotional issues in order, before I'd get down to business.

But, by being so selective and insistent that certain perimeters are met, when a relationship developed, they have mostly been rewarding and fulfilling. Since my first sexual encounter (soon after my 14th birthday) I have experienced 9 m/m LTRs. (I am now 70)

For some men and a few ladies, the focus is totally on sex and/or the gentiles. But for me it's the person, character, mutual interests, and attractions..........both sexual and personal.